Like the idiot that kept spending on my sister even as she kept giving him signs that she wasn't into him..... She ended up using him to start up her life after service year and got married to her husband...Dude wasted two years of resources on her for nothing!

pocohantas:

There is nothing new in the article. I have read tones of articles on marrying up...being the hypergamous nature of women.

My point to you was simple, don't generalise.
There are women that prefer guys of a lower social class or same class with them. I do hope you get it this time.

tylesh:
Odiegwu!
Where are girls meeting all these type of guys?

SPEEDEPITOME:

I guess you didn't read the part where I wrote that other things should follow. I'm not in any way trying to downplay the place of money in relationships as you have pointed out.
My point is: if a girl is not into you, no matter how much you spend, she'll either leave you or stay and cheat on you.

connectpoint:



why worry about where they stay post ya number here and they'll come to you...

jfleece:
Bros u too get sense, if we were in the same location I for buy u willems and pepper soup....

connectpoint:
But How many females can be enticed without money ? even the legit ones, how many can be attracted to a guy without money ? Lol..a very tiny percentile i must say if i can answer my own kweshion

DanielGb:


This is were the dudes are getting it all wrong?

Making Money is very different from Spending Money. It is necessary for you to make the money but you choose how you spend it.

funmisticqueen:
Actually you are making a lot of sense, but i have to disagree with you on some points.

1. Women are high and mighty queens, now i am talking about those that know their worth. What high and mighty queens need is higher and mightier kings so that can both give to each other, and derive pleasure from eachother. Unfortunately what we see are a lot of pageboys, kings are scarce, so a lot of women make do. Now trying to turn a pageboy to a king is very risky venture and has a high risk of 'stories that touch' syndrome later.

SPEEDEPITOME:
So I went to stay at some big brothers' place last weekend and they talked about their relationship issues. One common point in all of their stories was they spent money on their girlfriends and they still left. One of them started dating a girl when she was in 200l, saw her through school, he even got her a laptop for her final year project and after graduation, he spent over 500k on helping her move to a city and start up her business and that was the end of them. He tried with another girl, same thing happened. All of these guys have similar stories.

When I pointed out that they were probably victims of scam, one of them said ' spending on my girlfriend is normal coz she's my responsibility and that does not make me a 'mugun'.

I then came to the conclusion that these girls probably never liked them but chose to stay with them because they were their 'source of livelihood'.

My advice to the ladies, please if you will not stay with a guy, just let him go. Most guys except few like these guys will punish another random lady for your own sin.

My main advice is to the guys: when chasing a girl, stop putting money first. Try to establish friendship and not the I-can-take-care-of-your-needs attitude if not, you'll keep attracting scammers. Reason being that, you lured them with money and that's all they'll be after. These ladies will go as far as marrying you and leave when they are done with you.

Now, I'm not saying you shouldn't take care of your girlfriend but let money not be the reason ladies fall for you. Show them some other side of you. It could be your sense of humour, your level of intelligence or anything.

Every guy has that one thing that's gonna keep people attracted to them. What I'm asking is that guys should bring something other than money to the table else your partners will keep cheating on you with guys who are 'poor' coz contrary to what you think, money is not everything.

PS: I know there are no straightjacket rules as to how a relationship should be run .
My conclusion is based on personal experience, observation, talk with guys and my recent discussion with these 4 friends.

SPEEDEPITOME:

I didn't say he shouldn't spend on you. My point is money shouldn't be the basis for attraction. For these guys, their 'selling point' was money and that was their undoing.

Backinfront:
So true. I just laugh at gullible guys who have bought this fallacious "money rules women" shitt.

If I was a woman I will do exactly what these goldiggers are doing if opportunity presents itself. You lure me with money, you finished.

Lesson: Money cannot buy love or genuine affection. It can only get you her presence.

And just like many people are present in your life without really being into you, So are the women you are luring with material gifts.

rheether:
You need to show me say you fit take care of me

Cholls:
my brothers and sisters what is dis one saying?