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Re: After Series Of Heart Break, I Am Confused by Nobody: 9:00am On Dec 06, 2016 |
Broadsway: Yes, the truth is you're not over all of the hurt you felt from your past relationships. I know how it feels, to love someone and not be able to keep them to yourself. And what's more, they don't treat you right. You begin to wonder why. But in spite of all these, don't lose your head. Never stop believing in your self worth. So, you've had a couple of bad relationships. You just didn't look well before you leapt. Perhaps if you had done so, you wouldn't have had all these experiences. As long as you've got something to offer, the right man would find you and cherish you. I like to believe you've picked up a couple of lessons from your failed relationships. They are very crucial. Build yourself into the sort of woman that would be a huge plus to a man's life. Learn to appreciate the good people around you. 3 Likes |
Re: After Series Of Heart Break, I Am Confused by Jephz(m): 9:04am On Dec 06, 2016 |
wisz1:exactly... i wonder y a girl will date a guy when they re still in secondary school ...when both has not even experience wat life is |
Re: After Series Of Heart Break, I Am Confused by Seanjay(m): 9:04am On Dec 06, 2016 |
Indeed you are confused. How can you know who to stay with when you have about 4guys you are seeing already... cause you can't learn to know 4 people at once some will get more attention than others and you might be given the wrong one the attention which you should have been given to the right one, you need to let all of them goes or you take the one that has already introduce you to his family's, but is not right seeing 4guys you will definitely be confused.. |
Re: After Series Of Heart Break, I Am Confused by godstime88(m): 9:05am On Dec 06, 2016 |
Give a little break and focus on some other things Don't worry you'll definitely meet the right one when it's the right time |
Re: After Series Of Heart Break, I Am Confused by Boyooosa(m): 9:18am On Dec 06, 2016 |
Broadsway:Must you respond to every post you see here? c'mon grow up, u brought a very sensitive on board and u have all the time to reply dat idiat Its either u r just enjoying ppl responding to ur post or u dont even know what u want here.... how do u intend to grab a reasonable suggestion if u continue replying #TeamFukedBoiz? In btw, I have a gurl with similar prob, I dont even know maybe its you but most importantly; There was a suggestion Iread earlier, I dont have all the tym to be making ref: the point he or she made was, you should avert ur mind from relationship for now and focus more on other things. And you replied that you have been doing that, stuffs like education, leadership roles etc. Fine! That suggestion is brilliant and you need to just do dat for you to move on... but let me give you some tips for you to hook the right guy: 1. Try to give attention to your personal choice (among them) 2. Avoid prioritising material things over love (Let love speak btw two of u) 3. Avoid being carried away with petty things (Men dont love Liability as partner) 4. Starve yourself and your choice S*x for the next eight months and carry him along (if he can cope fine, if not rest assured that u need to restrategise) 5. Finally be a good girl to your best knowledge and make yourself happy. Loneliness kills faster than Imprisonment! 1 Like |
Re: After Series Of Heart Break, I Am Confused by decub: 9:19am On Dec 06, 2016 |
Broadsway:Hi Broadsway, Your sad experiences may have necessitated your believe that all men are the same. Relationship is a good thing and love is the best thing in life. One of your shortcomings is that you fail to understand that everyone can't be you. You give a lot in friendship and you expect same in return but in the real sense, it doesn't work that way. As a matter of fact, relationship is all about tolerance and adaptability. You are from different parents you know, and you most likely didn't grow up in the same/similar environment-spot the difference. Firstly, look out for those things you like in someone which makes both of you compatible, then juxtapose it with your dislikes in him and think of ways you will amend those you can. The bitter truth is; perfect men only exist as angels, not humans. Study people, know them and adapt to the environment you find yourself. That way, you will find reasons to open your heart to love again. 2 Likes |
Re: After Series Of Heart Break, I Am Confused by Nobody: 9:25am On Dec 06, 2016 |
Good for you I believe we should every single moment, both the good and bad. Experience is the best teacher, it teaches us what we need to know about things in life and how we should approach them. So I'm glad you had this experience and you've learnt a lot. motherfucker: 1 Like |
Re: After Series Of Heart Break, I Am Confused by motherfucker: 9:32am On Dec 06, 2016 |
