Man the ride cant be daily.

There should be an alternative.

The more time they spend, The more she figures somethings you dont have.

Trust or no trust, Its just you protecting what you dont want to lose.

Mentuzza:
c. wife takes ride once in while d. hubby buys okada and takes wife to work

Thats hilarious!!!!

Mentuzza:

4. Show her more love. Give her mind-blowing, terrific love-making sessions so that she thinks less of any other man, not to mention a bozo who is trying to get into her skirt in the name of 'ride to work'.

Man try this as often as possible.

@Everyone who said he should get her a car, Please answer these questions below


(1) What happens if he gets her a car, and she a male colleguea a lift! what should he do?
(2) Lets say the husband cannot afford the car?
(3) Would it be better if the lady's colleguea at work was a woman?
(4) Would car stop lady playing an away game?

whts an away game?

No Big deal!
If she get home on tyme n prepare ur meals n also attend to u warmly.
you sholud kno wot ur wife can do, or are you having extra marital n u feel she is doin the same
please free your mind or buy her a car
bt for me no big deal

whts an away game?

Wifey playing away with another man

I travel with a male colleague and my hubby never has any issues about it because its a convenient solution for now.  And I love the fact that he trusts me and I know myself as a Christian I can never do anything to jeopardise my marriage. The guy good and also respects that I am married, mostly our on our way home we talk about work issues, ideas or i try to convince him to give his life to Christ.

@ poster - give your wife the benefit of doubt but I do encourage that you pray for her as well .

omar22:

@Everyone who said he should get her a car,  Please answer these questions below


(1) What happens if he gets her a car, and she a male colleguea a lift! what should he do?
(2) Lets say the husband cannot afford the car?
(3) Would it be better if the lady's colleguea at work was a woman?
(4) Would car stop lady playing an away game?

In other words, follow your mind.

I do not know the basis your marriage was built on, you know your wife better than any of us here, u know her limits and strengths, you have one fear: You are not so sure how far she can go to sacrifice for the sake of the union or maybe you cheat on her, the candid advice is, do not expose her to temptation, she is human, FLESH & BLOOD, talk about it with her, express your thoughts, trust and fears, look they are bound to happen in any relationship, tell her what you feel on the inside most especially, Guy even God that loves us, is a jealous one how much more the persons he created in his image & likeness, so follow your instinct and watch her reactions closely, especially her eyes you will be certain on reply she gives back, but I bet you these must be done after a quality time talking with her,

The good aspect round it up with love making if necessary, re-assure her of your love, praise her very well.

I know if you had provision for a car you'd given her but that is slightly secondary, i feel you care about her, what is primary is the union you both share. what is necessary to make the marriage work, is it a car or you both? Remember you are to protect her in all ramifications. Do it wisely because these folks are wise enough to be a man.

I wish you success,

Abegi

Everybody's shouting "Trust, Trust". You forgotten she's human? Even if her mind's totally clean and she's absolutely devoted to her husband, she's still human. Spending time with another dude to & from work everyday is a recipe for disaster.

Wetin dem go dey yarn inside moto? When casual office talk is exhausted, the discussion will move on to more personal topics. Now, again I'm still assuming total innocence on the part of the woman, but who knows if the dude is going through some rough time and decides to unload on the woman? What if the woman starts seeing a sensitive part of the dude she's never seen before?

Whether we trust our spouses or not, the wise thing here is not to put ourselves in situations where we might get tempted. The Yoruba peeps would say "Obe ti oo ba fe je, ma fi run imu" meaning "if you don't have the intention of eating some soup, don't go sniffing in the pot".

JUST ALLOW HER TO ENJOY THE FREE RIDE WHILE IT LASTS.
ALSO ALLOW THE BOBO TO ENJOY HIS OWN "FREE RIDE" ON YOUR WIFE WHILE IT LASTS.

MY BROTHER THERE IS NO FREE LUNCH ANYWHERE.
EVEN IF NA FREE RIDE TO CHURCH OR NIGHT VIGIL OR WAKE-KEEPING.
NOTHING GOES FOR NOTHING. SCRATCH MY BACK, I SCRATCH YOUR BACK.
SHE IS NOT PAYING IN CASH BUT SHE MAY BE PAYING IN KIND.
THERE IS NO FREE LUNCH ANYWHERE. 

MY BROTHER LEAVE AM FOR GOD,
THERE IS NOTHING U CAN DO TO STOP A WOMAN FROM PLAYING AWAY MATCH, FREE RIDE OR NO FREE RIDE.

