I love the analogy used here...

"MARRIAGE is like a shoe. When you wear oversize, be ready to drag it along through out life, and when you wear under-size be ready to feel the pains through out life".

One thing about marriage is that you don't drop your shoe or remove it at any point, no matter how painful or how stressful it is. That is why I thought it necessary to write you this letter.

Dear Singles, When you are ready to buy your own shoe please take note of these three things:

PHYSICAL APPEARANCE : Do not look for the beautiful ones, the nice ones or the cheap ones. Look for the one that is your size. Not every handsome, wealthy or intelligent guy is for you, not every beautiful woman is for you. Look for the one that is meant for you, the one that aligns with your values and belief, the one who you meet at your life's journey. It is important to know where you're going in life before you think of getting a wife.

POSITION : All sizes of shoes are not placed in the same place. There is a place for court shoes, laced up shoes, sport footwear, snickers etc. We have Children sizes, young people's sizes and the adult sizes. Know where to get your own shoe. Your size cannot be everywhere my brother, your type cannot be everywhere my sister. You cannot be a Christian, and be looking for a wife material at a club. Your wife or husband can't just be everywhere. Stick to your values and therein you shall find someone like you, but when your values are not defined anyone can just match you. Discover yourself and define your values.

PERCEPTION : In this kind of shoe purchasing enterprise, you are not permitted to try the shoe before you buy. This is why it is important to seek guidance and counseling, from people who have bought shoes before or are into the business of directing people to the right shoes (Pastors and Relationship coaches). And most importantly to avoid much time wasting time, simply consult the SHOE MANUFACTURER to tell you your size (GOD ALMIGHTY ).

"You do not prepare for wedding, you prepare for marriage." Ladies these days get so motivated when they attend wedding and they will quickly want to say yes to that guy.

Wait!!! It is not just the wedding oh. The wedding is just one day. After the wedding WHAT NEXT?

Finally, it is not something you rush to the market and just pick a shoe because you like or can purchase it. Ask questions -Where is this shoe made from? (Background) -What's the size (Values) -How much (His/Her interest) -How long will it last (His/Her Character) -Who made it? (Is she/He of the same faith This is compatibility) -Will it match me? (This is whether he/she love you and will accept you the way you are)

Dear one, remember many are dragging their foot and they would hardly reach their destinies, many are feeling endless pains and wish they could pull off the shoes but no way!!! I have seen people with beautiful shoes and when they show you their foot, you will see scars.

Beloved, it is not about the physical, it is the size, you can't know the sizel from afar so come close, build a relationship first but remember 'you are not permitted to try it before you buy it'.

And for those who have purchased the wrong shoes, you can still make it your size again if you'd consult the manufacturer and let Him have His way in your marriage. God bless us all.

I got this write-up from a friend on facebook, share with someone you think needs such.

Even if one buys a shoe that is his size, there will come a time when he'd get tired of wearing the same shoe everyday, and he'd need a newer, fresh smelling, more matching one. What's he going to do then?

You also said that in this kind of shoe purchasing enterprise, one doesn't need to try the shoe before wearing it. Why is this so? Would you mind elaborating? Isn't it wiser if someone tested a product before buying it?

Lastly, is the shoe size actually the most important quality to consider when buying a shoe? Your article sort of places it at the fore and above all other qualities like colour, it's subjective attractiveness, and the matching quality. I like to think that these variables are equally as important as it's size.

Ok

I go read when e don reach FP

Xensity:
Even if one buys a shoe that is his size, there will come a time when he'd get tired of wearing the same shoe everyday, and he'd need a newer, fresh smelling, more matching one. What's he going to do then?

You also said that in this kind of shoe purchasing enterprise, one doesn't need to try the shoe before wearing it. Why is this so? Would you mind elaborating? Isn't it wiser if someone tested a product before buying it?

Lastly, is the shoe size actually the most important quality to consider when buying a shoe? Your article sort of places it at the fore and above all other qualities like colour, it's subjective attractiveness, and the matching quality. I like to think that these variables are equally as important as it's size.

The shoe size isn't the most important quality to consider when buying a shoe, but the shoe size happens to the determining-factor. No matter how good a shoe happens to suit your taste, if it isn't your size.. It counts for nothing.

WORD!!!

unkledavid:


The shoe size isn't the most important quality to consider when buying a shoe, but the shoe size happens to the determining-factor. No matter how good a shoe happens to suit your taste, if it isn't your size.. It counts for nothing.

You didn't address my first and second question.

I don't think it's the determining factor. The nature and value ascribed to the shoe based on it's look and quality, is also as equally important as the size. If size is the most determining factor, then people won't need to buy 10,000 dollar shoes in exotic boutiques. They'd just buy aba made, second hand shoes for 800 naira and go home happy. But that's not the case. Why is this so?

Xensity:


You didn't address my first and second question.

I don't think it's the determining factor. The nature and value ascribed to the shoe based on it's look and quality, is also as equally important as the size. If size is the most determining factor, then people won't need to buy 10,000 dollar shoes in exotic boutiques. They'd just buy aba made, second hand shoes for 800 naira and go home happy. But that's not the case. Why is this so?

What's the use of a ten thousand dollar shoe you bought from an exotic boutique, that isn't your size?. The other factors are quite good but many-a-time and often.. They'll tell you "if the shoe doesn't fit, you don't buy".

unkledavid:


What's the use of a ten thousand dollar shoe you bought from an exotic boutique, that isn't your size?. The other factors are quite good but many-a-time and often.. They'll tell you "if the shoe doesn't fit, you don't buy".

Again, you didn't address my first and second question. Please address them.

What's the use of an ugly, off-colour, second-hand shoe, that doesn't match any of your clothes, but sizes you perfectly? With a shoe that isn't your size, you could wear them with shoe pads, but with ugly, off-colour shoes, there is nothing you can do about them.

The problem you are making is that you are privileging shoe size over other equally important qualities, when actually, they are all important criteria that should be considered when buying shoes.

"you get married to someone and after a couple years you'd love to try another person.. Reason 'cause you've gotten so used to the first.. You'd wanna try-out a new feel".

Before you get yourself a shoe of worth, I'm pretty sure you do consider your options. There ain't nothing in life that lasts forever.

Xensity:


Again, you didn't address my first and second question. Please address them.

What's the use of an ugly, off-colour, second-hand shoe, that doesn't match any of your clothes, but sizes you perfectly? With a shoe that isn't your size, you could wear them with shoe pads, but with ugly, off-colour shoes, there is nothing you can do about them.

The problem you are making is that you are privileging shoe size over other equally important qualities, when actually, they are all important criteria that should be considered when buying shoes.

Lol.. There are other very important qualities but always the shoe size is the determining factor.

I don't know much about shoes; if it's got good specs or not.. But I do know the shoe size is the determining factor. All things considered tho.

unkledavid:


Lol.. There are other very good important qualities buy always the shoe size is the determining factor.

I don't know much about shoes; if it's got good specs or not.. But I do know the shoe size is the determining factor. All things considered tho.

Okay. I give up. You win.

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Xensity:
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Hmm..

Tho I couldn't read it all...

But u made sense...

Will you get yourself a shoe that's got high-grade specs, stylish and more.. Knowing fully well that it isn't your size and it isn't gonna suit you?.

Still you'd love to get it because it looks handy and stylish and it goes well with all you put on.. Only if it fits.

unkledavid:


Hmm..

Having this discussion with you is a bit exasperating. Just a bit. Because you are deliberately dodging my first two questions and positing disingenuous statements to conform to the thesis of your thread, whilst circumventing every point I raise.

Double posting.

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