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Re: Am I Really A Bad Son? by Nobody: 1:05am On Nov 15, 2016 |
austinosita:Thank you ......maybe but then sometimes trying to know someone might not be a good idea |
Re: Am I Really A Bad Son? by Charlesdock(m): 1:11am On Nov 15, 2016 |
FriedYam:Bro we have things in common. Failed English in 2014. All my friends gain admission even those with JAMB scores below mine. I tried neco/gce that year but had F9 parallel (All my life I have only heard about such thing). I was devastated and told my mum I don't want to go to school ever again, but she and my younger bro encouraged me coupled with few family friends. 2015 passed again with another JAMB score wasted because the neco/gce was a failure. 2016 came and I changed course but my own dad now see me as an unserious son who want to do Agric being the first son. He didn't even give me the money to obtain a college's form when I failed UI modality test, my mom and a family friend helped me out. I was almost raped around 7 years old by a neigbour but I escaped but the deed has been done. I became sensitive with anything sex but I haven't done it. You just have to keep your head high and try and build up on your talents too (they are helping out now. When I feel down I just grab a pen and start writing). You have to tell your dad straight what you want to do in your life and also tell them about how you feel. It can be frustrating walking the world alone, I have walk that line (still stubble into that way sometimes) but it is very bad. Try and look on the bright side of yourself and live! 1 Like |
Re: Am I Really A Bad Son? by bummyla(m): 1:13am On Nov 15, 2016 |
You Are Not A Bad Son! You Are Simply Misunderstood! Welcome to my world! First! From My Experience! Your Parents are taking their frustrations out on you which is very bad! Secondly! I Wish I Could Tell you! It would mean me asking you to rebel against your parents; but Igbos have a proverb that says[b]"When A Child Starts Looking Out For hImself, People Call Him An Outcast"[/b] Thirdly, Buy A Good Earpiece! Carefully select your choice music, whenever you are about to lose your mind or your cool! Put it on! Music therapy is the Bomb. Fourthly, Wake your parents up by 2am like I did (They won't hesitant to wake you up with slaps at that time if they wish). Be bold wake them up. Ask them to tell you to your face If THEY WISH YOU WERE NOT THEIR SON, BECAUSE YOU ARE SICK AND TIRED OF BEEN LABELLED, COMPARED WITH, AND UNAPPRECIATED! Boy! This Bravery bought me some years of peace and quietness at home. My Mum Once made life horrible for me by always comparing to a certain young man, who was a son of her colleague at work, one day I couldn't stomach it any longer, I asked her to fixed a date for me with this Angel of a young man who she was frustrating my whole life with his tales, only for me to get to the venue of the meeting early enough to found out the Angel was FUCKING - The DEADLIEST CULTIST at ESUT [/b]at that time. I Screamed And Told her if I die she was the one that killed me. I Confronted the boy's mum in front of my Mum [b]"Who Is FUCKING! So, Your Good Son Is FUCKING - The DEADLIEST CULTIST In Enugu! My God! I Am Finished". His Mum couldn't deny it. My mum turned pale. I told her if I get killed I wouldn't forgive her at all! Bros! That put an end to such rubbish! http://www.bummyla.com |
Re: Am I Really A Bad Son? by Charlesdock(m): 1:19am On Nov 15, 2016 |
FriedYam:Mehn exactly what I want to do. But my dad thought it rubbish trying to study an agricultural course. I was brought up by my mum and her encouragement coupled with that of my elder sister and younger bro keep me moving. I have the dream of building an agriculture empire, publish my books and build a game too. Life isn't fair, it a bitch who want spanking. |
Re: Am I Really A Bad Son? by lobiologs(m): 1:22am On Nov 15, 2016 |
Dude this is life for you, and you can either chicken out or face it like a man. Trust me you are not the only one who has gone through parental abuse (constructive criticism as they call it) and also contemplated suicide, trust me I almost went all the way through with it once. If you get scolded, don't fight back if that's only going to get you beaten (arguing with your dad who is a karate guru won't just help), just let him talk and just reply with "I'm sorry sir" (trust me, it works) and as per your mum, mehn no one can love you like your mum, no matter how she acts right now she loves you, if you think i'm lying, next time you fall ill, check her reactions. But one thing I would like you to do is focus on you, through it all it is still your life, whatever plans you have for the future, just let it be inside you until y are ready (meaning you have all you need to start) and I think the 1st thing and most important thing right now for you is to get admitted into a uni, that's where the change really starts from, at least it did for me... 1 Like |
