Hmmm

Here we go again...

I rather scratch n sniff my hairy balls than read this long epistle

My husband can cheat it's a free world, but if I catch him I wont just cheat, I'll Rub it in his face!..

omowumeee:
My husband can cheat it's a free world, but if I catch him I wont just cheat, I'll Rub it in his face!..

They will come for your head.

Op your points are partially valid..
You said what is acceptable in a tradition might not be acceptable in another tradition, and that do not mean that one is better than the other..
That's wrong, because as right thinking humans, what we consider best and appropriate, are those things that brings joy to our faces, things that brings unity, things that brings love and not harm to our neighbours.. and this is where which tradition is the best comes in...
Speaking about ups and downs in relationships, yes there will be ups and downs but that do not include cheating..

Marriage is more than a vow, marriage is putting the happiness of your spouse above yours..
You cannot harm your partner by cheating on her, that is unacceptable, it ridicules the tenets of marriage..
Often times i blame ladies that are victims of infidelity in relationships..
The signs have been up there right from when they started dating their husbands..

A boyfriend that do not cheat on you, will not cheat on you, if he is your husband..

This is why our ladies must look before they leap, don't just allow money, good looks drive you into saying i do..
If your boyfriend cheats on you then forget about marrying him..

Don't endanger your happiness with words like he will change..
A cheat is always a cheat.
Ladies pls don't condole a cheating boyfriend..
Your future is at stake...

If he cheats, pls dump him...
There are still guys out there that are faithful to the core....

JUST allow GOD be your guide...

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Don't care if it hurts her.. If the urge comes to cheat, I will embrace my predatory nature and cheat...

I'm only guilty if I get caught..

Counter thread again?

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All this thread

counter thread

Not all girls are angry with her

A man that wants to cheat will cheat mbok


If you like cheat if you don't like cheat


you people should stop disturbing us with this cheating thread

A smart woman knows she wouldn't leave her home just because her husband bleeped someone else

No1 is perfect tho,

But seriously, why cheat when u married already, it's just weird. U might have done that alot before marriage, so, y continue when u claim u wanna settle down??

For example, 2face really did 'things', when not married, but after the marriage, pretty sure he stopped fooling around.

When u single, sure, if u wanna drill every "holes n cassava",(doesn't make sense though) its ur biz, but when u wanna settle down, it takes commitment, and sacrifice.

I feel most people don't really understand sacrifice and commitment.
Marriage is not a semester, people think when u married, u have made it. But it's not so,

One just has to hope to be with someone that'll understand what sacrifice, and commitment is all about. Cuz that's what love is.

Op u made perfect sense

tosyne2much:
This is coming from another realist

In as much as I won't advise any woman to condone a cheating husband, I always shake my head for the ignorance and nativity of these inexperienced ladies that are being swayed by the love movies they watch on soap opera and local videos.

Many people who are in abusive marriages today never bargained for it. In fact, most of them never even saw those signs coming when they were at the elementary stage of courtship... Meaning that, the calamity that befell Tiwa and Tonto Dike can even befall those ladies throwing shades at them, which I don't pray for (this is not the matter of "it's not my portion"

Many marriages today have its ups and downs which usually come in various forms.. Some men don't cheat on their wives but maltreat them, some beat their wives, some are uncaring and stingy, some cheat and still rob in on their wives' faces, etc

Ladies just have to prepare their minds that marriages are not as flawless as they're being portrayed in Philippines movies and Nollywood movies.

The ugly truth many ladies dont want to hear is that, what you refused to change at puberty, a mere ring can't it.. A guy can swear an oath of fidelity and faithfulness on the altar yet he will still be found cheating afterwards. Maybe because nature allow men to cheat and get away with it, while women are castigated for the same immoral behaviour. (it's a man's world they say)

All these ladies ranting on Nairaland should always pray that they dont find themselves in Tonto Dike type of marriage because if they do, they will continue to live with the pains for the rest of their lives.. By then, all these attitudes of "I don't settle for less" or "I will dump his ass" attitudes displayed on Nairaland will be thrown to the wind

I agree with you on many of the instances but there is a particular aspect that needed be trashed out. This aspect has to do with infidelity which most times lead to wife assault and the unrealistic advocacy of modern African /Nigerian ladies. There is a norm in the Western religion (Christianity) that has given Females the opportunity to increasing abuse the role naturally designed for them because of perversion on the interpretation of the Bible . And basically,the natural role of a woman is being good mother in many African tribes or ethnicity vis à vis their tradition .Although flaws are inevitable in these tradition as civilisations from the African developmental perspective were halted by the Conquering Western world. The Africans traditional setting didn't at anytime give any woman equal rights with her male counterpart. But today, you find many women overlording themselves on their husbands. Every woman married to a man want her husband to do her bidding. A married African man will tell you as a husband how his wife want him to get a better apartment, a better car, a better wardrobe for herself first and her husband's wardrobe coming after hers yet with non realistic salary or earning . She is the ones who will load her husband's apartment with her nieces ,siblings ,cousins, etc ,still with struggling earning by the man. She mostly careless and she just want to be happy at the detriment of the struggling husband. The modern African women is promiscuous in all ramification which is due to western civilization and not western education. Doubt? at tender age, she easily seduces male counterparts who had no knowledge of what she wants . Western Christianity is superb if it is followed in precept, because the Bible specifically referred to many of the great men having more than one wife. For example, Moses, Jacob, David, in fact, King Solomon had over a 1000 wives and over 700 concubine etc . This doesn't nullify the law that support one man and a woman being one union. The point here is that an African man or the Bible didn't stop a man being married to more women if he is not satisfied with being with one. The Islamic law on marriage and right is even more harsh on the role of a woman in a marriage or family because all her desire must perpetually be directed towards her husband's desire, which makes absolutely subjective to her husband without rights except her husband think otherwise. It is noteworthy to point out that soap opera,foreign mode of dressing, self pride, deceptiveness and unsatisfactory attitudes are not the only detrimental to their role as mothers whom ought to teach their children either male or female a must well behaved life style but women are naturally Cunning . And all these are expected to have been analyse critically to enhance the change expected which is due to developments in humans sphere of modern African women,in as much as they want to equate themselves to the role played by men but never practicable. For example, they claim the western proverbs; what a man can do, a woman can do it better. Is this true? Of course not, because a man can decide to have 100 Children from different women, can a woman do in the like manner by having 100 children from different men? The genuine optional role for woman is to be tender, humble, less demanding,less nagging, non promiscuous, respect the role divinely given to men as men and not seeking self glorification. Once these rules are obeyed, women will always have a man by side virtually listening to her all the time and he won't even dare look elsewhere for another WOMAN ....

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