ibolomo:

Not explicitly from what I can find in scripture. the only thing is that you cannot become any form of leader in church.
1Timothy 2:3
It was however, God's original design that marriage be between one man and one woman (Mark 10:6-8, Genesis 2:22)

How did u know God original plan? Mark 10:6-8 was used by Jesus to show that divorce is not good and it has nothing to do with polygamy but unfortunately, many xtians don't know divorce is forbidden in the Bible because many follow their desire and the pastors too don't tell truth so that they will not loose followers so the equation is balanced. So, when it comes to issue of divorce they keep quiet about the law
and when it comes to polygamy they bring it to favor especially women

Deuteronomy 21:15-17 but this one support polygamy
New International Version (NIV)
The Right of the Firstborn
15 If a man has two wives, and he loves one but not the other, and both bear him sons but the firstborn is the son of the wife he does not love, 16 when he wills his property to his sons, he must not give the rights of the firstborn to the son of the wife he loves in preference to his actual firstborn, the son of the wife he does not love. 17 He must acknowledge the son of his unloved wife as the firstborn by giving him a double share of all he has. That son is the first sign of his father’s strength. The right of the firstborn belongs to him.

adesewa4uyahoo:
No be every matter craze dey solve.... Check ursef if you have missed it somewhere, talk to your man politely about the issue and how you are feeling.... Then switch to War room mode...

am not a woman switching to war room mode is dt d way forward? I knw is not easy but as a woman u are pray dt such will not come ur way. believe me u can't endure it, Christian woman ni, Christian woman co. my dear flash na flash pray against it and be watchful.

Dottore:
But wait ooo. Is there any where in the Bible where marrying more than one wife if condemned. Just asking, no insults please

It isnt clearly condemned, but it isnt Gods perfect will. If God wanted Adam to marry more than one wife, He would have created more than one woman for him. thats why in Matthew 19 Jesus said some of these thinds God allowed because of the hardness of your hearts, but in the beginning it was not so. Besides, to know how something will end, look at the origin. The first man that married more than one wife in the Bible was Lamech, a descendant of Cain, a seed of the serpent, an offspring of Satan himself. whatever comes from that lineage cannot be godly.

Shafiiimran99:
How did u know God original plan? Mark 10:6-8 was used by Jesus to show that divorce is not good and it has nothing to do with polygamy but unfortunately, many xtians don't know divorce is forbidden in the Bible because many follow their desire and the pastors too don't tell truth so that they will not loose followers so the equation is balanced. So, when it comes to issue of divorce they keep quiet about the law
and when it comes to polygamy they bring it to favor especially women

Deuteronomy 21:15-17 but this one support polygamy
New International Version (NIV)
The Right of the Firstborn
15 If a man has two wives, and he loves one but not the other, and both bear him sons but the firstborn is the son of the wife he does not love, 16 when he wills his property to his sons, he must not give the rights of the firstborn to the son of the wife he loves in preference to his actual firstborn, the son of the wife he does not love. 17 He must acknowledge the son of his unloved wife as the firstborn by giving him a double share of all he has. That son is the first sign of his father’s strength. The right of the firstborn belongs to him.

God's original plan is made obvious in the book of Genesis (which I quoted earlier but you chose to ignore). 1 man and 1 woman come together to become 1 flesh. that is what the Bible says. and the Mark I quoted is arguably the most comprehensive passage Jesus gave on the intent of God for marriage. you can read the whole chapter for context.
And as per the Deuteronomy passage you quoted, it does not support polygamy, but says how inheritance should be shared IF the marriage is polygamous.
I stated that God did not inherently rebuke polygamy, but it was not part of his original plan, which is made abundantly obvious in scripture, some of which I quoted to you.
You should refer to Matthew chapter 19:4-6 also.

and by the way, most Christians know that divorce is forbidden, under certain circumstances, any Christian who claims ignorance is either a bread and butter Christian or chooses to lie to himself

Dottore:


1king11:1-8... Solomon married women isolator s. Never talked about God having issue with him marrying more than one wife.

Deut:17:17 commands that those who commits abominable act of Idol worship should be killed.

Lev. 18:18 advises that one shouldn't marry one's sister while the other is still alive so that they won't be rivals of themselves.

Deut 21:15If a man have two wives, one beloved, and another hated, and they have born him children, both the beloved and the hated; and if the firstborn son be hers that was hated:

1tim3:12 A bishop then must be blameless, the husband of one wife... Meaning that non bishop's "is allowed to" marry more than one wife.