Re: Am I Really A Bad Son? by Ilekokonit: 2:35am On Nov 15, 2016 |
FriedYam: Quickly realise that your parents will not allow you to do any other course apart from Law. That's unfortunate but the truth. You can always change course or direction once you are in the Uni as your parents will have more respect for you then and will start treating you like an adult especially if you don't come home too often once you are at Uni. So, for now whilst you are under their roof, try to :- 1. Come back indoors early so your parents are not wondering where you are 2. Don't bring any friends home for now to avoid your parents embarassing them. 3. Keep your hands clean and do your best to avoid doing ANYTHING that will make your parents say "we always knew you were a bad child" 4. Get more active at your place of worship to give you a sense of calm 5. If you haven't done so yet, try to pass your maths o/level exam 6. Avoid booking your future exams at centre's where expo is rife 7. Buy all Jamb past questions and answers for your subjects from the past 15 years at least and go through them OVER and OVER AGAIN !!! 8. Go through number 7 dilligently over and over again 9. Set yourself a target of gaining Uni admission at the next Jamb exam 10. Avoid booking your Jamb exam at centre's where expo is rife (to avoid seizure of your result) 11.Repeat number 8 as many times as possible up until exam date 12. Sleep early so that you get at least 8 hours sleep daily to freshen your brain 13. Come to Nairaland and give your testimony Jamb results are released 14. Have Faith in your God given abilities and remember that "Winners Never Quit and Quitters Never Win". 2 Likes |
Re: Am I Really A Bad Son? by Leez(m): 2:46am On Nov 15, 2016 |
FriedYam:i didnt bother to read the rest of this "story" cuz i knw its anoda fake one like d ones u see in d papers pls pls and pls its perfectly normal fr anyone at any age to masturbate. not expulsing ur fluid can be taskin hence d reason females have periods as wit anytin done in excess too much on it is bad 2 Likes |
Re: Am I Really A Bad Son? by Eaugusta(f): 3:02am On Nov 15, 2016 |
mosho2good:Receive sense! |
Re: Am I Really A Bad Son? by AfroBlue(m): 3:24am On Nov 15, 2016 |
@FriedYam.... i hope u sort ur life out, get a decent job, and find a nice gurl with an equally high libido as you... got some humor 4 u 2 Likes |
Re: Am I Really A Bad Son? by AAinEqGuinea: 4:21am On Nov 15, 2016 |
OP you sound like a genuine person, but in the end you have to live your life regardless, knowing that no one is perfect. Look at Obama. Despite all his former and modern accomplishments, his half-brother still hates him. No man is in a position to judge you. We live among child rapists, rapists, thieves, adulterers, liars, cronies, murderers, and above all, those suffering from inescapable inferior complexes. Everyone criticizes Buhari but he is another example how you or anyone can be anything you'd like. We all want to make our parents proud but you have to wonder what world have they shaped to help you thrive. You mentioned that you were abused at a young age which ultimately happened on their watch. Are parents doing their all to hold your government accountable or are they just passively blowing along with the wind of shoddy efforts? This is the society they'll pass on. I see this all time OP; Blame the Youth when then it's the leadership that really should be blamed. Parents and Leaders: "Here's a shitty world that I couldnt fix, so I'll sit back and blame youth for being the victim of it" |
Re: Am I Really A Bad Son? by Nobody: 4:43am On Nov 15, 2016 |
OP, why are you a loner in your own home, you don't talk to your siblings? You are strange |
Re: Am I Really A Bad Son? by Nobody: 4:50am On Nov 15, 2016 |
I guess u summon the courage like u did here to sit them down and communicate with them, tell them ur goals, ambitions, efforts and weakness, tell them u understand their concerns 2wards making u a better adult, just try to make them understand, most problems with our typical African family /homes is lack of communication between parents and children, especially the adolescent that is always in crisis, I once passed 2ru these but hv overcome by God's grace, it really makes young people think unimportant and valueless, and also cause depression,anxiety and thought of suicide, The worst stage is when u re out of school and unable to secure admission either due to exam related stuff (like inability to pass o'level /jamb) and financial constraints. may God help you to overcome. |