@freshmoney coins

@190

Some dudes really think owning a car will make women fall for them? Psychotic disorder in its peak! Idiocy!

People here on Nairaland drive bigger exotic cars , yet they think it is a driving toy, yet they think they are only fortunate! Yet some idiots think they own the world just by driving a 2008 Japanese car! Some younger dudes driving 09 S class don't even boast about it cuz they know its a toy. Perhaps, the 2008 japanese car dude in his majesty might just lavish all his life worth on the so called toy, rampant,common-in-sight toy! Come to my garage, I'll show you some lifetime ,dream toys. Learn how to respect women, idiot! We could see him pricing Yaris tomorrow

Just look @ this slowpoke from yaba left
who is talking about your Toy and what does my pricing a yaris has to do with this issue,me tink that u are definately High on Marijuana and alcohol,who gives a DAMN crap if you have a bently,i love my camry and everyone knows how girls love em cars so if u sincerely do not know what else 2 talk about then i strongly suggest that u pack your little payload craps and fling yourself off this land,nonsense, i dont have time for self IDIOTS like u, BEAST OF BURDEN~ CARMEL~

~ure the real noise maker
~i dont know 190 nor seen any 'swagger'
~this thread is not about material things and ill advise u stop throwing red herrings
~your command and use of words are scintillating- from all indications and your post above, ure the toady one in here

stick to topic and dont bore us with silly rants

i hope that put to rest all your 'tales by midday'

cheerio mr jmmy choo

@tkb417
u dont have to bother exchangin words wit the arrant MISTAKE OF A SPERM~
Please leave this arrant selfless DAYLITE MUGU,He is probably larvishin in one eastern Village surrounded by Hugh trees and he manages to connect to the internet from his damn chinese phone.people like this should be left alone as they are clearly a mistake of a sperm~

Bromine:

Please i want to ask if it is advisable to allow your wife to be having free ride every morning from her male colleague working in the same office with her.The man is staying in the same side with her and every morning on his way going to work,will call her to come out and enter his car so that two of them can go to work instead of her going to park and queing for public bus.Hope its advisable and cannot lead to another thing?,or will you stop her if you re in that shoe?

Your insecurities will eat you alive.
It's her colleague. They can still shag without her getting free rides from him.
If you are not happy with the arrangement, get your wife a good car. . . .and if there's no cash, get her a horse/donkey to transport her to work.

~Sauron~:

Your insecurities will eat you alive.
It's her colleague. T[b]hey can still shag without her getting free rides from him.[/b]
If you are not happy with the arrangement, get your wife a good car. . . .and if there's no cash, get her a horse/donkey to transport her to work.

True Story.

A woman will shag whoever she wants to shag free ride or no free ride. Insecurity is bad for marriage.

Or you can give her your own car and you take a free ride

vicade:

True Story.

A woman will shag whoever she wants to shag free ride or no free ride. Insecurity is bad for marriage.

Or you can give her your own car and you take a free ride

the above is the final answer, if u dont have one, buy her one and u dey use leg, na u dey insecure

@ poster.

This might not be a big deal in developed nations, but in Nigeria, it is easy to oppress poor people or fall into unwanted temptation because of poverty and poverty mentatlity.

I'm sorry it might to too late now o.  If you tell her to start taking kabu kabu now (after she's been enjoying a/c in another man's car), she'll make ur life a living hell with complaints and comparisons every evening when she gets home. Even the car owner go dey take style laugh at you say you dey fear. Unfortuately, they work together and see everyday and if something had already started, sorry o - they dont need the car to continue.

Trust or no trust, no man likes it when another man is providing is wife with things he cannot provide - except ur in denial. And even if theyre not creeping, the women will likely complain every once in a while when there's no car to take her around and she has to wait in the sun for a bus. . . with other smelly passengers and a rude conductor. She will compare. Even some of her friends / family members will remind her of it regularly.

Bros, I know the thought of this can be destructive to your health. Please hope for the best and trust your wife. Hopefully you go fit buy her a car. I know you would have gotten her a car if you could afford it of course.

A good wife will not cheat on her husband in ANY situation. But a bad wife will cheat even if you buy her the world.

But God, pls do not lead us into temptation o. , including poverty  

It will start been an issue when there is an ulterior motive.

kokoye:

@ poster.