1tim3:12:Let the deacons be the husbands of one wife,.. (so if you are not a deacon or aspiring to be one, you can take up more than one wife)

Tutus 1:6 If any be blameless, the husband of one wife, (Paul commending Titus and qualities of one that should be a bishop)

1cor7:1-16 let everyone get married if they so desire... (this is a little bit relevant to the question I asked but no direct injunction to keep to one wife)

Eph5:25 to 33Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church...

So you agree with me that there's no placeentioned in Bible that has a direct injunction against polygamy. If you still feel otherwise kindly come up with relevant references pls. Bible rules have always been straightforward and easy to understand e.g. Though shall not kill, though shall not steal etc

Interesting! But then, have you noticed that in the bible,Jesus Christ never made use of "wives" but "wife"?

bamisepeters:
Some questions were raised in church today, and as a relationship blogger i am concerned about that which i can really talk about even while asleep. Among those questions are these two:

1. As a Jesus-like woman, what will you do when you find out that your husband and your family nurse are having an affair and whenever he is sick the only healer is the nurse?

2. Your husband, a religious one for that matter has an Alhaja who is pregnant for him, what will you do as a true Christian wife?

I am not a woman so i may not be able to answer this question. However, left to me, when we get to the bridge we shall cross it somehow.

A woman responded that the woman should first ask herself what she has done or what she is doing wrong to warrant such situation before concluding.

We know a Muslim woman may not really count the second question as an issue, but as a righteous woman(a true believer in Christ) who doesn't want to take action that will displease God, what will you do in this situation?

Your response will definitely help someone and a home as a whole.

Source: http://bamisepeters..nl/2017/03/as-christ-like-woman-what-will-you-do.html

This is a really tough situation


I think I will give both of them a break .

It's better I move out than die of heartbreak

jabojafa:
i dnt agree wit ur assertion abt Christ supporting divorce. If wot u said is true why wud Christ advice us to forgive 7*70time per day. And why wud d bible say a divorced man/woman is guity of fornication if they remarry while deir ex is still alive? Go back and read that scripture dt talks abt divorce again in different version for beta understanding and ask d Holy Spirit to interprete it to you. 1luv

Oga,when you wife continues collecting different dicks. Forgive you hear? 1luv too

Don't mind them @ teeghurl.
God doesn't support divorce indeed. Does he support adultery, fornication, lying...backstabbing? Yet 'christians' do these every single day!
That's why once I am having a transaction with someone and he/she says that 'I am a christian' line. I immediately become wary. They'll deal with you and have a bible verse to justify it. If they don't find one, they'll twist one to serve the purpose.

No wonder lots of women are unhappy in marriages. Some have lost their sense of dignity. They spend all their lives praying for community dicks at the expense of their happiness because God doesn't want divorce.

Get this

ibolomo:

God's original plan is made obvious in the book of Genesis (which I quoted earlier but you chose to ignore). 1 man and 1 woman come together to become 1 flesh. that is what the Bible says. and the Mark I quoted is arguably the most comprehensive passage Jesus gave on the intent of God for marriage. you can read the whole chapter for context.
And as per the Deuteronomy passage you quoted, it does not support polygamy, but says how inheritance should be shared IF the marriage is polygamous.
I stated that God did not inherently rebuke polygamy, but it was not part of his original plan, which is made abundantly obvious in scripture, some of which I quoted to you.
You should refer to Matthew chapter 19:4-6 also.

and by the way, most Christians know that divorce is forbidden, under certain circumstances, any Christian who claims ignorance is either a bread and butter Christian or chooses to lie to himself

Matthew 19 New International Version (NIV)
Divorce
19 When Jesus had finished saying these things, he left Galilee and went into the region of Judea to the other side of the Jordan. 2 Large crowds followed him, and he healed them there.
3 Some Pharisees came to him to test him. They asked, “Is it lawful for a man to divorce his wife for any and every reason?”
4 “Haven’t you read,” he replied, “that at the beginning the Creator ‘made them male and female,’[ a ] 5 and said, ‘For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh’[ b ]? 6 So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate.” Mathew is talking about divorce not matter of polygamy or monogamy. U said Deuteronomy 21:15 does not support polygamy, if so, y God does not say it is forbidden or whoever has married more than one wife should divorce them (ie reduce to 1) but instead he gave the law about the sharing of inheritance to avoid injustice. How and y does this verse not polygamy?

