One of my clients sent me a message one day and said she happened to meet a guy somewhere and she really liked the guy, the way he spoke and handled things. But she didn't have the courage to at least pickup a conversation with him because of the mentality that girls don't approach guys.

However the truth is that it is never a bad thing for ladies to work up to guys they admire. Walking up to a guy doesn't mean you have started a relationship with him or you should throw yourself all over him. You can set up a conversation with him like just meeting him and asking him for the time, maybe your watch is messing up and just give him a friendly gesture. He might want to continue the conversation with other stuffs and yes that gives you an edge not to rush but just get to know him more and see if he is someone you can really be with.

By doing this, you are not just throwing yourself at a guy but you only created an avenue for the guy to confidently start a conversation with you.

If along the line you find out he wasn't the kind of guy you thought he will be and is not ready to settle down then you can always move ahead and that doesn't make you a LovePeddler or whatever some people try to paint it when a girl approaches a guy.

It depends on how you go about it and trust me I know so many people it has really worked for.

What is your own take on this?

well said

You are being very sentimental, placing the burden on only women. The society that condemns what you are trying to encourage is made of me and you. Until we deal with our own 'demons', we have no right to tell others what to do.

How many men around you are comfortable with women making the first move? Be sincere, just very very few that's if any exists apart from you. It's easy for men to approach women because we are naturally the hunters and no one calls us cheap. So we can try our lucks severally until we get a good catch but women are not conditioned that way.

You are a man, work on yourself, step up your game and get to understand women. Don't tell women to perform your role. Do it yourself or get ignored.

There are things you can't change and this is one of them. All over the world men prefer the hunter-role because it's in our DNA. Learn and live with it.

My few cents.

Probably because some guys lack the mental maturity to handle certain issues and may end up embarrassing /laughing /telling their friends.

But the real matured men understand and know how to handle these gestures.

From some comments above, that's why I said it depends on how the lady approaches the guy. She doesn't need to do that to declare her intention noticed. Some guys wouldn't want to approach a lady also because they don't know what to expect and a turn down scares them.

If a lady should create a very simple and neutral conversation with a guy just to get a little of his attention in a decent way, I don't see why a reasonable guy wouldn't engage her in a conversation without thinking she is an attention seeker except she does it in a very unreasonable way

eyeofpride:
Probably because some guys lack the mental maturity to handle certain issues and may end up embarrassing /laughing /telling their friends.

But the real matured men understand and know how to handle these gestures.

Like girls don't go about gossiping with their friends about all the boys that ever woed them.

Some even embarrass the boy like he's an evil spirit

Walking up to a man they like is like walking up to a moving train....you get crashed

I have been wooed by a girl before and we ended up dating
don't generalise

HuntazWorld:
From some comments above, that's why I said it depends on how the lady approaches the guy. She doesn't need to do that to declare her intention noticed. Some guys wouldn't want to approach a lady also because they don't know what to expect and a turn down scares them.

If a lady should create a very simple and neutral conversation with a guy just to get a little of his attention in a decent way, I don't see why a reasonable guy wouldn't engage her in a conversation without thinking she is an attention seeker except she does it in a very unreasonable way

Well said. All d lady has 2 do is just create a neutral conversation.
Thumbs up dude.

eyeofpride:
Probably because some guys lack the mental maturity to handle certain issues and may end up embarrassing /laughing /telling their friends.

But the real matured men understand and know how to handle these gestures.

do not shy away from the truth

well, for me, i have no issue with that, my current girl happens to be the one to initiate our chat, and i took it up from there, later she told me she initiated the chat cos she loves me and didnt want me to just go without noticing her.

Am shy type wen it com to woman,atimes i wish ladies can work to me tell dy love me

Berlynn:
nah not me, i dont hide my feelings, if i want you i go for you...Its no crime!

am seen tin

Fifthcolumnist:


Like girls don't go about gossiping with their friends about all the boys that ever woed them.

Some even embarrass the boy like he's an evil spirit

Girls gossip about guys that woe them, it's our nature. But embarrassing the guy is a big no. It shows immaturity.

Majestee:
do not shy away from the truth

What truth?

Most of us get scared lol. I would never do that

Cos guys always act stupid when a woman approach them to show their love, they just misbehave so we conceal it anyway.

eyeofpride:


Girls gossip about guys that woe them, it's our nature. But embarrassing the guy is a big no. It shows immaturity.

They do embarras guys cos it's also their nature. Even if you don't, a significant percentage of girls do.

ToriBlue:
Cos guys always act stupid when a woman approach them to show their love, they just misbehave so we conceal it anyway.

That's exactly what am trying to say. Why would you want to approach a guy to show your love. Ofcourse he might not take you serious.

That is why I stated that you ladies need to just create an avenue for a conversation to start from there and leave the rest to the guy to follow you up. By know by so doing, if the guy gets attracted to you he will be the one to follow you up and not you the lady proposing love.

That's the mistake you ladies are making by not understanding the difference between just creating a decent avenue for a conversation to start and just going to show off your crush for a guy in his face.

ToriBlue:
Cos guys always act stupid when a woman approach them to show their love, they just misbehave so we conceal it anyway.

the same way ladies act stupid when we approach them