Re: Am I Really A Bad Son? by Nobody: 5:34am On Nov 15, 2016 |
tensazangetsu20: not good in maths remember... econometrics |
Re: Am I Really A Bad Son? by stevocracy88(m): 5:52am On Nov 15, 2016 |
justscorchone: Then you need the Grace of God. #kontinuuuuu |
Re: Am I Really A Bad Son? by stevocracy88(m): 5:55am On Nov 15, 2016 |
OP......now I understand why your username is "Friedyam" all you need is a little oil and salt and you are ready for Lunch for your parents. It is your duty to ensure they don't get that salt and oil by proving them wrong at every chance you get. And if you must count your pubic hair then Pls lock your door.....i repeat....LOCK YOUR DOOR. over and out. 1 Like |
Re: Am I Really A Bad Son? by Nobody: 6:21am On Nov 15, 2016 |
FriedYam:same bro, am just frustrated, they won't understand |
Re: Am I Really A Bad Son? by Nobody: 6:25am On Nov 15, 2016 |
Pidgin2:shut up 1 Like |
Re: Am I Really A Bad Son? by Eibams60(m): 6:38am On Nov 15, 2016 |
if wat u just said is noting but d truth. may d good Lord set u free.. |
Re: Am I Really A Bad Son? by Perfecter4real(m): 6:38am On Nov 15, 2016 |
All those stuffs are happening because you're still at home, I can relate with that those two years I spent at home awaiting admission 2012 to 2014 got admission into the university in 2014. so dude just study hard this time around for Jamb pass well go to school and give your parents a break after spending like 5months in school they will so miss you and the bad blood that seem to exist between you will be over. And in regards to the choice of school you know schools In the west are highly competitive especially U.I why not try schools in the north I recommend University of Jos and Amadu bello university Zaria that way you can be far from home But University of Jos is a better option in case you decide to hid to my advice stay strong bro and always have it in mind your parents love you very much in their own way I mean why wont they you're their only son you know what that mean now to a Nigerian family though they have a funny way of expressing the love and please suicide is not an option...u can drop your contact if u need more advice. 1 Like |
Re: Am I Really A Bad Son? by SycophanticGoat: 6:47am On Nov 15, 2016 |
FriedYam: I know the kind of dad you have. My uncle if far worse. The only thing that makes yours painful is that you're the only one bearing the pains while in my uncle's case, out of 7 children, he only terms just 3 as his recognized children while the other 4 to him, are useless, including his gentle wife. Very terrible tho. If I had such a father, I'd lie to him about me gaining admission for a law degree while going in and studying heart's desire. By the way, I experience far worse in my own case but it's a story for another day |
Re: Am I Really A Bad Son? by Dantee005(m): 6:56am On Nov 15, 2016 |
TheSixthSense:Actually I disagree wit u bros...some friends are sometimes more reliable than or as much as family...some friends gat ur back no matter wat.... |
Re: Am I Really A Bad Son? by pojophilius(m): 6:59am On Nov 15, 2016 |
FriedYam:..wait,,you r doing law for ur dad??,,you scored over 200 back to back to back in jamb nd no admission,u r 18 nd still a virgin,and unfuckinbelievable u r seen as a porn addict...ur life is too nollywood...but i think lack of consistent communication is why they are mistaking you...maybe u are solo or d quiet type. |
Re: Am I Really A Bad Son? by Nobody: 7:00am On Nov 15, 2016 |
RaphaellaDD:You fine.o and your advice is finer thumbs up |
Re: Am I Really A Bad Son? by Nobody: 7:01am On Nov 15, 2016 |
FriedYam: I will advice you if you kno you are not guilty of all their insinuations carry on with life. Find time to read your Bible and put your matter in Gods hands. All they are doing is because of love they have for you and cos they want you to be great in life. Who knows by the time they see you with Bible one or two times theyld start to have a change of heart. About your Art talent don't because of what your Dad says forget and drop it. It's going to help you in the future even if you are not a professional Artist. You'ld say one day that someone told you. Either here or over seas. I'm a professional Artist. www.davidomotosho.50megs.com Stay blessed and abstain from all shady acts life is going to change for good for you. Try to pleased God always and like magic You'ld have a better image with your parents. |