Laveda: Good morning. Yes, I have moved on. The thing is that the girl is the most heartless lady I have ever met in my life and she deserves everything damn thing life has thrown at her. She never showed up for my mum's burial. But she knows how to demand money for her own things and couldn't even say send me money, I will come for the burial. I look at issues much more critically than my personality assume--which is what she doesn't know or seem to know. If that lifestyle had favoured her, would she think of begging? A girl that never said sorry for any of her deeds until about 3 years later when it was becoming clear that her life wasn't making any good. The guy she invited to the hotel, her ex boyfriend and who took her out that night, is currently out of the country. Why didn't he take her along since he care so much that night and queried her for what she was doing with me? The one that deflowered her was much older than me back then, someone in his 30s at that time and dude could be in his later 30s by now. I guess she sat down one day and started counting her past to find the "mumu" me, who was always all smiles, doing everything she wants, with the little I had back then. The funniest words I ever heard from her was "I know you still love me, but you just want to punish me first" little does she know I am not pretending. Why is she thinking like that? Simply because she felt she had a remote to control me and I think that image is still with her in her subconscious mind. Na there she go dey and she will get my IV I thank God it happens because right now, I would touch a girl like her. I have grown to appreciate extremely pretty ladies such that if I marry her type, I would easily cheat. So, I am doing my bits to make sure her type NEVER get sealed. Nah, she isn't pretty. I was just blinded back then lol as I was still growing in the game. Most times I asked myself, is this the THING I wanted to kill myself for? I am a natural giver and not selfish. I even sacrificed money that could allowed me acquire a land for my late mother's house which needs some more fixing. May be when I am done with that, I will get myself a land. I am focus and determined but this girl once told me " You don't plan ahead" Today, story has changed to "I was on your facebook profile and you look more handsome and fatter" Yimu? Same person I asked what she thought about my looks and she bluntly said you " you are not handsome" don't make the mistake of offending my type. We record EVERY details and replay them for you see, torment you by your acts and deeds. That's why few months back, she said I should help her with money and that she has toothache. That was the last she ever heard from me since. After sometime, I will pop up again. Just fooling around her huh making her more confuse hence the usual question of "does this guy still love me", "may be he still love me" "he still loves me but wants to punish me" Don't offend people who don't talk... they are have a bad way of never forgetting but punishing you till eternity 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: After Series Of Heart Break, I Am Confused by MrPresident1: 9:50am On Dec 06, 2016 |
motherfucker: Hmmmmmm *deep sigh* |
Re: After Series Of Heart Break, I Am Confused by Rilwayne001: 10:00am On Dec 06, 2016 |
MrPresident1: I'm not an expert in relationship matters as i don't even have a girlfriend yet |
Re: After Series Of Heart Break, I Am Confused by motherfucker: 10:11am On Dec 06, 2016 |
MrPresident1:lwkmd... boss, my matter tire you abi? |
Re: After Series Of Heart Break, I Am Confused by MrPresident1: 10:16am On Dec 06, 2016 |
motherfucker: No ooo. I just dey look the kain torture wen you pass through mehn *sigh* |
Re: After Series Of Heart Break, I Am Confused by MrPresident1: 10:16am On Dec 06, 2016 |
Rilwayne001: Alfa, mo fe ki e ba wa fi oju eni Olohun wo oro naa ni 1 Like |
Re: After Series Of Heart Break, I Am Confused by motherfucker: 10:35am On Dec 06, 2016 |
MrPresident1:no b small baba. Mumsy death + heartbreak? It's better imagined than experienced I tell ya. |
Re: After Series Of Heart Break, I Am Confused by esperon25: 10:44am On Dec 06, 2016 |
Hello dear, this may sound clichéd, but I think you need to heal by giving your life to Christ. You have some deep void in your heart that only Divine Love can fill. As you accept, receive, experience this Divine Love, you'll be empowered to know yourself and to realize how valuable and loved you are. It is then, you'll be at peace and will be no more confused. It's like your spirit and emotions are entangled with your early relationships, and you made some soul-ties that are haunting you. Those relationships replaced God in your life. Please say this prayer, (irrespective of your belief or non-belief system) with all your heart: "Lord Jesus Christ, I am a sinner. I need you as my Lord, Saviour and Partner in life. Come into my heart. Wash me with your precious blood. Save my soul today. Give me instruction, direction and revelation of your promise in my life, and invest the faith in me to bring that promise to pass. In Jesus Name, Amen." Please proceed to pick up a Bible and open it. God will speak His word to you through the pages of the Book. Shalom. |
Re: After Series Of Heart Break, I Am Confused by trumpclinton247: 11:02am On Dec 06, 2016 |
TIME we all fail to recognize in everything....with time tru intent of any friends arund you will manifest.....and time needs patience....very important...Give it time |
Re: After Series Of Heart Break, I Am Confused by esperon25: 11:30am On Dec 06, 2016 |
My dear young man, I think you are pretty much in the same situation as Braoadway, the op, and I'll suggest as I did to her, that "you need to heal by giving your life to Christ. You have some deep void in your heart that only Divine Love can fill. As you accept, receive, experience this Divine Love, you'll be empowered to know yourself and to realize how valuable and loved you are. It is then, you'll be at peace", and experience true power and freedom. You are still in bondage to anger, hurt and disappoint. If you want to prosper, grow and not be bound in the cycle of the pattern of your past relationship, if you want to be free to Be who you truly are, you have to forgive. Christ said in Matthew 18:7, that offence will surely come in this world. Just like you are not perfect, nobody else is perfect in this world- it's a sinful, fallen world. So the wrong people are bound to cross your path. However, we are accountable for our response to these agents of offence. You can't say for example, "Well I went wild, because someone betrayed my trust". You are responsible for your behavior. What if you got infected with HIV, while on your sexual rampage, where would you be now? Please leave judgment for God. 'Please say this prayer, (irrespective of your belief or non-belief system) with all your heart: "Lord Jesus Christ, I am a sinner. I need you as my Lord, Saviour and Partner in life. Come into my heart. Wash me with your precious blood. Save my soul today. Give me instruction, direction and revelation of your promise in my life, and invest the faith in me to bring that promise to pass. In Jesus Name, Amen." Please proceed to pick up a Bible and open it. God will speak His word to you through the pages of the Book.' Peace and Love. motherfucker: |
