THE PASTOR'S WIFE( AN UNSUNG HERO)
One of the toughest roles for a woman to play is that of a pastor's wife. This role is extremely demanding, tasking, self sacrificing, and emotionally draining. So often the people forget about the one who supports the pastor, his greatest cheerleader, confidante, ally,friend, lover, and wife.
No one in the church family is as vulnerable as the pastors wife.

1. She is the key figure in the life of the pastor and plays the biggest role in his success and failure. And yet many churches treat her as an unpaid employee and an uncalled assistant.

2. She is almost always a reliable helper as well as an under- appreciated servant.

3.She is the single most likely person to become the victim of malicious gossip, sneaky innuendo, impossible expectations, and pastoral frustrations.

4. She can be hurt in a hundred ways through attacks on her husband, her children and herself. Her pain is magnified by one great reality: SHE CAN'T FIGHT BACK, SHE HAS TO SMILE BACK !

5. She can't give a certain member a piece of her mind for criticizing her children, she cannot straighten out the Leader who is making life miserable for her husband, she has to take it in silence most of the time.

6. It takes the best christian in the church to be a pastors wife and pull it off. YESS! Her crown will be special!

7. She is pretty more same kind of christian as every one. When the enemy attacks she bleeds.

WHAT DO YOU OWE HER?
1. You owe her the right to be herself. Allow her to serve in whatever area she is gifted.
2. You owe her your love and gratitude. Her role is one of a kind and makes her essential to the church well being. You have no clue regarding the pressures inside the pastors family. Love the wife and kids and show them appreciation.
3. You owe her your love and prayers. While the father alone knows her heart, the pastor alone knows her burdens. Pray for her by name on a regular basis.
4. You owe her responsible care. What does she need? Ask the Holy Spirit what the pastor's family need. If it's something you can do do it. If it's huge, rally others to join you.
5. You owe it to the pastor and his wife to speak up. Sometimes they need a friend to take their side.
6. You owe her compliments and encouragement. Voice appreciation for her talents and abilities, her love for the lord and her particular skills that make this ministry work, not join in the critics.
The typical reaction most members have when someone is criticizing the wife is silence, but you have got to speak up. Take up for her.

TO THEIR HUSBANDS
The men should love and lead their wives before they love and lead the church. Some pastors wife frankly think their husband have a mistress which is the local congregation they serve.
You will always disappoint someone, choose to disappoint others not the wife of your youth.

TO THE PASTOR'S WIFE
1. Take responsibility for your life. Love yourself, Pursue your Passion and be happy.
2. Take care of your self spiritually, emotionally,mentally and Physically.
3. Be creative because beauty and creativity restores.
4. Find ways of rejuvenating yourself. Know when you hit a wall then take a break. Plan get aways with family, trusted girlfriends. Do something different from your usual routine.
5. Don't fit into anybody's mold. Don't try to conform to someone's expectations. Focus on what God expects. Your flaws shows you are human and you are some one they can relate with.
6. See to it that you grow in Grace.
Note: Don't let stereotypes of what a pastor's wife is supposed to be hinder who you really are. Be genuine . Be yourself.
IT TAKES A SPECIAL PERSON TO BE IN THE ROLE YOU ARE IN. YOU ARE SPECIAL!
I AM SPECIAL!
I AM THE PASTOR'S WIFE!

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Very true

True, being a pastor's wife is a difficult role. Always spied and little appreciated.