The man is the head of the family and the woman is the helper.The man should not make it mandatory for her.it is suppose to be a voluntary kind of contribution.i don't think telling your wife to pay some of the bills is a good idea cos it will make her feel u aren't man enough if u come up with that.

lbotus:

The man is the head of the family and the woman is the helper.The man should not make it mandatory for her.it is suppose to be a voluntary kind of contribution.i don't think telling your wife to pay some of the bills is a good idea cos it will make her feel u aren't man enough if u come up with that.

says me.

Damoche10:

abi o. My money na my money, your money na our money!

Fhemmmy:

Not in marriage, dude.

stillwater:

All these men shouting 50-50, would likely hesitate to take part in house chores, bath the kids or cook for you. Their friends would likely say 'where is the madam of the house'? Is it not the same naija scenario again? I don't see how you want to be dragging who pays the bills in the house, when in a typical Nigerian family most women work and at the same time shoulders all the housework. Working mothers still come back home to cater for the family. You think those market women stash their earnings for themselves? But you would hardly see the husbands lift a pin in the house? According to then, it is not their culture to cook when they have a wife. It's beyond him to cook, if at all he does, it's once in a blue moon.

All these talk about if the man loses his job does not hold water with me because the women I know will help their husbands in need, would rather go hungry than let their kids go without food.

If it must be a 50-50 thing, it should also translate into all aspects of the family.

P.S I'm not in support of the girl.

stillwater:

All these men shouting 50-50, would likely hesitate to take part in house chores, bath the kids or cook for you. Their friends would likely say 'where is the madam of the house'? Is it not the same naija scenario again? I don't see how you want to be dragging who pays the bills in the house, when in a typical Nigerian family most women work and at the same time shoulders all the housework. Working mothers still come back home to cater for the family. You think those market women stash their earnings for themselves? But you would hardly see the husbands lift a pin in the house? According to then, it is not their culture to cook when they have a wife. It's beyond him to cook, if at all he does, it's once in a blue moon.

All these talk about if the man loses his job does not hold water with me because the women I know will help their husbands in need, would rather go hungry than let their kids go without food.

If it must be a 50-50 thing, it should also translate into all aspects of the family.

P.S I'm not in support of the girl.

Pharoh:

Dear times are changing i don't think the new generation guys we have these days would want to use their wives as slaves but i know some still live under the our father and culture illusions. I am pissed off when as a bachelor and in your student days, men cook for themselves and do those domestic stuffs but suddenly stop it when they get married. 

I don't believe in 50-50 because it is never ideal to me,  both should work and find a suitable arrangement for paying the bills that satisfies both partners . The men should also help their wives when it comes to domestic duties and if he badly wants to watch arsenal vs ManU he should beg the wife to excuse him and make it up for her in some other way.

[size=18pt]The ladies should also bring up their  male children to be responsible domestically like moi  [/size]

stillwater:

All these men shouting 50-50, would likely hesitate to take part in house chores, bath the kids or cook for you. Their friends would likely say 'where is the madam of the house'? Is it not the same naija scenario again? I don't see how you want to be dragging who pays the bills in the house, when in a typical Nigerian family most women work and at the same time shoulders all the housework. Working mothers still come back home to cater for the family. You think those market women stash their earnings for themselves? But you would hardly see the husbands lift a pin in the house? According to then, it is not their culture to cook when they have a wife. It's beyond him to cook, if at all he does, it's once in a blue moon.

All these talk about if the man loses his job does not hold water with me because the women I know will help their husbands in need, would rather go hungry than let their kids go without food.

If it must be a 50-50 thing, it should also translate into all aspects of the family.

P.S I'm not in support of the girl.

Fhemmmy:

I think the father has more roles to play in such areas, they have to be the one to tell the boys and not only tell them, but live by examples, if a son see the father washing the dishes while Mom was cooking, the boy will know it is not a big deal to help around in the kitchen.
When the boy grows up and see the pix of dad changing his diapers when he was little, he will wanna do same too.

