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Re: Do You Think I've Got A Chance With Him? by BraniacX(m): 1:49am On Feb 08, 2017 |
AfterEarth:Thought you promote break ups? ![]() Emphasis on "break-ups" needing initial hook-ups to occur, gerrit? ![]() |
Re: Do You Think I've Got A Chance With Him? by PNEUMA0001: 2:16am On Feb 08, 2017 |
yinnocent32:SHE HAVE BEEN EXPECTING THE GUY TO COME FOR HER FOR LIKE SIX YEARS NOW SHE SHOULD GO FOR THE GUY. DIDNT THEY SAY YOU DONT CONTINUE DOING SAME THING AND EXPECT A DIFFERENT RESULT?. I WOULD NOT HAVE SAID THIS IF THE GUY DOES NOT HAVE FEELINGS FOR HER MIND YOU. BUT THIS GUY I SEE IS SO OVERWHELMED BY HIS FEELINGS FOR HER AND HE IS CONFUSED. MORE? IN HIS SUBCONSCIOUSNESS HE HAS PROPOSED O. ITS SIMILAR TO GUYS NOT SAYING I LOVE YOU BUT CAN DO ANYTHING AS A SUBSTITUTE FOR I LOVE YOU. THIS IS WHY THE BAD GIRL WILL BE QUICK TO GRAB GUYS LIKE THIS BECAUSE THEY KNOW WHAT AM TALKING ABOUT. GUYS IN THEIR REAL SELF SELF WILL NEVER AGREE THEY ARE IN LOVE THEY TAG IT WEAKNESS.... SAME WITH PROPOSAL. FORGET ABOUT ALL THOSE DRAMA PROPOSAL EVERYWHERE THEY ARE MAKE- BELIEVE. READ THROUGH YOU WILL REALISED THAT THE GUY HAD PROPOSED BUT THE OP HAS A STEREOTYPE PROPOSAL PROCEDURE. BAD GIRLS ARE NOT AFTER THAT. BAD BOYS? ITS THEIR WAY. THANKS FOR QUOTING ME IT FEELS NICE I DONT POST OFTEN 1 Like |
Re: Do You Think I've Got A Chance With Him? by PNEUMA0001: 2:34am On Feb 08, 2017 |
DeeTus: OP IS A VERY CULTURED BABE THAT IS ABOUT TO MISS A GOOD GUY. THAT IS MY POINT OP SHOULD TAKE INITIATIVES THATS WHY GOOD GUYS FALLS INTO WRONG HANDS. IF YOU SEE HAPPINESS WILL YOU FOLD YOUR ARM AND SAY HAPPINESS SHOULD COME AND MEET YOU. A LITTLE INITIATIVES FROM OP WILL GIVE THE GUY CONFIDENCE AND HE WILL ASSUME THE LEAD ROLE IN THE RELATIONSHIP. CHIKENA 2 Likes |
Re: Do You Think I've Got A Chance With Him? by Nobody: 3:55am On Feb 08, 2017 |
Specifically, if I was in your shoes I would apply the push-pull. This simply ignoring this bestie, while actively dating other subjects, in such a way as to provoke some emotional response from your bestie. If this doesn't work, you best leave him for good, may be we cant have it all. Just so you know, your bestie kept you in a 'relationship purgatory' for six years. He wants to keep his options open by actively dating other people while having you the 'wife material' as a back-up plan or as some sort of insurance. Call me old-fashioned, but i don't get how a man and a woman without hormonal disorder can be best friends in a platonic relationship. 4 Likes |
Re: Do You Think I've Got A Chance With Him? by Quintessential1(f): 4:50am On Feb 08, 2017 |
Izen: We could make a nice script from your story, you know ![]() That's just an aside. But I'm really interested in how things pan out. Keep us posted, would you? 2 Likes |
Re: Do You Think I've Got A Chance With Him? by chiraqDemon(m): 5:39am On Feb 08, 2017 |
I was facing d same problem with this girl but i later knoses that she his nor my hown so hi didnt really knoses how I mean i knoses but its hard for me because u now knoses that is not u that have it |
Re: Do You Think I've Got A Chance With Him? by chiraqDemon(m): 5:46am On Feb 08, 2017 |
This thing is simple All of you that will not just make something simple are here saying give space, find anothwr guy to make him jealous Babe abeg just ask d guy how he feels n come clean with him so that u will know where u stand cos u are not growing younger o If u keep playing this complicatwd game b4 u know it u will be a lonely old lady playing with cats so just ask and know so that u can start hustling for another guy 3 Likes |
Re: Do You Think I've Got A Chance With Him? by Best1708(f): 7:39am On Feb 08, 2017 |
Don't make it look as if you are desperate to have him,my bf is like that guy,he was forming shy despite the fact that we've being best of friends and tell each other everything about ourselves and that i noticed that the feeling is mutual,i asked him blankly that"Where do i stand with you,i wanna know my position".Then he was like he don't wanna rush things,and i told him that when he has concluded he should lemme know that was when it was dawn on him.He asked me out the following month.No time to waste time,don't chase reasonable suitors away when you are gonna be a better one. 2 Likes |
Re: Do You Think I've Got A Chance With Him? by naijaGhandi: 8:00am On Feb 08, 2017 |