Ngasky:

Did the bible calls it infedility? Pls which verse in the Bible prohibit marrying more than one wife?
We should differentiate between customs and religious guidelines

I am confused here was Jesus married before beign crucified?

Honestly i have to come in here. Good question.

When people say we should emulate christ on the issue of marriage. I used to be comfused too.

Christ nor any of his disciples never marry. The only marriage Jesus is interested of is his own marriage on the last day. which is the bride and bridegroom.

poik:



It isnt clearly condemned, but it isnt Gods perfect will. If God wanted Adam to marry more than one wife, He would have created more than one woman for him. thats why in Matthew 19 Jesus said some of these thinds God allowed because of the hardness of your hearts, but in the beginning it was not so. Besides, to know how something will end, look at the origin. The first man that married more than one wife in the Bible was Lamech, a descendant of Cain, a seed of the serpent, an offspring of Satan himself. whatever comes from that lineage cannot be godly.

Let's not argue on presumptions my dear. Can you tell me anybody in the Bible that God punished or condemned because of polygamy.

Can you tell me where there is a definite injunction against polygamy in the Bible.

Cain Killed Abel, whom did he marry. Who are his descendants today.

Some people are the seeds of people that God personally chose as His own yet they turned out to be evil e.g.Absalom. So were the seeds of evil people yet they turned out to be gods favorite e.g. Jonathan son of Saul.

myking95:


I like u....smart answer. But what beats me is that the same women crying foul now, when they meet a responsible man who truly loves them, they wikk decide to make the man's life a living hell. If I have a woman who cares about me as much as these "Christian" ladies prescribe...if only, but na Christian men dey suffer pass, na dem go dey bargain with the wife to get sex , and put up with insults because the woman feels his religion won't allow him look outsyd, the reason why most experienced men will rather die than be vulnerable to a woman in the name of love....when man loves a woman he doesnt hurt her..and make it look like its her fault, and also a woman who that truly loves her husband...(not one bullied into submission) will give her all.

most Bible-thumping, Church-going 'Christian' ladies in Nigeria are sexually frustrated prudes who tend to pour their frustrations on their husbands.

Dottore:
But wait ooo. Is there any where in the Bible where marrying more than one wife if condemned. Just asking, no insults please

No where! Bet as a logical man, one wife is one issue.
Two wives = two issues!

Dindondin:

No where! Bet as a logical man, one wife is one issue.
Two wives = two issues!

Everything has advantages and disadvantages

safarigirl:
most Bible-thumping, Church-going 'Christian' ladies in Nigeria are sexually frustrated prudes who tend to pour their frustrations on their husbands.

Don't mind them!
Go to women conventions in church and hear stories from 'Christian women'. They think it's only men that are sexually starved. What else do they tell these women if not the usual... "pray for him and focus on your kids".

Some of these women are emotional wrecks, waiting to break down.

Lilyqueeny:





This is a really tough situation


I think I will give both of them a break .

It's better I move out than die of heartbreak

but do you know that at time chopping off the jead is not the solution for headache?

bamisepeters:
but do you know that at time chopping off the jead is not the solution for headache?

Yes I know but not all ladies can bear it

for number 1, I won't make any fuss about it cos its in most men, rather i will continue to pray for him and make him pay in my own coin cos its painful.
for number 2, i will wait for the alhaja to give birth, visit her n the baby, discuss the welfare of the child with her as i wouldn't want any scandal for my family, as for my hubby................................

Dottore:

Everything has advantages and disadvantages

meaning...
You ll prefer having to deal with two, three, four or more people at a time instead of one?
Deal with one wife your entire lifetime. It's an economic & logical advise.
Scout well for your kinda beauty, complexion, curves, character, skills etc.

Lilyqueeny:




Yes I know but not all ladies can bear it

that is true though, however, there are better options than packing out. I know it will be though time to make decision but thorough considerations must be put in place.

Communication is really important in any relationship. The first thing is the husband has seen something in the wife that he doesn't like, what he should have done was to sit her down and tell her, if its the nagging, dressing, snoring, laziness, or whatever they should have iron it out before things got this wrong. If the husband is truly God fearing I believe this is what he should have done, if a God fearing person sees temptation they will definitely run. On the second issue, hmmmmm the deed has been done, if its a one night stand that caused it, might be a mistake but if its habitually, that's really a strong thing. I will advice they both sit down and talk, if the husband will take the child only without marrying the alhaja better but if he will taking her as a second wife, it will be very hard to please both parties.....hence the wife better stay away.

bamisepeters:
that is true though, however, there are better options than packing out. I know it will be though time to make decision but thorough considerations must be put in place.

what consideration if I may ask

PaperLace:
I will do exactly what he would do as a christ like man.
What will he do if I am fuc.king my doctor?
What will he do if he finds out our child was gotten out of an affair?