Pharoh:

You are very right because that was how we were brought up in my own household without any gender preference for any kind of duties. The guys just have to do more because we were stronger.

The father should be a proponent and also show examples because we learn alot when growing up by observation. You know some men are always busy and not around to take of the kids like the ladies that's why i asked them to do such but your idea was really spot on.

Fhemmmy:

I dont blv in 50 - 50 at all.
Like i said earlier, if the woman is home take care of the kids, and the man has an income that can take care of everything, then, that is beautiful, however, i have a problem with the woman being home and watching soap opera while the husband is doing 2 or more jobs to keep up with the bills of the house.
For example, the woman could babysit other kids on the block to make extra money to help the husband, so that the husband can take care of the kids and be home too, and not that he is just a sperm donor and the kids hardly see him.
Also, there is nothing wrong or big deal about whoever gets home first do the cooking, or while the woman is cooking, the man is doing the dishes, or attending to the kids, it pisses me off, to see a man watching CNN with legs on the ottoman while the wife is running up and down to make sure the food is cooking and changing the diaper of the kids.
So the man can take care of the bills if he has the money, if he doesnt, let the woman help . . . . at the end of the day, make sure the bills are paid and everyone is happy.

Pharoh:

Dear times are changing i don't think the new generation guys we have these days would want to use their wives as slaves but i know some still live under the our father and culture illusions. I am pissed off when as a bachelor and in your student days, men cook for themselves and do those domestic stuffs but suddenly stop it when they get married.

I don't believe in 50-50 because it is never ideal to me, both should work and find a suitable arrangement for paying the bills that satisfies both partners . The men should also help their wives when it comes to domestic duties and if he badly wants to watch arsenal vs ManU he should beg the wife to excuse him and make it up for her in some other way.

The ladies should also bring up their male children to be responsible domestically like moi

kayality:

THE STYLE NO GOOD OOOOOOOOOO PLEASE DONT TRY IT

    @na2day?  50-50
             
           please bros don't marry if u decide to be using 50-50 between u are your wife.
   

!amebo no1:

you should stop generalising

chaircover:

Interesting how we all interpret the bible differently

I come from a family of hardworking professional women and my husband is still the head whether I put down £1 or £1 million.

In reality a lot of woman will be waiting a hell of a long time to find a man who can afford to 100% keep them to a decent level of comfort.

Most rich men are middle aged and they themselves started from somewhere with their wives chipping in where necessary and very few bachelors earn the kind of money you are looking for him to comfortably keep you 100%. . . . . and for the few young men who can afford to offer the lifestyle you are looking for have lots of women chasing them anyway and competition is fierce.

I’d rather marry an upwardly mobile, young man of integrity with prospects than a ready made Yahoozee boy or old baba.

nethacker:

I love u

stillwater:

Is it bacause I mentioned the issue of housework like cleaning the baby's poo, you guys don't want to do the 50-50 thing again? Just joking . You would be surprised how many of the new generation guys still have this belief, that kitchen chores is beneath them. I agree though it's the way their mothers trained them.

stillwater:

Is it bacause I mentioned the issue of housework like cleaning the baby's poo, you guys don't want to do the 50-50 thing again? Just joking . You would be surprised how many of the new generation guys still have this belief, that kitchen chores is beneath them. I agree though it's the way their mothers trained them.

stillwater:

Is it bacause I mentioned the issue of housework like cleaning the baby's poo, you guys don't want to do the 50-50 thing again? Just joking . You would be surprised how many of the new generation guys still have this belief, that kitchen chores is beneath them. I agree though it's the way their mothers trained them.

Fhemmmy:

This thread is starting to be fun.
Now men are getting to understand how the ladies feels and same for the men.

something tells me faithfulness has a role in all of these

chaircover:

I suppose this also includes paying his wife’s brothers school fees, making sure that his mother-in-law has a new wrapper to wear to mama Joke’s 60th Birthday party, fixing the leak in his in-laws roof and of course not forgetting to buy MTN phone cards for those young ladies he gives lifts to on his way back from the office.

All in a days work as the oga of the house and the head of the home.