I have read a lot of comments here and here is my submission: Relationships don't get better than that; he.chats with you , calls you for a long time, he wants to know how well you're doing per time...you have a good relationship, only that you're waiting for him to tell you officially that you're in one. I guess you also have lust for him...yes!...you want him to formally ask you out before you have sex with him. You may wait forever then...you claim he's hot and getting hotter by the day...let him know you appreciate that and give him a sweet kiss, afterwards make him give you that hot cex you've always longed for. here are two things here; it's either the guy is shy or he just can't swallow his pride, and it's possible he's shy and also can't swallow his pride. I want you to know that you're the pilot of that relationship; he will gladly do what you want, use your influence as a lady over him and see if it works, if it works well, then you need not think twice...that's your man. Don't stop developing yourself , get better everyday, make him know that you're the best for him. ...may i also add that you are his main choice, he is only after other ladies because he fears you may not love him enough again to think of marrying him. This is your man, do not let him go. 6 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Do You Think I've Got A Chance With Him? by EngrNewton(m): 8:08am On Feb 08, 2017 |
Henrolla: Henrolla: Thanks for this comment.. The Holyspirit is the best Counselor anyone can have, everyone should please make sure they have a relationship with Him. God bless you sir. Ehen.. Izen Sis, don't preempt uncle, so he doesn't at the long-run feel you dragged him into the relationship/marriage, give him some space and allow him to make the decision himself to avoid regrets. Udo diri gi (Peace be unto you) 1 Like |
Re: Do You Think I've Got A Chance With Him? by BrainyHUBB(m): 8:10am On Feb 08, 2017 |
My dear, just have a face to face talk with him on the issue, I know guys like this...He has feelings for you but because you are always there in his face he feels he doesn't have to work hard. tell him to cut the crap and come out real or remain just friends for life..If he doesn't man up, girl get a new man...all the best 1 Like |
Re: Do You Think I've Got A Chance With Him? by Nobody: 8:33am On Feb 08, 2017 |
Hi, I feel the guy is scared, but so you don't hurt your emotions on just assumptions. I will suggest you sort things out. I mean you fix a meeting and ask questions. 1 Like |
Re: Do You Think I've Got A Chance With Him? by creepsyme(f): 9:08am On Feb 08, 2017 |
Izen:this is complicated! Pls get seriously engrossed in something else so ur mind will drift away from him dat guy is merely playing with ur emotions. |
Re: Do You Think I've Got A Chance With Him? by rex444(m): 9:19am On Feb 08, 2017 |
Izen:I wish it could be so...cos most gals even when it's clearly noted still go ahead to ask where it's leading |
Re: Do You Think I've Got A Chance With Him? by Henrolla(m): 9:53am On Feb 08, 2017 |
EngrNewton: Thanks Sir. great advice too |
Re: Do You Think I've Got A Chance With Him? by talk2aikay(m): 10:37am On Feb 08, 2017 |
Hey there, I'm sure by now you must be familiar with all the bullshit that flies around here, sieve the comments, ignore the BS and focus on the ones with substance. I really feel your pain and I wish your crush would understand and put you outta your misery once and for all by either hooking up for real, or giving you space to get on with your life. That said, I'd want you to get a grip on yourself, make a deliberate effort to think less about him, find other diversions, for now rule out anything to avoid giving yourself false hope, then fortify yourself with new friends. As a last resort; boldly take it up with him tho I have some reservations about that. Anyways you deserve to be happy and I hope you find it. Cheers 1 Like |
Re: Do You Think I've Got A Chance With Him? by getostar: 10:52am On Feb 08, 2017 |
He doesn't have romantic feelings for you...simple. You thus have a choice, create the romance. Travel to a new place together...see if u guys connect on that level. jealousy works too...flaunt a new guy and see if that would trigger his true feelings. If he still doesn't come unto you after any of these, then forget him. move on with ur life and trust me, ur type would eventually meet a man who'd so drool over u. ***there could be a twist in future u know. Long after both of u settle down in ur marriages, his brain would be 'reset' n don't be surprised he'd so pursue n tempt u outta ur home (be sure not to fall for that). |
Re: Do You Think I've Got A Chance With Him? by sekem: 10:53am On Feb 08, 2017 |
BabaCommander: You may be right about that physical feature. It has happened to me. There was a time I had this girl. She was a good girl. Very sensible. Goodnatured. Quite religious. Not demanding. And she easily understood me. People around thought we were a great match. But... I wasn't feeling so verve about the whole thing. Reason why? The girl was flat, if you know what I mean. I tried to convince myself that it is not really an issue but for where?!!! I couldn't blame her because it wasn't her fault. I am not perfect either. But we are who we are. Besides, there are some things you just can't tell someone to avoid shattering their self-esteem. So I dragged my feet. 2 Likes |
