It's a new year, so, maybe things would turn positive this time around? You're older, more mature and a bit wiser. Why not give your past love another chance?

To be honest, if you were wiser, you wouldn't even entertain the thoughts of getting back with your ex. Things might no longer get as interesting as they use to be. Believe me, one day, this nostalgic fleeting feeling will pass. Going back to an ex is a terrible idea and I believe you'll agree with me after going through the points I'll be listing.

You know that old cliché, "if at first you don't succeed, try try again". Well, relationships are not always fixable. Here we go:

1. You're not in love with your ex, you're just attached :So many times, our desire to take an ex back isn't because we are in love with them. In some cases, it's just lust that reels us back in. Sometimes, we don't realise what we have until we lose it, but that doesn't always mean we deserve to get it back.

Your ex became your ex for a reason. You guys broke up for a reason. Taking time to understand those reasons will make it clearer if you should entertain getting back with them. Stop getting caught up in what you think you want and focus on what you really need.

2. The trust you had has been destroyed: Trust is an important factor in a relationship. It's almost impossible to construct once the trust has been broken. You sure don't want to be in a relationship where you'll start having to worry about if your partner will turn, run or cheat on you again.

3. What you currently feel is not what you did feel or will feel when you're with an ex: Being distanced from someone we care about will cause us to miss the person. The truth is, you're bathing in a feeling of light obsession, a feeling often confused with love. We tend to create fantasies about someone we miss which are more often than not, nowhere close to the reality.
Spend time with your ex and you'll become disillusioned and revert back to not wanting to have anything to do with them. It's actually our minds playing tricks on us.

There are so many people out there: A saying goes thus; "there are thousands of fishes in the sea". The world may be getting smaller but the amount of people and potential lovers is increasing. In other words, there are people for you to fall in love with.

Stop catching unnecessary feelings with your ex and move on with your life. Don't give it any more thought.

Hmmm

An Ex

When trust is broken... Juz consider it's DONE DEAL...

Nice talk... But that "many fishes in the sea" get as e be o.

Relationship is not like catching fishes o... If e be like that guys like us for don dey catch at least 10 per week... You are actually dealing with human being who have complex emotional patterns that are hard to crack or tame.

And also never forget that people do change at some point in their lives. Chances are that what caused trouble between the two of you was actually trivial, such as: "you gave that kinda girl a lift, even after I told you not to be giving girls lift! It is over!". Maybe the girl was vulnerable and needed help. ... What if they broke up because the guy saw a stupid text from one stupid toaster, who she had already told she has a boyfriend? Then they broke up. That's crazy, but it happens.

Most people know that some of their breakups were not really well thought out. So if they have a chance to go back, they will take it without thinking twice

So shiit happens in almost all breakup.

TrapQueen77:



When trust is broken... Juz consider it's DONE DEAL...

Thank you!

An "ex" is an "ex"! Its a position that must be occupied. QED!

Hmmm

I assume an ex dead once the affair is dead,the assumption makes me move on. No thinking backward at all.

In most cases it's not asif you can't move on, it's just cos of what you guys shared in the past esp if the love was mutually unconditional.

hmmmmn

ikp120:
Nice talk... But that "many fishes in the sea" get as e be o.

Relationship is not like catching fishes o... If e be like that guys like us for don dey catch at least 10 per week... You are actually dealing with human being who have complex emotional patterns that are hard to crack or tame.

And also never forget that people do change at some point in their lives. Chances are that what caused trouble between the two of you was actually trivial, such as: "you gave that kinda girl a lift, even after I told you not to be giving girls lift! It is over!". Maybe the girl was vulnerable and needed help. ... What if they broke up because the guy saw a stupid text from one stupid toaster, who she had already told she has a boyfriend? Then they broke up. That's crazy, but it happens.

Most people know that some of their breakups were not really well thought out. So if they have a chance to go back, they will take it without thinking twice

So shiit happens in almost all breakup.

Gbam!

I'm not for or againt going back to an ex but you made a lot of sense.

what if due to misunderstanding she/he decided to ask for a break and after like 2 months u decided to ask for another trial. will it be considered as a bad decision?

akaahs:
what if due to misunderstanding she/he decided to ask for a break and after like 2 months u decided to ask for another trial. will it be considered as a bad decision?

2 months break bawo, when she/he is not OAU NASU....
what next will he/she ask for... 1year sabbatical?