Sexual intimacy is just as important as love in a happy romance. Watch out for these 20 common sexual problems that can damage your relationship.

Sexual problem in marriage Most couples assume that true love is all it takes to hold a romantic relationship together forever. But in reality, a happy romantic relationship or a marriage needs more than just love. It needs a healthy dose of sexual intimacy too! Love could help both of you live together comfortably in each other’s company. But if you want your relationship to feel exciting, passionate and memorable every single day, you definitely need to focus on sexual intimacy, just as much as you indulge in romantic gestures.

Intimacy and sexual problems in a relationship

Many couples start off on a whirlwind romance where they can’t keep their hands off each other during the first few months or years, but eventually end up in a relationship where they touch each other only to nudge their partner in bed or to get their partner’s attention. And that perfect start to a happy romance turns into a relationship where there’s no sexual chemistry or excitement after a few years. It doesn’t happen all at once though. It starts in unnoticeably small ways, until it gets to the point where one or both of you just don’t feel alive in the relationship anymore, and desperately seek out ways to experience more excitement in your lives.

Are you really satisfied in a sexless marriage?

Let’s face it, no one wants to end up in a marriage that’s riddled with intimacy issues. If you met someone today, and by some foresight, you get to know that in ten years’ time, both of you would be sexually incompatible and completely ignore each other sexually, would you still date this person? Do you remember the time when you would have sex at every instance you got your hands on your lover? So just how often are you getting sexually intimate with your partner these days?

Don’t ignore your sex drive!

Sexual problems in a relationship may creep in slowly, but there are always noticeable little signs that you can see if you truly care to see them. Don’t ever ignore these subtle signs. If you ever feel like having sex isn’t worth the effort it takes, it’s probably a wakeup call that’s long overdue. When sex starts to feel boring, or if your sex drive starts to go downhill for any reason at all, you need to look for new ways to bring the excitement back into your relationship.

20 sexual problems in a relationship you can avoid easily

There could be several reasons why sexual problems creep into a relationship. But if you catch the signs early or make up your mind to turn things around, you can rekindle the flickering flame of passion and make your relationship feel just as exciting as it felt during the stage of infatuation. Read these 20 most common sexual problems in a relationship, and if you’re experiencing any of these issues in your own love lives, fix it before it turns into an irreparable sexual problem.

#1 Mismatched sex drive. A man may experience the peak of arousal within ten minutes if he chooses to. But a woman generally takes a lot longer to experience a sexual orgasm. If the sexual drives of both partners don’t match or if one partner is always left unsatisfied by the experience, it’s only a matter of time before sex starts to feel like a rewardless burden. Indulge in longer pre-intimacy that excites both lovers, and communicate with each other. It’s the easiest way to avoid this kind of a sexual problem in the relationship.

#2 Monotony. If you’re doing the same missionary in the same corner of the bed every single time, things can start to get pretty boring in a few years. Experiment with each other, make sex feel exciting and refreshing by trying new things all the time.

#3 Sexual anxiety. Do you realize that you haven’t had sex for a long time? And does that thought actually make you feel more restless and anxious each time you think of it? For many couples, it’s easier to completely ignore sexual intimacy instead of dealing with the stress of confronting the issue. It’s true, confronting the issue could make you want to squirm, but once both of you learn to deal with it, both of you will come out closer and more in love with each other.

#4 Lethargy and laziness. Sex is not a chore! Have you ever felt like it was easier to just pretend to be asleep instead of having sex with your partner? You may have a tiring lifestyle, but if you’re looking for excuses to avoid sex, you’re only going to drift away from your partner instead of getting closer.

#5 Physical attractiveness. Do you still find your partner sexually attractive? If both of you are slipping into bed naked every day, it’s easy to overlook the sexy stuff over time. Innovate, dress up for each other, and go crazy with wigs or different props to create a unique experience every now and then. But most importantly, don’t let yourself go just because you’re in a stable relationship with someone who loves you. If you take your own appearance for granted and let yourself go, and expect your partner to have the physique of a perfect 10, you’re just being selfish and annoying. Try to look good, dress up, and behave just like you would if you were still single or on the first few dates.

#6 Withholding sex. Don’t use sex as a tool to get even after an argument. Of course, you may not feel like making out after a fight *unless you’re into angry make up sex!* but don’t use sex to win brownie points or force your partner to feel guilty and beg you for forgiveness. Your partner may apologize, but they’d hate you for withholding sex and using it to win an argument.

#7 Stress and depression. Stress and depression reduces the level of testosterone in your body. Firstly, you don’t feel like having sex when that happens. And secondly, your body doesn’t want you to have sex! The more stressed or depressed you are, the more you’d want to avoid sex because you won’t enjoy it anyway. Try to relax, have fun and make each day a memorable experience. Life can be painful at times, but as long as you view your glass as half full, you can still lead a happy and eventful life.

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Sex issue is a serious problem in marriages singles will never understand until they join the club.

I've had my own lots too now, I am in a better place and still learning.

Marrying virgins and good girls contribute to the problem.

Singles should try and get someone they are sexually attracted to and compatible with for long term happiness in marriage not just money.

I know a couple who dated for 3 years without sex cos the lady was a virgin till after the white wedding night with abeg self, few years later she is complaining that his libido is too high for her that he can go ahead and cheat or she gets a divorce.

Sad. Things are really happening...