DDeliverer:
Why don't you love this guy, my dear op?

Marry him..the love would grow afterwards...!!

Don't say "I'm too young".."there is plenty more time"..because those are exactly what sister meg said and today she is 49, No husband, No children...

And forget about that your poor coursemate you are dating....this is real life!!

hahaha
.. .. No mind her,small pinkin dey worry her.

Marry someone you do not like is a big problem and listen not to your parent is another wahala. Uhmmm! But, my advice to you is you should make a plan(backup plan) for any decision you may take. Lastly, do what will make you happy not what you will regret. Pray for God direction.

Toniaeloho:
A man in his late twenties approached me to marry him. I was not attracted to him neither was he a very friendly person. I told my mom about it and she advised me to think about it carefully.

After much thought, I decided to refuse because he seemed in hurry to marry me even when he barely knew me.

My parents got so angry with me. They said I should say agree because he is God fearing, has a good job( he owns a school) and they like him. I still refused , the man told me to marry him because he likes me and my parents like him. I tried reasoning with him but he told me that in those days girls marry men their parents approve.

My parents have threatened to not support my schooling if I refuse. I have tried to love this guy but I just can't. My parents esp my mom like him too much. I am not allowed to say a bad word against him. I am in my final year at school and 19 year old.

What should I do?

Re: Help! My Parents Want Me To Marry Someone I Don't Like. by millionboi(m): 5:40pm
DDeliverer:
Why don't you love this guy, my dear op?

Marry him..the love would grow afterwards...!!

Don't say "I'm too young".."there is plenty more time"..because those are exactly what sister meg said and today she is 49, No husband, No children...

And forget about that your poor coursemate you are dating....this is real life!! wink


hahaha
.. .. No mind her,small pinkin dey worry her.

Toniaeloho:

I plan on following your advice. It's surprising since my parents are well to do. I think they are just scared I will bring a poor boy from a tribe they hate and I will say I love him.

Do you have an older uncle/family friend or pastor who your parents respect? If yes, let them know. By the way you described the man, he would be authoritarian. Imagine him telling you that girls of those days never refused their parents choice? If you cannot find a way out, you should find a job and go and live with a relative or friend outside town. Just tell them that you have agreed but let them wait till after service. When you're through with service, you just remain in that town and lie that you have a new job. You can even threaten suicide. I feel for you oh, marriage is no joke.

Just an after thought. I hope you're a "good" girl? Because I have noticed that when some parents notice that their daughter is wayward, they start pushing for marriage.

My dear,my advice to you is to commit everything into God's hand.don't bow to parental pressure 'cos when the heat starts,they will not feel it rather they will start accusing you of not being submissive.just take it to God in prayers, cheers.

Write a note for them stating why you had to do what you did, then commit any form of suicide.


Am talking from experiences based on the Nollywood movies have watched.

This girl op can never be 19years I repeat this girl in question is not 19years ..Nigerian girls will never seize to be 19/20 years old even though they are at their late 30s. gone are those days when parents chooses for their son/daughters who to marry and who not to marry ..unless age, tribe ,job Issues

Toniaeloho:
A man in his late twenties approached me to marry him. I was not attracted to him neither was he a very friendly person. I told my mom about it and she advised me to think about it carefully.

After much thought, I decided to refuse because he seemed in hurry to marry me even when he barely knew me.

My parents got so angry with me. They said I should say agree because he is God fearing, has a good job( he owns a school) and they like him. I still refused , the man told me to marry him because he likes me and my parents like him. I tried reasoning with him but he told me that in those days girls marry men their parents approve.

My parents have threatened to not support my schooling if I refuse. I have tried to love this guy but I just can't. My parents esp my mom like him too much. I am not allowed to say a bad word against him. I am in my final year at school and 19 year old.

What should I do?

Marry him.

talktonase:
Agreement between the two parties only comes from borrowed western cultures. Parental consent is key in this part of the world...

That is not tru and point is still how do u want them to cope.

The last time i checked, God fearing men abuse women habitually and this guy fits the picture of a heart fraudster. Let your mum marry him now if she is so much in love with the guy.

just be watching

Toniaeloho:
A man in his late twenties approached me to marry him. I was not attracted to him neither was he a very friendly person. I told my mom about it and she advised me to think about it carefully.

After much thought, I decided to refuse because he seemed in hurry to marry me even when he barely knew me.

My parents got so angry with me. They said I should say agree because he is God fearing, has a good job( he owns a school) and they like him. I still refused , the man told me to marry him because he likes me and my parents like him. I tried reasoning with him but he told me that in those days girls marry men their parents approve.

My parents have threatened to not support my schooling if I refuse. I have tried to love this guy but I just can't. My parents esp my mom like him too much. I am not allowed to say a bad word against him. I am in my final year at school and 19 year old.

What should I do?

can you share your picture with us here pls

Wallahi no try am if nt u wil regret ur life..

Shafiiimran99:

That is not tru and point is still how do u want them to cope.

over there two selfish people give consent while over here both families come together in the union...Name a couple in a marriage currently in nigeria between two individuals devoid of family members from both sides and I tell you that marriage is about hitting rock bottom or has crashed already!

Sorry you say you are 19? But do they still do this stuff again? Enter that union and see the wahala you go face.

Toniaeloho:
A man in his late twenties approached me to marry him. I was not attracted to him neither was he a very friendly person. I told my mom about it and she advised me to think about it carefully.

