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Re: I Love My Girlfriend But My Family Don't Want Us To Marry. by ststyreal(f): 1:21am On Mar 25, 2017 |
Kenshinmunac:Don't worry you are bless in Jesus name amen 1 Like |
Re: I Love My Girlfriend But My Family Don't Want Us To Marry. by k9ine(m): 2:38am On Mar 25, 2017 |
Questions that need to be asked. How did she get pregnant? Where is the child's father, did he accept the pregnancy then? Who has been catering for the child, your GF or her parents? Have you met the child and parleyed with him? What's his character? Is he the obedient type? Are you willing to have your step-son as your first son, cos the mum will do everything to make sure it stays so. Are you the eldest son of your parents, if yes they will likely not want a step-grandson especially if your parents do not have one yet? Do you want to get married, or you want to get married to her? The problem most times is not the mum, but the child who may turn out to be a thorn in your flesh and/or his biological father who may show face after you have raised him to manhood and come to fight to take his child, it would not be funny then. I would ask you to speak with an elder in your kindred who you know has a good character and speaks objectively. Also talk to a trusted married elder in your church of mosque. Finally in the quite of your room and heart, ask the Lord our God to help you make the right choice and to stand for it, not minding whose ox is gored. 2 Likes |
Re: I Love My Girlfriend But My Family Don't Want Us To Marry. by ibolomo(m): 3:20am On Mar 25, 2017 |
tosyne2much:Oga 10-10. Nothing do you 1 Like |
Re: I Love My Girlfriend But My Family Don't Want Us To Marry. by Taryur3(m): 3:32am On Mar 25, 2017 |
ststyreal:Lols....pain of a struggling single mum...it showed you too started bleeping at the age of 15. I don't know why you trying to decide for us now...we don't want this particular lady as a wife and you started doing like someone with dementials. |
Re: I Love My Girlfriend But My Family Don't Want Us To Marry. by limitless777(m): 5:14am On Mar 25, 2017 |
ststyreal: Hmmmm. hmmmm the Auntie MARRIAGE Counsellor, U have valid and wonderful points though. it's GRACE that's the key. GOD go help us all no matter what. |
Re: I Love My Girlfriend But My Family Don't Want Us To Marry. by Olufemiolaolu(m): 5:19am On Mar 25, 2017 |
Harun111:no big deal. My uncle married her type & they re both happily married. If she will make you happy & its God's will stand ur ground & go ahead. |
Re: I Love My Girlfriend But My Family Don't Want Us To Marry. by limitless777(m): 5:21am On Mar 25, 2017 |
ststyreal: the possibilities that the parents to the aforementioned people supported their marriages can't be confirmed so let's leave that out. What I mean is that MARRIAGE failures is so rampant that the unexpected has become the order. THE COUPLE themselves are the key to what happens to them and their future like U rightly said. it's GREAT weighing opinions with an intellectual like U Ma. |
Re: I Love My Girlfriend But My Family Don't Want Us To Marry. by josite: 7:08am On Mar 25, 2017 |
convince yourself u are ready to bear whatever consequence of her having a child before marrying you and let your family know you are ready for the consequece and go ahead and marry her but let your wife knows the consequnce of you going ahead to marry u and expect some hostility from your family members,t least in the short run. |
Re: I Love My Girlfriend But My Family Don't Want Us To Marry. by euchariadavid(f): 7:31am On Mar 25, 2017 |
If you trully love her,Go ahead and marry her |
Re: I Love My Girlfriend But My Family Don't Want Us To Marry. by NarnieSnyper(m): 7:38am On Mar 25, 2017 |
Ďude, for the fact she came out plain is one thing u should respect and another things is.......she was 15 when she got pregnant(which i am sure was a mistake)and we all make Mistakes. If u think or feel she's a changed person, u shoułd go ahead and make ur people see reasons why u still want to marry her because she's not just marrying only u but your entire family as well |
