Winnelyn:
send to me also

funkyibodude:
Hello nairalanders, I need your advice on this matter cos I've been reluctant to do this. I have a female friend, we dated sometime ago when we were both in college, though there was no intimacy involved. She got married about 2 years ago, and we seldom keep in touch just as friends. her husband is aware that we keep in touch because she told her husband about me and he's cool with it. But the problem is anytime she calls me she complains alot about her hubby being too stingy towards her. She keeps telling me that her husband doesn't carter her for financial needs, and that it frustrates her so much, and last month she brought up a discussion about doing her postgraduate and her husband turned down the request, she said it's really pissing her off because she's tired of being a house wife and she wants to have something doing since getting a job is frustrating her. So she begged me to help her with some money (about 40k) to help process her transcript and purchase masters form, I asked about her family members whether the can help out and she said that no one is willing to give her money, that they keep telling her she's married and it's her husband duty. So I am the only friend she can reach out to, I'm willing to give her the money, but my fear is her husband, whether he'll be pleased about it, I don't want to cause any rift between her and her husband, due to the fact that he's not in support of the masters program. And I know that my friend she's a bit stubborn when issues like this come up. So please guys what's your take on this issue?
Mature advice only!!

Elkay3:
Ah ah. Wonderful wonderment! Financially provocative! What!!!? Akantakeit!!! What!!!

But seriously... Are u related to Dangote or Adenuga or Otedola? If you're not, spare your cash. Being a married woman I think you should have defined a boundary not to cross.
How will you feel if someone should be sending your wife money? Don't you think it could cause trouble in the marriage? Would you like that? The part that should really bother you is; how will a married woman tell her ex about the problems in her home? Haba, bros, check am na. I think you have no business with another man's house happening.

funkyibodude:
thanks for the advice, but i don't have any biz with that fam. This is just a recent development, we hardly talk except special occasions, either birthdays or other events, which she invites me. Trust me im not into her family problems. The issue of money came up 2 weeks ago when she asked me for assistance for her masters program and that was when she opened up about her hubby not catering for her financially. I was even shocked to hear that from her, and since then she has been begging me for cash.

advanceDNA:
Automated Teller machine....carry on...my yoruba friend call peeps like u belejayan....

40k for this buhari period!!...make ur babe hear say u dash another man wife 40grand..u nor get mama wey go pray for u wella wey u fit dash 40k?......e be like say u dey do MMM..money dey ur hand abi..

somez:
Now listen... Dont u ever, i mean ever send that money without her husband's approval. Infact, leave that family alone diplomaticaly.

YtivitissuP:
Considering your further explanation above, if I were in your shoes, I would give her the money and diplomatically end all forms of communication with her as soon as possible. If you do not give her, she would think you moved away from her because you don't wanna help and she could hold it against you all her life. If you give her, it could be what she needs to get to the next step of her life. You'd be blind to her husband's thought about it as he already knows you as a friend. A friend in need is a friend indeed. I believe she saw it fit to tell you about her family because she knows YOU HAVE NO ULTERIOR MOTIVE towards her

Headlesschicken:
Friend zoning x a bastard so upon say u no c puna till oga come legalize am yuh eyes nva still clear abi... God punish d spirit of Friendzoning amen.

sweerychick:
he needs advice not soliciting

funkyibodude:
Hello nairalanders, I need your advice on this matter cos I've been reluctant to do this. I have a female friend, we dated sometime ago when we were both in college, though there was no intimacy involved. She got married about 2 years ago, and we seldom keep in touch just as friends. her husband is aware that we keep in touch because she told her husband about me and he's cool with it. But the problem is anytime she calls me she complains alot about her hubby being too stingy towards her. She keeps telling me that her husband doesn't carter for her financial needs, and that it frustrates her so much, and last month she brought up a discussion about doing her postgraduate and her husband turned down the request, she said it's really pissing her off because she's tired of being a house wife and she wants to have something doing since getting a job is frustrating her. So she begged me to help her with some money (about 40k) to help process her transcript and purchase masters form, I asked about her family members whether they too can help her out financially and she said that no one is willing to give her money, that they keep telling her she's married and it's her husband's duty to do so thus I am the only friend she can reach out to, I'm willing to give her the money, but my fear is her husband, whether he'll be pleased about it, I don't want to cause any rift between her and her husband, due to the fact that he's not in support of the masters program. And I know that my friend she's a bit stubborn when issues like this come up. So please guys what's your take on this issue?
Mature advice only!!