Re: Do You Think I've Got A Chance With Him? by Nobody: 11:06am On Feb 08, 2017 |
Nigerian girls eh, why not tell him how u Feel, time is running out. Na there u go dey one sharp babe go collect am again, na old u dey old so o 1 Like |
Re: Do You Think I've Got A Chance With Him? by Ekabiunwan: 11:19am On Feb 08, 2017 |
why are you killing yourself. if u like am wan marry am tell am yopur mind. if he is okay with ity...if not you move forward. na u dey hurt yourself 1 Like |
Re: Do You Think I've Got A Chance With Him? by Rukkydelta(f): 11:27am On Feb 08, 2017 |
Some girls can love sha The highest romantic feeling I can have can't be more than 3months |
Re: Do You Think I've Got A Chance With Him? by obayaya(m): 11:57am On Feb 08, 2017 |
Izen, I don't think he's toying with your heart like you alleged. I think you are scared. For 6 years, this guy has stood by you as a friend. Despite the discovery that you had feelings for him, he still remained steadfast, respected you, cared for you without trying to take advantage of that feeling or taking you for granted. Now that's the mark of true love. Not the falling in love craze that ends after 2 weeks. On the brighter side, this "wasted 6 years" has exposed you to every dimension of the man. You probably knows him better than any other woman out there. You'll be doing yourself a great disservice by holding back and hiding away. It's time to confront those fears. It's time you stopped playing games with what you feel. it's time you spoke to him in all seriousness. Don't let the chance of giving life to those feelings pass you by. Cos you'll regret it for the rest of your life 1 Like |
Re: Do You Think I've Got A Chance With Him? by PNEUMA0001: 1:12pm On Feb 08, 2017 |
Best1708: OP THIS IS PRACTICAL FROM A LADY. I ENDORSE |
Re: Do You Think I've Got A Chance With Him? by PNEUMA0001: 1:14pm On Feb 08, 2017 |
chiraqDemon: THANK YOU. OP TAKE NOTE 1 Like |
Re: Do You Think I've Got A Chance With Him? by Silumi(f): 2:06pm On Feb 08, 2017 |
if he has turned love into a chess game,make sure u are not a pawn.gals are always 20 steps ahead of the guy emotionally,from the write up I sense you are not a shallow gal u will hold on to him till he comes to that point but my dear u can keep your life on hold in hope someone will see you as you see them.it may sound hard but I tell u let him go the fight is for your sanity,dignity and Esteem u may lose all these holding on.dysfunction is not love.give him the space to conclude you are wat he needs the more he sees you around ,he thinks u will always be there and he will just wait for the next gal that he feels is better than you ,then go after her and remind you of ur sisterzone and d cycle continues.if u stay you will make him complacent with your heart and you will b a serious chairman of sisterzone kai that boy wicked,not even friend zone phew boys ehh! may God pull u true.i know ur pains.sweetheart refuse to settle move on if he catches up fyn.if he doesn't keep your head up and forward and raise d bar of your standard |
Re: Do You Think I've Got A Chance With Him? by Fourwinds: 4:05pm On Feb 08, 2017 |
Sapphire86:Sapphire86.!!! u be big girl now |
Re: Do You Think I've Got A Chance With Him? by Fourwinds: 4:15pm On Feb 08, 2017 |
Rukkydelta:y are u in darkness 1 Like |
Re: Do You Think I've Got A Chance With Him? by oluwashola4me(m): 4:24pm On Feb 08, 2017 |
1bkaye:cool! You look South African, btw. |
Re: Do You Think I've Got A Chance With Him? by Bahddo(m): 4:33pm On Feb 08, 2017 |
LeView:you are a wise lady. More brain cells to your head. |
Re: Do You Think I've Got A Chance With Him? by shakirahpweety: 5:13pm On Feb 08, 2017 |
Hello, sorry about what you are experiencing with him. I had an exact experience with a guy also, infact we were friends for 14 good years but i ended every calling or texting last year december, therefore i will advice you let go of him. if he really wants you. let him pursue u this time, remember u are a lady. Dont let anyone play on ur emotions or waste ur time. The situation is very simple to handle. Cut all ties and find ur own. Be determined. God bless. 1 Like |
Re: Do You Think I've Got A Chance With Him? by Silumi(f): 6:14pm On Feb 08, 2017 |
shakirahpweety:14 good years..I swear I can't no..that is my life.u are strong o. |
Re: Do You Think I've Got A Chance With Him? by Nobody: 7:55pm On Feb 08, 2017 |
oluwashola4me:Haha, I'm not |
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