Re: I Love My Girlfriend But My Family Don't Want Us To Marry. by ststyreal(f): 7:59am On Mar 25, 2017 |
Taryur3:But seriously tarjur3, why are you acting in such manner. Remember nobody knows tomorrow, if you refuse your brother(if truly the guy in question is your brother oooo) from marrying this lady because of her child, how are you sure the single lady you are pushing your brother to marry will be able to bear a child? Abi e get wetin you no dey tell us. Well, let Gods will be done! |
Re: I Love My Girlfriend But My Family Don't Want Us To Marry. by awakeuche(m): 8:11am On Mar 25, 2017 |
kunlesufyan:Are you normal? |
Re: I Love My Girlfriend But My Family Don't Want Us To Marry. by awakeuche(m): 8:15am On Mar 25, 2017 |
[quote author=Kondomatic post=54892996] I personally can't marry a single mom and I won't allow my daughter to marry a single dad./[quote] you were making sense until this statement jumped at me |
Re: I Love My Girlfriend But My Family Don't Want Us To Marry. by daking4(m): 8:20am On Mar 25, 2017 |
I tink u should gv it time ,to finally convince ur family abt d girl, |
Re: I Love My Girlfriend But My Family Don't Want Us To Marry. by chukagates(m): 8:31am On Mar 25, 2017 |
dominique:it is only dumb guys that you can pshycologically black mail with that REAL MAN CRAP!!! every body has his taste....did they rape the girl?? useless women everywhere |
Re: I Love My Girlfriend But My Family Don't Want Us To Marry. by bongolistik(m): 8:39am On Mar 25, 2017 |
Just make yourself rich and all your immediate and even extended family members will learn to love and respect her forever if you eventually marry her 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: I Love My Girlfriend But My Family Don't Want Us To Marry. by chukagates(m): 8:39am On Mar 25, 2017 |
ststyreal:every body fights for their INTERESTS it does not matter wether girl or boy...why are the ladies here taking this issue personal? |
Re: I Love My Girlfriend But My Family Don't Want Us To Marry. by Kondomatic(m): 8:40am On Mar 25, 2017 |
[quote author=awakeuche post=54924854][/quote]Taking just three steps in my shoes will make you understand |
Re: I Love My Girlfriend But My Family Don't Want Us To Marry. by ButterFrost212(f): 8:50am On Mar 25, 2017 |
decatalyst:I was going to just pass and not say a thing but I found myself pressing the quote option. Getting pregnant at the age of 20/21 to whatever age without a husband says more than having a child at 15. She was young, very naive and easily deceived, and we know what the world is like. It has nothing to do with her upbringing, some people have the best, most strict and disciplined upbringing but they still make all these mistakes. So you need to change your views about these issues. Op I feel you stand a better chance since the whole issue is from your end, it's always harder convincing the lady's family. Stand your ground and go for what makes you happy, regardless. I wish you the best! 1 Like |
Re: I Love My Girlfriend But My Family Don't Want Us To Marry. by TonyeBarcanista(m): 9:21am On Mar 25, 2017 |
dominique:or even after 45 (abortions) sef. Meanwhile, check your mail dear... Thanks 1 Like |
Re: I Love My Girlfriend But My Family Don't Want Us To Marry. by Intrepid01(m): 9:27am On Mar 25, 2017 |
dominique: Ooh please stop this blame transfer, it won't work anywhere. Whatever you decide to do with your body as a lady is your responsibility. Including the guy (s) you decide to give it to. You should be ready for any consequence of your actions....didn't the useless girl think about the "possible irresponsible " trait in the guy b4 opening her legs without protectives. Single mother's should look for single fathers and marry each other...... But the twist is, if your wife ain't a virgin when you meet her then the possibility of abortions can't be ruled out. What a generation.... |
Re: I Love My Girlfriend But My Family Don't Want Us To Marry. by Ekehezike(m): 10:03am On Mar 25, 2017 |
Kenshinmunac:lolz |
Re: I Love My Girlfriend But My Family Don't Want Us To Marry. by youngibe(m): 10:46am On Mar 25, 2017 |
