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An Abandoned Dad - Who Will Give Her Out On Her Wedding Day? by omahost005: 3:43pm On Dec 11, 2009 |
He abandoned us since when i was barely 2; now i'm 25. Myself & my sister stopped bearing his name; bearing my mom's dad's name. Now my elder sister is getting married. Who will give her hand out on her wedding day? Is it our dad who abandoned us for more than 20 yrs? or our granddad who has always played the role of dad? Who will give her out? |
Re: An Abandoned Dad - Who Will Give Her Out On Her Wedding Day? by hotstuff06(f): 3:47pm On Dec 11, 2009 |
It should definitely be your grand dad, he has always been the father in your life. If i were in ur sister's shoes, I wouldn't even invite the man (dad) to my wedding talkless of him walking me down the aisle. |
Re: An Abandoned Dad - Who Will Give Her Out On Her Wedding Day? by SeanT21(f): 3:59pm On Dec 11, 2009 |
Grandpa |
Re: An Abandoned Dad - Who Will Give Her Out On Her Wedding Day? by Nobody: 4:12pm On Dec 11, 2009 |
Re: An Abandoned Dad - Who Will Give Her Out On Her Wedding Day? by Fhemmmy: 4:45pm On Dec 11, 2009 |
I am sure there must have been some father figure in your life, your uncle or someone. Whoever has been there for you while growing up could give u out on your wedding day, but if you think you wanna invited the father to do it, feel free to do so as well. |
Re: An Abandoned Dad - Who Will Give Her Out On Her Wedding Day? by r231(m): 5:20pm On Dec 11, 2009 |
wow i am having the same issue with my fiance. well not as bad as yours cus she still bears the dad's name but my thing is why are you inviting him if you don't want him to give you out cus in yoruba land when the man is till alive and he is sitting their it will be very wrong for somebody else to walk you down the isle. so i guess its better if you don't invite him at all or don't even let him knw the date or anything about it |
Re: An Abandoned Dad - Who Will Give Her Out On Her Wedding Day? by Fhemmmy: 5:27pm On Dec 11, 2009 |
But as a kid, is she aware of the reason why the man walked away? Is she aware if the man tried to stay and the mother kicked him out/ Is she aware if the man has made some attempt to be there for them? There are 2 sides to the coin r231: Where is the wedding taking place, make i get ready jare |
Re: An Abandoned Dad - Who Will Give Her Out On Her Wedding Day? by omahost005: 6:15pm On Dec 11, 2009 |
@ Fhemmmy He walked away because he has always been unserious Mum always wanted him back; but never came back. He never made attempt; not even once. |
Re: An Abandoned Dad - Who Will Give Her Out On Her Wedding Day? by Fhemmmy: 6:17pm On Dec 11, 2009 |
Then, you could tell him to go jump into the lagoon. Find someone that cares to give your sister`s hand in marriage. |
Re: An Abandoned Dad - Who Will Give Her Out On Her Wedding Day? by Nobody: 12:03am On Dec 12, 2009 |
your grandpa can do it |
Re: An Abandoned Dad - Who Will Give Her Out On Her Wedding Day? by agathamari(f): 2:28am On Dec 12, 2009 |
your grandpa or brother (if you have one) i have seen some brides given away by thier mothers others walk down the aisle alone |
Re: An Abandoned Dad - Who Will Give Her Out On Her Wedding Day? by Outstrip(f): 4:02am On Dec 12, 2009 |
I say your Grandpa. Your dad can attend if he wants |
Re: An Abandoned Dad - Who Will Give Her Out On Her Wedding Day? by Ojame(m): 10:54pm On Dec 13, 2009 |
Maybe he doesn't want to attend anyway. After all he's been out of ur life for so long, so why are u 'worrying' about it? or do you secretly wish 'he' came back into your life? It's a sad situation, God's guidance in taking the right decision. |
Re: An Abandoned Dad - Who Will Give Her Out On Her Wedding Day? by mamagee3(f): 11:56pm On Dec 13, 2009 |
Grandpa would give her out. |
Re: An Abandoned Dad - Who Will Give Her Out On Her Wedding Day? by Confilass: 2:49pm On Dec 16, 2009 |
I'll advise ur grandpa should give ur sister out. It shows she appreciate all what he has been doing for her and give him dat respect. Let him take all what would've been given to ur dad. |
