I know keeping boyfriend will destroy the family and so on but what if we were just friends secretly were no one knew. This way we will we will stay together until marriage and we can guarantee we wont perform any zinna. Are there any cases in the old times of love.


Taking a boyfriend does not only destroy the family, it destroys society, and those who do this are threatened with the punishment and wrath of Allah ( Wa ). Love is a sickness that destroys the heart and leads to evil and immorality. The Shaytaan will keep tempting them and pushing them until they commit immoral actions and thus each gets what he or she wants from the other.


There are many forbidden matters associated with this, such as transgressing against the honour of others, betraying trust, being alone with a member of the opposite sex, touching, kissing, speaking immoral words, then the greater evil which occurs at the end, which is the sin of zina. The fact that the questioner says “no one knows about us” is strange. How can he forget about his Lord Who knows what is secret and what is yet more hidden.
Allah Says in Qur'an: "He knows that which deceives the eyes and what the hearts conceal." (Surah Ghafir: 19)


Our advice to you, as you are still young, is to discipline yourself to obey Allah and always remember that He is watching; fear Allah concerning people’s honour; strive for the Day when you will meet your Lord with your deeds; remember the scandal that may happen in this world and the Hereafter. Remember that you may see the results of your sin in some of your family members as a punishment to you from your Lord.


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The message is a very good one especially for teenagers and I support it, but I don't get where you said it destroy the family and society?

People have been keeping boyfriends and girlfriends right from the 80s and the society as not yet been destroyed, so maybe you should explain more on this.

And how does love destroy the heart? Are you confusing immorality with love?