Why all the fuss abeg? Attend the meeting first na before we know the best way to advise you on the matter. You don't know what is on their minds. |
Re: I Love My Girlfriend But My Family Don't Want Us To Marry. by JerryTemi(f): 12:23pm On Mar 25, 2017 |
I cry as I write this,although the girl is not related to me in any way but mark today's date,time,you pay for making yourself judge over your fellow human being, Have you ever called that girl to no how she took in at that age well is alright, guy you will marry and have your own kids but today will surely visit you for opening your mouth to call a woman like me a borehole because of one mistake. Bros please free that girl allow her to leave her life. |
Re: I Love My Girlfriend But My Family Don't Want Us To Marry. by jabojafa(m): 1:12pm On Mar 25, 2017 |
decatalyst:a gal who has a child to show for her only sexual relatnshp in 7yrs and sm1 with no child but 10abortions in 7yrs too who wud u choose? People make mistake @ one time or d other in their life and we are nt qualified to judge dem based on their mistake. Take Tuface n Genevive N. for example, am pretty sure alot of single guys n ladies wudnt mind marrying dem if dey had d opportunity. Finally, marry ppl base on who they are and not wot they were. 1luv. |
Re: I Love My Girlfriend But My Family Don't Want Us To Marry. by Taryur3(m): 1:14pm On Mar 25, 2017 |
ststyreal:The lady is an opprtunist, gold digger either...she should go back to her baby Daddy she abandoned and build a home with him.another fact is getting married to a single mum, put in mind that you will be the second love...her first love and focus will be on her child |
Re: I Love My Girlfriend But My Family Don't Want Us To Marry. by PeacenLove2: 3:31pm On Mar 25, 2017 |
Families don't usually kick against a man's choice unless they have reasons to believe he is not sound enough to make such decisions. If you aren't sound enough and you end up marrying her without their consent, you will be bringing her into a life of hell as your family will make sure she gets hell. If you are without a spine too, soon you will begin to see what your family wants you to see because every marriage has its challenges. When yours come and you have Judases whispering in your ears, before you know it, you will join them and give her hell. No woman deserves this. As being a single mother is now an unforgivable sin, who made man the judge of that woman? Do they know her story, her circumstances? Can a person not repent even in the worst case scenario? What has she done, commit murder? Embezzle funds meant for public good? If the single woman was a billionaire, they won't remember she is a single mom. You criticize harmless people and celebrate hardened criminals in the society. Hypocrisy at its highest. Poster, if you aren't man enough to take a stand and make your family respect you and your wishes and your bride to be, don't marry her o. Otherwise you will both regret the day you met. Family members need to know when to mind their business too. |
Re: I Love My Girlfriend But My Family Don't Want Us To Marry. by Nobody: 5:24pm On Mar 25, 2017 |
Taryur3:I don't have a child.... |
Re: I Love My Girlfriend But My Family Don't Want Us To Marry. by dominique(f): 5:47pm On Mar 25, 2017 |
goingape1: If a whole Prince of England can marry a single mum, so what exactly are we feeling like that we feel we have the right to stigmatize someone because she made a mistake? |
Re: I Love My Girlfriend But My Family Don't Want Us To Marry. by goingape1: 6:04pm On Mar 25, 2017 |
dominique:England is not my country neither the prince is my president! we are talking about culture, moral and dignity. marrying a babe mama is not morally sounded in my country (Nigeria) |
Re: I Love My Girlfriend But My Family Don't Want Us To Marry. by dominique(f): 7:03pm On Mar 25, 2017 |
goingape1: What useless culture, what has it achieved for you in the past century? What have we achieved with our morals? most importantly, who gives you the right to judge? |
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