Trust or no trust, no man likes it when another man is providing is wife with things he cannot provide - except your in denial. And even if theyre not creeping, the women will likely complain every once in a while when there's no car to take her around and she has to wait in the sun for a bus. . . with other smelly passengers and a rude conductor. She will compare. Even some of her friends / family members will remind her of it regularly.

So oga poster let your wife enjoy the free rides. Nobody likes being squished like sardines in a bus. Besides some mumu men will use style to touch and ogle your wife in the bus. Do you want that?

The poster is rightly worried.
The colleague is a man and most men are Dogs.
The wife on the other hand is a woman and women are simply  fickle.

With no dubious intentions on the offset, the girl might get into the car one day in one of those sassy office mini skirts and with thighs flashing everywhere, the man will  start bending conversations one kind abeg (all those compliments and caring words and projection of lasting bliss and happiness in his company).

Most men (excluding me before God and man) will chase a fit woman even if she was married talkless of
one that gets into his car every Morning.
The husband should change the situation LIKE A MAN pronto!!!

(this one wey be say if people see them inside car them no go suspect , na im b say them fit drive go anywhere.Abeg! abeg! abeg!)

hackney:

The poster is rightly worried.
The colleague is a man and most men are Dogs.
The wife on the other hand is a woman and women are simply  fickle.

Eziokwu!!!!

Noro nu there.

During NYSC in delta state, there was this nice girl I became friends with. She had a relationship in Lagos and so did I. Her boyfriend worked with Mobil Producing so money was not an issue. We talked about issues like women's minds were fickle like someone mentioned here and she was like, lailai, she could never leave her bf - she had no reason to.

She would see me at church fellowships and also in the midst of my friends @ the mammy market - all my friends drank beers but she would always see me with amstel malta and milk.  Every once in a while, we would have decent and long conversations, walk around without even talking.

Guess what? she started having funny feelings - I would notice it on her face whenever I told her I had to go hang with my boys. So I stopped spending time with her but it only made it worse. On the last day of camp, she scribbled a note, handed it to me and took off - she expressed her feelings to me in the note. I looked for her and simply made her feel good about herself. Imagine what i might have been able to do if I was a bad boy.

Bottomline, a truly good girl started having feelings for a poor me because we started spending time together. Now imagine a poor needy girl in the midst of 'wealthy naija devils'.

May the good Lord not lead us into temptation . . or be able to overcome it when we are in one.

It is you guys that have fickle minds.

kokoye:

During NYSC in delta state, there was this nice girl I became friends with. She had a relationship in Lagos and so did I. Her boyfriend worked with Mobil Producing so money was not an issue. We talked about issues like women's minds were fickle like someone mentioned here and she was like, lailai, she could never leave her bf - she had no reason to.

She would see me at church fellowships and also in the midst of my friends @ the mammy market - all my friends drank beers but she would always see me with amstel malta and milk.  Every once in a while, we would have decent and long conversations, walk around without even talking.

Guess what? she started having funny feelings - I would notice it on her face whenever I told her I had to go hang with my boys. So I stopped spending time with her but it only made it worse. On the last day of camp, she scribbled a note, handed it to me and took off - she expressed her feelings to me in the note. I looked for her and simply made her feel good about herself. Imagine what i might have been able to do if I was a bad boy.

Bottomline, a truly good girl started having feelings for a poor me because we started spending time together. Now imagine a poor needy girl in the midst of 'wealthy naija devils'.

May the good Lord not lead us into temptation . . or be able to overcome it when we are in one.

Forget Naija NYSC. . . . . . . .Those girls go to the camp with the mentality of meeting potential husbands and sex is no issue at all.
NYSC has ruined beautiful relationships cos babes throw caution outta the window and go on a shagging spree.
It's better to seek a relationship AFTER these girls must have completed their NYSC programme.

kokoye:

During NYSC in delta state, there was this nice girl I became friends with. She had a relationship in Lagos and so did I. Her boyfriend worked with Mobil Producing so money was not an issue. We talked about issues like women's minds were fickle like someone mentioned here and she was like, lailai, she could never leave her bf - she had no reason to.

She would see me at church fellowships and also in the midst of my friends @ the mammy market - all my friends drank beers but she would always see me with amstel malta and milk.  Every once in a while, we would have decent and long conversations, walk around without even talking.

Guess what? she started having funny feelings - I would notice it on her face whenever I told her I had to go hang with my boys. So I stopped spending time with her but it only made it worse. On the last day of camp, she scribbled a note, handed it to me and took off - she expressed her feelings to me in the note. I[b] looked for her and simply made her feel good about herself. Imagine what i might have been able to do if I was a bad boy.[/b]
Bottomline, a truly good girl started having feelings for a poor me because we started spending time together. Now imagine a poor needy girl in the midst of 'wealthy naija devils'.