Re: Am I Really A Bad Son? by AAinEqGuinea: 7:04am On Nov 15, 2016 |
Zceesneh: we love and respect our parents, but sometimes you have to let go. I meet people/parents like this all time; making judgements of people based on appearance. It's even worse for people who think they have some third spiritual eye into the world. They justify how they feel about a person based solely on what their spirit tells them which has to be one of the dumbest things I heard, a life proposition that many people still subscribe to without assessing their own (insecure) spirit first. Like this guy's parents and anyone like them. Do you think his parents are asking themselves whether they're good parents or not? They'd probably rather not while having the expectation of their own life with their children. Their child was already molested, I guess they blame him for that instead of themselves. Elders dont control anything about this world, but they expect youth to simply play along. Perfecter4real: Follow this advice OP. Get out their house as soon as possible but stay productive. Make yourself proud even if no one else is. Still love your parents at the end of the day. 1 Like |
Re: Am I Really A Bad Son? by mriyesecnerwal(m): 7:18am On Nov 15, 2016 |
Best thing is for you to sit down and think of what you can do for yourself if the "law" doesn't show up. Your parents are not mean, I think they are just scared you don't end up a broke man. Good luck |
Re: Am I Really A Bad Son? by Nobody: 7:22am On Nov 15, 2016 |
Okay, but I will place my bet on family any day and trust me. I could give numerous hypothetical situations that friend(s) would eventually abandon not because they don't care but because there is a limit to what they can do. Dantee005: 1 Like |
Re: Am I Really A Bad Son? by Nobody: 7:24am On Nov 15, 2016 |
Raine80: Really! Why? |
Re: Am I Really A Bad Son? by Nobody: 7:35am On Nov 15, 2016 |
Really I don't know what some parents see in law that freaks them. A Lawyer friend just died some months ago and a newly wedded for that matter. A cousin of mine who now is a magistrate believes so much in fetish things that every thing ppl bring to him for protection he takes. different concoctions and You'ld wonder what joy is in a work with no peace of mind untill you look for protection. He once told us how ppl come to court with different charms and incantations to affect the lawyers and judges. Many belong to cults. And yet many of these lawyers live in poverty. Boy follow your mind and do the course your heart desires, stay out of trouble, spent more time with your Bible. join a group in Church and before yould know it you've got friends to talk and reason with and depression disappears. When I was young I and my junior brother now in the US were beaten by dad several times for stealing his money that we never stole. When we talk about it now we laugh. We forgave dad because he was trying to make us good ppl but he misjudged us. We grew up in a notorious part of Ibadan in the 70s /80s . Many of our neighbourhood peers grew up to become robbers. It was not long when we realised why dad was mean. 1 Like |
Re: Am I Really A Bad Son? by SAINTHUD(m): 7:48am On Nov 15, 2016 |
It really hurts @ op. Family is supposed to make life easier, help you get through shits, make you feel whole but in this part of the world, reverse is usually the case, am going through some of the same shits and yes, the only solution is leaving,being independent and in our society, till you graduate from a higher institution, you are considered not an adult, am so sick of all this junk mentalities. And NO, you are not a bad son, they can shove their opinions down their throat, respect them for that's what you owe them till you get your own roof and 'life' |
Re: Am I Really A Bad Son? by Kaycee625(m): 7:49am On Nov 15, 2016 |
Bro free uni ibadan cos it will be hard for them to give u admission if u don't have lots of A's in ur waec choose another federal uni apply, perhaps UNN. Then again if u dont like law speak out and go for the course u want. Then pls never u think.of suicide, remember that once u leave the house u are free. God bless |
Re: Am I Really A Bad Son? by iamclime(m): 7:51am On Nov 15, 2016 |
Friedyam, please send me a PM. I might be able to offer some little help and advice. I have mentored several youths with cases similar to yours. May God be your strength. 1 Like |
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