What kind of person has a signature move in the bedroom? A sex goddess, that's who. But the idea seems primarily aspirational, something you have to develop over time — a complicated wrist move or a hip thrust combined with a hair toss. Something requiring talent. It's a skill you assume other
people have, and you don't.

In asking a few friends, only one professed to have something approaching a signature. "I think there are certain moves that have a 100 percent success rate and so I think of them as signature-y?" she said. "I've gotten pretty consistent feedback on a Mouth Action thing where I twist my head and neck, as opposed to your standard up-and-down sucking, and I let the penis hit the back of my throat in small thrusts while screwing my tongue around it as much as I can."

While this did not alleviate concerns that the move needs to be complex, her next comments did. "I guess you know it's a signature move when you notice a consistent pattern of people commenting on the same thing, which is what happened here," she said. "The reaction typically starts as some variant of, 'That thing you did with your head and your throat was insane / where did you learn that throat thing / I almost lost it when you did the throat thing, etc. etc.'

Sex therapist and clinical psychologist Megan Fleming, Ph.D, thinks you can get that same reaction without the acrobatics. "A signature sex move is anything you do that drives your partner nuts," says Fleming. But where to begin? She has a few tips.

Figure Out What You Feel Confident Doing

"The sexiest thing is confidence," says Fleming. "A woman could ask herself, how does she feel confident and sexy in her body?" She gives the example of loving your own breasts; if you know you've got an awesome rack, maybe your move involves drawing attention to them via a certain position, or dangling them over a partner's face, or just emphasizing them in pretty lingerie. That way, you don't feel silly introducing the move; you just feel powerful./p>

Keep Your Eyes Open for Inspiration

Fleming suggests imitating something you see in a movie, or in porn or erotica. It could even be a look or butt bounce Beyoncé does in a music video. "Find something that speaks to you, where you're like, oh, I want to try that," she says. "And then from there, I'd start with what I call mental rehearsal. Picture yourself in that move, and give yourself the freedom to explore it and then try, try again." With this topic on your mind contnue http://datingelationship..com.ng/2017/01/how-to-figure-out-your-signature-play.html