I'm sorry, I won't ask myself what I am doing wrong. If I did anything wrong unconsciously, he should communicate_not go fuc.king around. I can forgive a one-time affair. But a serial cheat, even add am pregnancy. Nah...we done. Even the bible supports divorce on such ground.

wise words, a one time affair is different from serial cheating which no woman should accommodate, every human has weaknesses, but when that weakness is your inability to tame your libido which tends to put you on a thin border line between a human and an animal, then there is no point staying. A husband is not a baby, he knows what is right and wrong

PaperLace:

Don't mind them!
Go to women conventions in church and hear stories from 'Christian women'. They think it's only men that are sexually starved. What else do they tell these women if not the usual... "pray for him and focus on your kids".

Some of these women are emotional wrecks, waiting to break down.

with their eyebrows that look as frustrated as them

ibolomo:

God's original plan is made obvious in the book of Genesis (which I quoted earlier but you chose to ignore). 1 man and 1 woman come together to become 1 flesh. that is what the Bible says. and the Mark I quoted is arguably the most comprehensive passage Jesus gave on the intent of God for marriage. you can read the whole chapter for context.
And as per the Deuteronomy passage you quoted, it does not support polygamy, but says how inheritance should be shared IF the marriage is polygamous.
I stated that God did not inherently rebuke polygamy, but it was not part of his original plan, which is made abundantly obvious in scripture, some of which I quoted to you.
You should refer to Matthew chapter 19:4-6 also.

and by the way, most Christians know that divorce is forbidden, under certain circumstances, any Christian who claims ignorance is either a bread and butter Christian or chooses to lie to himself

...what you are implying is since polygamy is not expressly forbidden then it is not a sin....therefore you marrying two wives does not make you a candidate of hell... Abi....then QED, no too much talk

Shafiiimran99:
Matthew 19 New International Version (NIV)
Divorce
19 When Jesus had finished saying these things, he left Galilee and went into the region of Judea to the other side of the Jordan. 2 Large crowds followed him, and he healed them there.
3 Some Pharisees came to him to test him. They asked, “Is it lawful for a man to divorce his wife for any and every reason?”
4 “Haven’t you read,” he replied, “that at the beginning the Creator ‘made them male and female,’[ a ] 5 and said, ‘For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh’[ b ]? 6 So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate.” Mathew is talking about divorce not matter of polygamy or monogamy. U said Deuteronomy 21:15 does not support polygamy, if so, y God does not say it is forbidden or whoever has married more than one wife should divorce them (ie reduce to 1) but instead he gave the law about the sharing of inheritance to avoid injustice. How and y does this verse not polygamy?

where is it written in the scripture you keep quoting that polygamy is allowed? It only talks about the proceeds of such polygamous act, and that any man who marries more than a wife should not be irresponsible to reject one's child and accept the other. So far, you have failed to give more than one passage to support your ideology.
Any theological ideology that lacks two to three passages to support is just plain wrong.
"For in the mouth of two to three witnesses shall the truth be established": that is standard theological practice.
Also, I would like you to show a passage where polygamy ended in a favourable ending.
starting from Abraham (who ended up chasing the second 'wife' away) and only married again after Sarah died.
David, who married several wives ended up pitching one against the other, (Absalom killing his half brother, Amnon).
Solomon, the king of polygamy, his love for many women plotted his downfall.
I could go on and on, but polygamy NEVER pays, and the examples are abundant in scripture.
again I restate, the design of God right from Genesis was that 1 man and 1 woman come together. If He wanted polygamy, He would have removed two ribs and made two Eves.
It is also clearly stated (even in the early church where polygamy was rampant in the then Israel) that any one who has more than one wife is not allowed to serve as a leader or even a passive deacon, and is not considered as an Elder on the church, capable of giving counsel to people(1 Timothy 3:2, Titus 1:6)
Now ask yourself why the Bible would say such if he wanted a Child of God to engage in polygamy. And by the way, every child of God is a King and Priest (Revelations 1:6)(a leader, first to his family, and then to others), so if a leader is not allowed to have two wives, and every child of God (a married man) is essentially a leader (a priest), what does that infer?

