WHITEWIZARD:
Only solution is to talk to your babe..
make her see reasons with your points, so she should respectfully tell her mom to stay off her relationship with you....

AntiWailer:
All what you are delving into is not ur 'conzign'

How she raised the children is none of ur business.

If somebody did full time and was asked to withdraw, it is common sense to know that he will just waste his life and years on part time studies because the probability of him failing woefully is very high

On her submission that ur girl is selfish. She is simply telling her to motivate her siblings to do well. If she ignore that call today, you might pay for it in the future. When your brother In law is arrested, you will not leave ur wife to do the running around alone.

On how to handle your MIL. Respect her but don't be having too many conversations with her. Most times SEND ur girl to her and get feedback from your girl.

That said, the problem you have is your 'babe' who can not shut her Fvcking Mouth up.

She is the type that tells mama everything u guys are doing and also tell u everything going on in her family.

-My Penny

Fiyinfoluwa20:


Nigga, calms don't go all James Bond on me. You do not need to use vulgar words to convey your points. And do not be childish, it's not my babe telling me even though we keep nothing from ourselves, it's her ma.

Joavid:
The reason why you feel so much of your MIL presence in your relationship is because her daughter, your fiancee allows it to be so.

she's a mama's girl and she being the only daughter, I don't think that will change.


One thing I do know & observed is ; how your in-laws treat you/interfere in your relationship is enabled and dependent on your spouse.

I can't marry someone who's being remote controlled by another person, regardless of who that other person is - that's like marrying 2 people.

Richy4:
<<<U have never even paid the dowry, and you have started complaining already, what will then happen when you got one kid out of this girl you call your Bab...

<<<You have to understand that she is a widow...who must have been struggling to put her family together....she is paying the bills, so she calls the shots for now...U have to wait when she became your mother inlaw, then you give her the respect accorded to her...and where you wants her to sit, that's where she will sit when the time comes....U are jumping ahead of yourself already...

<<<<Though I got disturbed when I read your response that said you do not want to be pressured or rushed into marriage...I believe you do not even know what you were saying or that you don't mean it the way because I believe this girl might have seen you as her husband already....But that utterances could be a big red flag for any girl....Some if they hear things like that, they will start looking for an alternative...I guess you are familiar with the phrase I don't want to put my eggs in one basket.... watch some sensitive words bro...
Every widow tried the best the can to see that they perform the role of a father as well as mother...Give her a break...

Fiyinfoluwa20:



Bro, she lost her hubby over a decade ago. And I am not discrediting her for taking care of her children so calm down.

Ishilove:
Op, you no get talk. Your MIL is possessive and mind you, your babe is her only female child so it is perfectly normal to be nosy in her daughter's affairs. Your babe on her own part is a mama's girl who doesn't know where to draw the line.

I don't see the issue here. If you aren't comfortable with the bond between mother and child then take a long walk.

Your babe herself needs to grow up. She's still immature. How can she be sending her boyfriend's love messages to her mum? Hian.