May the good Lord not lead us into temptation . . or be able to overcome it when we are in one.

This same scenario happened to me in Yola, Adamawa when i served 9ja

had a gurl that was all over me durin the 3 weeks campin exercise and verily verily i say unto u, the gurl was engaged to one guy in NBC, Oyo state but nothin happened till we both travelled togther down to Lagos. we couldnt afford to fly down to Lagos so we took the luxury buses
some unprintables happened in the dark in the bus- we didnt get down tho but hmm, commited 'touchery' and all sorts

The other was a gurl whos boifee was in canada- hehehehe
this one calls the boi for long hours in ma crib in Yola. 2-3-4 am they are on d fone talkin sharing vows and stuffs but these calls were on ma bed

whenever the guy sends dollars, its usually 50:50

so Poster, go and buy ur baby a car so she no go jam guys like me o
i don give ma life to christ tho so no karma is lurkin around cos i kno some bad mouthed nuccas will start prayin shitz

~Sauron~:

Forget Naija NYSC. . . . . . . .Those girls go to the camp with the mentality of meeting potential husbands and sex is no issue at all.
NYSC has ruined beautiful relationships cos babes throw caution outta the window and go on a shagging spree.
It's better to seek a relationship AFTER these girls must have completed their NYSC programme.

NYSC babes? na bad runz o

my gurlie defo cant go for NYSC
she'll do it in ma house

So NYSC is as interesting as this? Need to go back to naija and get my groove on.

tkb417:

NYSC babes? na bad runz o

my gurlie defo cant go for NYSC
she'll do it in ma house

NYSC babes are the easiest in Naija.
Even the born-again Christians go hay-wire when they get to the camp.
Tkb. . . . .How many did you shag in Yola cos i met a babe who said something about you some months back.

stillwater:

So NYSC is as interesting as this? Need to go back to naija and get my groove on.

Yep, if you're looking for fun, NYSC is soo much more fun than all your entire college yrs put together.

Especially when ur in a remote area where those big city boys cannot come and oppress. . . for guys sha  

And if you be guy, God help you if you are posted to a secondary school as a teacher with plenty of female students.

Everything will be free o: cooked food stolen from their parents, buckets of water to bath, money and of course kitten.  Very hrd not to commit. Infact, you must commit.

I remember on one very dark n warm NYSC night in delta state, some soldiers drove their truck onto the camp field.

Come see as couples begin dey surface on top bare field in the middle of the night - the drivers were chasing them round the field in their undies. The next morning, you could see stained wrappers all over the field.    

Another annoying thing is that female corpers were shagging man-o-war guys for favors back then - what kind of favor can you get from a soldier wannabe?  dumb girls!!

~Sauron~:

NYSC babes are the easiest in Naija.
Even the born-again Christians go hay-wire when they get to the camp.
Tkb. . . . .How many did you shag in Yola cos i met a babe who said something about you some months back.

if its Yola, then tkb means evil
so dont even ask about me cos u wont hear good vibes

stillwater:

So NYSC is as interesting as this? Need to go back to naija and get my groove on.

pls go, sauron will be in ur camp to torment u

kokoye:

Yep, if you're looking for fun, NYSC is soo much more fun than all your entire college yrs put together.

Especially when your in a remote area where those big city boys cannot come and oppress. . . for guys sha

And if you be guy, God help you if you are posted to a secondary school as a teacher with plenty of female students.

Everything will be free o: cooked food stolen from their parents, buckets of water to bath, money and of course kitten. Very hrd not to commit. Infact, you must commit.

This is just ridiculous.

kokoye:

I remember on one very dark n warm NYSC night in delta state, some soldiers drove their truck onto the camp field.

Come see as couples begin dey surface on top bare field in the middle of the night - the drivers were chasing them round the field in their undies. The next morning, you could see stained wrappers all over the field.

Another annoying thing is that female corpers were shagging man-o-war guys for favors back then - what kind of favor can you get from a soldier wannabe? dumb girls!!

This is ridiculous too. I'd pass. I'll catch my groove here

tkb417:

if its Yola, then tkb means evil
so dont even ask about me cos u wont hear good vibes

pls go, sauron will be in your camp to torment u

I've changed my mind. I'm not going. Don't want sauron to kill me.