Finally, the Bible says that whatever would cause a brother to stumble, we should refrain from doing it (Roman's 14:13, 1 Corinthians 8:13). Also, the Bible says that all things may be lawful, but not all things are expedient (1 Corinthians 10:23). Many people will see a polygamous Christian as a bad example, and it may even cause people to stumble (leave Christ). So even IF polygamy is remotely allowed in scripture, it would still be wrong to do it.
God bless you and Good evening

mvem:
...what you are implying is since polygamy is not expressly forbidden then it is not a sin....therefore you marrying two wives does not make you a candidate of hell... Abi....then QED, no too much talk

I never said that, please provide a scripture where polygamy is forbidden for a child of God?

here is the comment I gave to someone else in this topic:

where is it written in the scripture you keep quoting that polygamy is allowed? It only talks about the proceeds of such polygamous act, and that any man who marries more than a wife should not be irresponsible to reject one's child and accept the other. So far, you have failed to give more than one passage to support your ideology.
Any theological ideology that lacks two to three passages to support is just plain wrong.
"For in the mouth of two to three witnesses shall the truth be established": that is standard theological practice.
Also, I would like you to show a passage where polygamy ended in a favourable ending.
starting from Abraham (who ended up chasing the second 'wife' away) and only married again after Sarah died.
David, who married several wives ended up pitching one against the other, (Absalom killing his half brother, Amnon).
Solomon, the king of polygamy, his love for many women plotted his downfall.
I could go on and on, but polygamy NEVER pays, and the examples are abundant in scripture.
again I restate, the design of God right from Genesis was that 1 man and 1 woman come together. If He wanted polygamy, He would have removed two ribs and made two Eves.
It is also clearly stated (even in the early church where polygamy was rampant in the then Israel) that any one who has more than one wife is not allowed to serve as a leader or even a passive deacon, and is not considered as an Elder on the church, capable of giving counsel to people(1 Timothy 3:2, Titus 1:6)
Now ask yourself why the Bible would say such if he wanted a Child of God to engage in polygamy. And by the way, every child of God is a King and Priest (Revelations 1:6)(a leader, first to his family, and then to others), so if a leader is not allowed to have two wives, and every child of God (a married man) is essentially a leader (a priest), what does that infer?

Finally, the Bible says that whatever would cause a brother to stumble, we should refrain from doing it (Roman's 14:13, 1 Corinthians 8:13). Also, the Bible says that all things may be lawful, but not all things are expedient (1 Corinthians 10:23). Many people will see a polygamous Christian as a bad example, and it may even cause people to stumble (leave Christ). So even IF polygamy is remotely allowed in scripture, it would still be wrong to do it.
God bless you and Good evening

Dottore:
But wait ooo. Is there any where in the Bible where marrying more than one wife if condemned. Just asking, no insults please

What I know is that in the beginning God created one man one woman.That's Adam and Eve,not Adam and Eve's.

opey112:
What I know is that in the beginning God created one man one woman.That's Adam and Eve,not Adam and Eve's.

And same God said "go into the world, increase and multiply" and he never punished anyone because of polygamy

bamisepeters:
Some questions were raised in church today, and as a relationship blogger i am concerned about that which i can really talk about even while asleep. Among those questions are these two:

1. As a Jesus-like woman, what will you do when you find out that your husband and your family nurse are having an affair and whenever he is sick the only healer is the nurse?

2. Your husband, a religious one for that matter has an Alhaja who is pregnant for him, what will you do as a true Christian wife?

I am not a woman so i may not be able to answer this question. However, left to me, when we get to the bridge we shall cross it somehow.

A woman responded that the woman should first ask herself what she has done or what she is doing wrong to warrant such situation before concluding.

We know a Muslim woman may not really count the second question as an issue, but as a righteous woman(a true believer in Christ) who doesn't want to take action that will displease God, what will you do in this situation?

Your response will definitely help someone and a home as a whole.

Source: http://bamisepeters..nl/2017/03/as-christ-like-woman-what-will-you-do.html

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Dottore:
But wait ooo. Is there any where in the Bible where marrying more than one wife if condemned. Just asking, no insults please

Honestly No where in the bible, one wife one husband is oyinbo culture, or Church doctrine. God never condemn anyone in the bible for marry two wives. God only condemn divorce.
However I will not encourage polygamy, the disadvantage is far more than advantages.

Dottore:
But wait ooo. Is there any where in the Bible where marrying more than one wife if condemned. Just asking, no insults please

Yes. From the beginning, it is 'a' man and 'a' woman. Not 'some' or two.