Hi haus, jus need som advice. Am 26+, but has neva been in a relationship; bt don't get me, ve had my fair share of, (u kno what). I kind of hv ways of excussing my self; u kno, am in sch, don't hav enuf money, no job yet, not a gud job, too busy, etc. bt now am sure am COMMITMENTPHOBIC (fear of commitment), Any advices please,

Commitmentphobic. . . . . . . . don't make me laugh you outta here!! You see these boots are made for walkin, and im gonna walk all over you!!

Nothing wrong with being a loner if dats your forte

@ jaybee, am not a loner (mel-sang tho), got a lot of lady friends, bt i jus don't let it get to the relationship part. 4 instance, durin my service yr i HUNG out with an older chic only coz the chances of any thin comin out of it was slim, and nothin did, we jus had a nice time, so, pple, is smtin wrong with me?

You are just a bloody player and ain't nothing wrong with that.
It's ur time so enjoy while it last

, player? am nothin close to that. i jus feel if i don't start makin efforts now, i'll get too old to adjust (LOL). I think my major problem is i hate failure somuch so that i'll rather not try if am not sure of a 90% success; i guess am jus sensitive and meticulous that way, bt that needs to change and quick too, so mo help plz!

@ dat is d game, don't get much involved else you ll break so many hearts, neva say dat word when you don't mean it.
there is nothing wrong with you, you are just being smart. aving and giving fun in return, at the end no one is hurt.

@ iice
-BOOTSTRAP BILL? not gud, bt no worries, the FLYING DUCTCHMAN is headed 2wards u, brace ya self! anyway, my case is not as serious as BILLS yet; believe u -me; i use to kno him!

@scemchee
avin and giving fun in return is gud, bt 4 hw lng, i feel is kinda tym 4 som consistency (not as if i eva had one), thanks all the same bro!

Proper grammar

dont worry bootstrap, u're not the only one in this,  im also a comm(whatever u call it).
have been into more than 2(if not more) relationships and still counting, 

@poster
if you have never been in a relationship then you have serious problem.

sex has nothing to do with anything, the fact that you have never associated with a woman, shared something with a woman(other than fluid), deeply cared for someone of the other sex etc then i would say that your problem is MUCH bigger than commitment!

unless you are a VERY shy person, you need professional help and nothing someone here will say can truly help you.

Atleast you know you have a problem. thats one step closer to finding the cure

Seems to me that you have never actually practised looking for the sustainable type of girl and relationship, your criteria probably puts sex on high priority and often sex-based relationships are the last to be the ones you'll be fully committed to.

What you need is to open up your perspective, a woman can offer much more than just sexual pleasure, have you ever had a good female companion, who you feel you can truly talk with and open up about the man you really are to?

I really think you've spent 26 years doing the easy, and now it's just dawned on you that a great woman and committed relationship won't just drop on your lap, and that you'll have to work hard and persevere to make one last and to enrich one, not to mention search really hard.

Mr BootStrap, the only problem u got is dat u've nt fastened ur boot straps!!!
Get a life!
One has 2 make a sort of commitment someday, And You Will.

welcome to my world though i aint scared of commitment what scares me is the girls that feign commitment and end up messing u up emotionally.so at times i dont get my emotions attached.but to think of it can a man's soul and mind be seperate.learn to be commited start by being closer to ur God.

@poster

This grammar can bring a nation together.