After much thought, I decided to refuse because he seemed in hurry to marry me even when he barely knew me.

My parents got so angry with me. They said I should say agree because he is God fearing, has a good job( he owns a school) and they like him. I still refused , the man told me to marry him because he likes me and my parents like him. I tried reasoning with him but he told me that in those days girls marry men their parents approve.

My parents have threatened to not support my schooling if I refuse. I have tried to love this guy but I just can't. My parents esp my mom like him too much. I am not allowed to say a bad word against him. I am in my final year at school and 19 year old.

What should I do?

If you dont want him...stand your ground....If they say they won't help you, forget about them....God will always provide a helper...Lucky you, you are about to finish your school...so, stand your ground....There are things you can do to make money and help yourself legally....Eloho...Urhobo right? Mavo?

talktonase:
over there two selfish people give consent while over here both families come together in the union...Name a couple in a marriage currently in nigeria between two individuals devoid of family members from both sides and I tell you that marriage is about hitting rock bottom or has crashed already!

Ok, by the way do u receive comment alert because I don't and if u do, how can I do it

Toniaeloho:

I plan on following your advice. It's surprising since my parents are well to do. I think they are just scared I will bring a poor boy from a tribe they hate and I will say I love him.

They shouldn't be so eager to marry you off at such a young age. They should believe in you and how they raised you. Like I said, you should also try to be industrious and they will give you some space.

I'm glad to have been of some help. Good luck dear.

Kill yourself

Op where are you from?

biggz82:
Kill yourself

What's wrong with u

Shafiiimran99:

Ok, by the way do u receive comment alert because I don't and if u do, how can I do it

hahahah no be only comment alert nah Bank alert.Ask Seun.

Hmmm.....

Meanwhile, don't allow them cheat you. Always visit www.engineerosaz..com for latest prices of building materials and to connect with a professional contractor.

automatix:
It is now clear you are igbo. This can only happen in a place like that. I guess you should just stall the whole arrangement till you grad. Get a job and move out of the house.

eloho is not an Igbo na..its pure Urhobo

daclemx:




If you dont want him...stand your ground....If they say they won't help you, forget about them....God will always provide a helper...Lucky you, you are about to finish your school...so, stand your ground....There are things you can do to make money and help yourself legally....Eloho...Urhobo right? Mavo?

yes..i just saw this just as i said she is Urhobo and i think that final year she meant was Secondary School.

Toniaeloho:
A man in his late twenties approached me to marry him. I was not attracted to him neither was he a very friendly person. I told my mom about it and she advised me to think about it carefully.

After much thought, I decided to refuse because he seemed in hurry to marry me even when he barely knew me.

My parents got so angry with me. They said I should say agree because he is God fearing, has a good job( he owns a school) and they like him. I still refused , the man told me to marry him because he likes me and my parents like him. I tried reasoning with him but he told me that in those days girls marry men their parents approve.

My parents have threatened to not support my schooling if I refuse. I have tried to love this guy but I just can't. My parents esp my mom like him too much. I am not allowed to say a bad word against him. I am in my final year at school and 19 year old.

What should I do?

Dont allow ur happiness 2 be determined by ur parent ok. Becos they wont be there 2 console & feel ur pain when d man starts 2 show his real colours. Be decisive ok.

Nitwit

tee59:
I know ur parents are igbo who lik money dan anytn.. Money is d only language dis igbo women understand, dat is why dey encourage their toddlers to get married to rich dudes wtout considering their happiness and joy. Igbo people and money, only God can separate dem. I kno d guy must be rich.

Towncrier007:
I see bad gang people creating new account same day posting on NL some cooked up stories... just to hit front page, Ogun is watching all of u
Check out the date registered, this kind fake stories for NLFP

this is my first time on nairaland , I joined because I desperately needed advise.

U would give u daughter out for marriage @ 19?
ridiculous

millionboi:
Re: Help! My Parents Want Me To Marry Someone I Don't Like. by millionboi(m): 5:40pm
DDeliverer:
Why don't you love this guy, my dear op?

Marry him..the love would grow afterwards...!!

Don't say "I'm too young".."there is plenty more time"..because those are exactly what sister meg said and today she is 49, No husband, No children...

And forget about that your poor coursemate you are dating....this is real life!! wink


hahaha
.. .. No mind her,small pinkin dey worry her.

tee59:
[s]I know ur parents are igbo who lik money dan anytn.. Money is d only language dis igbo women understand, dat is why dey encourage their toddlers to get married to rich dudes wtout considering their happiness and joy. Igbo people and money, only God can separate dem. I kno d guy must be rich.[/s]

DUMB!!
From her username its obvious she is from Delta, "ELOHO" what does that sound to you.
Like you don't like money too.

automatix:
It is now clear you are igbo. This can only happen in a place like that. I guess you should just stall the whole arrangement till you grad. Get a job and move out of the house.

From her username its obvious she is from Delta, "ELOHO" what does that sound to you

ehispapa:


eloho is not an Igbo na..its pure Urhobo

OOPS... i just checked now. Sorry my bad'

Your parents want the best for you. But they have not considered many things.
At 19 no need to hurry into marriage.

It brings honour ok, but what if you end up cheating on him with a guy you truly love, like during NYSC and everyone finds out? Or You have to divorce at 22? Won't that be a big dishonour?

Being from your mom's tribe does not mean he will be a good hubby. There are good & bad ones from every tribe.

Meet somebody who they respect, like their pastor to discuss it. Make them reason with you dear.