A few days ago I sat doing some serious work at home when my neighbor's wife came in to say hi to my wife. I heard them discuss and as the lady was on her way out she asked to know if I was taking my wife out for Valentine.
I casually said no only for me to hear my wife say in a retort "he's not romantic!"
For the umpteenth time I thought again in my mind " what's a wife's idea of romance?"
As a husband I make sure I don't sit idle while my wife does all the house chores and care for the kids ...I put on lots of effort to ease her stress domestically ...isn't that romantic ?
Somebody please say something so we can find the real meaning of romance in the Nigerian context.

Don't you understand the concept of sarcastic sarcasm

[quote author=Splinz post=53896832][i]Simple. To your wife, her own understanding of being romantic is to take her out on a valentine day. Failing to do so means you're not romantic.

Please next time, try and be romantic to madam.


Ok...but what's YOUR opinion?

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It is simply a case of different strokes for different folks. But then, some women from this part of the world tends to know romantic moves only on the materialistic angle- take her out, buy her ice cream, shoes, jewelries, etc.

candle light dinner...

jaszplus12:
A few days ago I sat doing some serious work at home when my neighbor's wife came in to say hi to my wife. I heard them discuss and as the lady was on her way out she asked to know if I was taking my wife out for Valentine.
I casually said no only for me to hear my wife say in a retort "he's not romantic!"
For the umpteenth time I thought again in my mind " what's a wife's idea of romance?"
As a husband I make sure I don't sit idle while my wife does all the house chores and care for the kids ...I put on lots of effort to ease her stress domestically ...isn't that romantic ?
Somebody please say something so we can find the real meaning of romance in the Nigerian context.

Well to be sincere assisting your wife isn't a favour it's something that should happen as you guys both stay in the house. Well I understand how most Nigerian men won't be romantic we got recession,bills and a thousand and one depressing things in Nigeria to kill any romantic feeling. Do you guys go out often for personal dates or something ?

A lot of money to spend after a one-night stand.
Till "I LOVE YOUs" become believable commodities in Africa!

yes we do. Just that i dont know what i should call romance since i think that being helpful with chores and all seem romantic to me...reccesion or not we still go out once a while
i just feel there may be some other definition i am not getting abi too much telemundo has caused a dysfunction of the term?

pcguru1:


Well to be sincere assisting your wife isn't a favour it's something that should happen as you guys both stay in the house. Well I understand how most Nigerian men won't be romantic we got recession,bills and a thousand and one depressing things in Nigeria to kill any romantic feeling. Do you guys go out often for personal dates or something ?

jaszplus12:
yes we do. Just that i dont know what i should call romance since i think that being helpful with chores and all seem romantic to me...reccesion or not we still go out once a while
i just feel there may be some other definition i am not getting abi too much telemundo has caused a dysfunction of the term?

Telemumdo romance is for women , if you guys go out I guess that's romantic only a woman can help us determine what romance is. Even me sef no know what romance is .

the thing jus tire me ooooo

pcguru1:


Telemumdo romance is for women , if you guys go out I guess that's romantic only a woman can help us determine what romance is. Even me sef no know what romance is .

Don't even know what it means to be romantic

ha! thats a first o! coming from a lady this is a serious issue
todays tv is filled with the romance stories women love...watch one and tell me what you think or try let a guy date you a few weeks and lets hear what you think

Rukkydelta:
Don't even know what it means to be romantic

You are not speaking her love language.
There are basically five love languages and number 3 is Acts of Service. This is what you have been communicating to her, but that is essentially YOUR love language, NOT hers. You feel by helping her with acts of service here and there, she will understand you are being romantic. So while she may appreciate the effort, that's not her button and so,she feels you are not romantic.
Try to read Gary Chapman's Love Languages book for better insight because I can't type it all and my fingers are sore already.
Good luck.