Re: After Series Of Heart Break, I Am Confused by Dionizy(m): 11:40am On Dec 06, 2016 |
Unless u wan to b alone 4 d rst of ur lyf, notin iz perfect n nobody is perfect |
Re: After Series Of Heart Break, I Am Confused by alaskido(m): 11:50am On Dec 06, 2016 |
After reading your message, I became more confused than you. May God help you. |
Re: After Series Of Heart Break, I Am Confused by motherfucker: 12:25pm On Dec 06, 2016 |
esperon25:Thanks I am okay now. Really I am. I no longer insult women like before or call them good for nothing sex tools. I have really evolved. I had make that post to drive my point home. Thanks again. |
Re: After Series Of Heart Break, I Am Confused by Rilwayne001: 12:44pm On Dec 06, 2016 |
MrPresident1: Sorry, but I'm not an Alfa |
Re: After Series Of Heart Break, I Am Confused by shankie: 12:49pm On Dec 06, 2016 |
many fail relationship and too many broken trust is wht makes ur heart not to be able to love again, am in d same shoe with u, am a very loving guy, friendly and caring, i av love with all my heart, bt girls keep disapointing and takin d love for granted, bt now i av too many girls dat are in real love with me bt i cant reciprocate thier love anymore, wen i say they are really in love i knw wat av seen befor i say so, bt its really hard for me to love again, infact this makes me scared of getting married because it will be like am punishing the lady i married if i cant love her |
Re: After Series Of Heart Break, I Am Confused by Nobody: 1:00pm On Dec 06, 2016 |
You are so on point KKKWHITE: |
Re: After Series Of Heart Break, I Am Confused by jomoh: 1:11pm On Dec 06, 2016 |
Broadsway: the fact is that you think you've gotten over your heart breaks but you've not. you're still afraid of making mistakes. of falling for the wrong guy. relationships is all about making mistakes. learn to love yourself and have mad fun. again learn to love yourself. of you don't love yourself, you can't love others. don't just talk or chat with them, make them your friends and confidante. you won't even know when you will start liking them. sometimes the reason we can't seem to love someone is because we take the relationship too serious. make them understand you need time to decide but use that time to get to know them and their friends while trying to make their friends your friends. tell them not to try and impress you but instead should be blunt and direct with you. 1 Like |
Re: After Series Of Heart Break, I Am Confused by whoisuche: 1:56pm On Dec 06, 2016 |
Broadsway: The problem with us is that we always forget God in everything we do. My Sister the bible says seek first the kingdom of God and it's righteousness and every other thing shall be added unto you. Pray to God He will give you the right partner. And also stay away from fornication. |
Re: After Series Of Heart Break, I Am Confused by Demmzy15(m): 2:08pm On Dec 06, 2016 |
Rilwayne001: 1 Like |
Re: After Series Of Heart Break, I Am Confused by bobbybrains(m): 2:10pm On Dec 06, 2016 |
Babe, i don't have advice for but yu need inspiration for straight thinking faculty. #welcome to the club of relationship ish. [center]FIRST POST SINCE JOINING IN 2009[/center]
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Re: After Series Of Heart Break, I Am Confused by Rilwayne001: 2:12pm On Dec 06, 2016 |
Demmzy15: Abi no be so 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: After Series Of Heart Break, I Am Confused by dfrost: 2:32pm On Dec 06, 2016 |
Genea: There goes my friend Genea with her analogy about men, women and relationships. Genea, women don't have to pay any price. Just pen down what you want in a man and have a scale of preference. No one is perfect. Don't worry Broadsway. Love will surely find you. |
Re: After Series Of Heart Break, I Am Confused by aonahjay(m): 4:11pm On Dec 06, 2016 |
Just follow ya hrt...nd try nd forgt d first love... Ya first love memories keeps coming cuz u hvnt forgttn him... Bt I bet ya..if u forget him...u gon see the truness in one of those guys..I mean the four...but wud advice ya to go wit the one dat stays wit yu in pain and Laughter.. Jst my piece of adv.. For more u can contact me via email.. Am an expert in Love issues Onahjay10@gmail.com |
Re: After Series Of Heart Break, I Am Confused by OLAJADON: 5:36pm On Dec 06, 2016 |
Broadsway:just be careful sis, what most guys want these days is just what is under you...we guyz can behave like an angel when it comes to getting a girl down. |
Re: After Series Of Heart Break, I Am Confused by Nobody: 5:45pm On Dec 06, 2016 |
Dive in only when u are ready,not out of curiosity, pity or what u think is love..u will know when its time cos I don't really think u r ready for that as u still holding onto d ghost of d past...let go of it live free n most importantly love ur self and show urself lots of super love...all d best |
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