Re: An Abandoned Dad - Who Will Give Her Out On Her Wedding Day? by coolier(f): 8:08pm On Dec 16, 2009 |
There's no law that says mum can't do it. |
Re: An Abandoned Dad - Who Will Give Her Out On Her Wedding Day? by r231(m): 5:49am On Dec 17, 2009 |
coolier: hmmmmmm tradition says she can't do it |
Re: An Abandoned Dad - Who Will Give Her Out On Her Wedding Day? by sayso: 12:37pm On Dec 17, 2009 |
@poster he is still alive and he brought you to this world,that is nature not tradition,play your rule as a daugther and bring your real Father in,your grandpa only helped and not your Father.If he is dead,bring his brother(s) to hand you over to your husband ans not your grandpa. |
Re: An Abandoned Dad - Who Will Give Her Out On Her Wedding Day? by Outstrip(f): 3:59pm On Dec 17, 2009 |
r231: Did tradition put food on the table? |
Re: An Abandoned Dad - Who Will Give Her Out On Her Wedding Day? by SisiKill1: 4:11pm On Dec 17, 2009 |
Grandfather. It is more significant when someone who truly cares for the bride gives her away. |
Re: An Abandoned Dad - Who Will Give Her Out On Her Wedding Day? by Nobody: 4:19pm On Dec 17, 2009 |
coolier: Exactly, I know of a girl who's mum did it. No one can stop you |
Re: An Abandoned Dad - Who Will Give Her Out On Her Wedding Day? by Confilass: 4:48pm On Dec 17, 2009 |
@poster he is still alive and he brought you to this world,that is nature not tradition,play your rule as a daugther and bring your real Father in,your grandpa only helped and not your Father.If he is dead,bring his brother(s) to hand you over to your husband ans not your grandpa. Bible even curse such a man (A man dat can't provide for his family is worst than an infidel). Still alive but neva knew she need to eat, cloth, go to school and 've all the necessary things from him as a father. Let's face the fact and get tradition behind us. Did tradition made him to abandon her when she needed him most. No matter they issues he had with her mum, he had no right to turn his back from her for d past 25yrs. |
Re: An Abandoned Dad - Who Will Give Her Out On Her Wedding Day? by coolier(f): 7:29pm On Dec 17, 2009 |
r231: What tradition? The abolished one relegating women to the background or second place? Times are changing!!! |
Re: An Abandoned Dad - Who Will Give Her Out On Her Wedding Day? by r231(m): 6:56am On Dec 18, 2009 |
coolier: Outstrip: well the ones that i have seen in case the father is not around its either the uncle or any male i the family dat gives them away so i figure it has something to do with tradition and also if woman can do it i am sure my mother in law to be would have suggest that she is giving her daughter away not anybody else |
Re: An Abandoned Dad - Who Will Give Her Out On Her Wedding Day? by Outstrip(f): 7:50am On Dec 18, 2009 |
Well that is your family. If you want tradition to dictate your life then that's fine. Some people prefer to be in control of their own lives. It is almost 2010 and it's about time we stopped using tradition as a crutch |
Re: An Abandoned Dad - Who Will Give Her Out On Her Wedding Day? by Knight1(m): 10:52am On Dec 18, 2009 |
To those saying her biological father, i'd like to disagree, The reason for the 'who gives this girl bla bla' is not because the person is a donor in the creation of the girl, it is because there is an acknowledgement of the fact that somebody took care of her up till that point, and (traditionally) owns/owned her, if the biological father had nothing to do wiv her upbringing, then he no reach (literal translation of koo'to-yoruba) to give the girl out in marriage, therefore i'd vote for gramps!!! |
Re: An Abandoned Dad - Who Will Give Her Out On Her Wedding Day? by FBS: 10:55am On Dec 18, 2009 |
Me thinks whoever brought her up, yes?! |
Re: An Abandoned Dad - Who Will Give Her Out On Her Wedding Day? by r231(m): 8:45pm On Dec 18, 2009 |
Outstrip: madam i am just talking generally about what i see and heard o. unfortunately we don't have dat issue in my family |
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