am talking about naija girls that are abroad, whether in USA, UK, AUSTRALIA, ASIA or any country outside naija looking forward to going home to get a husband

what are the things she needs to do, well some naija girls abroad are in this situation but never really talk about it
what character is she supposed to have
any advice

First question is, why don't you wanna marry a naija man located abroad?

H2O2:

First question is, why don't you wanna marry a naija man located abroad?

double gbam!

trouble sleep jeje! monkey go dey find am! " "

anyway @ topic if you serious about importing a husband from 9ja

i've got some questions for yah

how long have you lived outside 9ja
how many close friends yah got?
how old are yah?
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Never in our cultural history has there being a Husband Grooming Institution. With the recent economic trends, were University education seems worthless; after spending 4-6years studying, you want be able lay your hands on a good means of livelihood.

I think it's high time one established.

The education curriculum will last for five years. . . . . .

I will be back lemme sleep small.

saintneo:

Never in our cultural history has there being a Husband Grooming Institution. With the recent economic trends, were University education seems worthless; after spending 4-6years studying, you want be able lay your hands on a good means of livelihood.

I think it's high time one established.

The education curriculum will last for five years. . . . . .

I will be back lemme sleep small.

are u confused or something?
@poster
It depends, as ikamefa said ans her question then,

saintneo:

Never in our cultural history has there being a Husband Grooming Institution. With the recent economic trends, were University education seems worthless; after spending 4-6years studying, you want be able lay your hands on a good means of livelihood.

I think it's high time one established.

The education curriculum will last for five years. . . . . .

I will be back lemme sleep small.

jonny miss road
lay off cheap drugs m8

Put an ad in one of the national dailies . You'll get loads of applications!

saintneo:

Never in our cultural history has there being a Husband Grooming Institution. With the recent economic trends, were University education seems worthless; after spending 4-6years studying, you want be able lay your hands on a good means of livelihood.

I think it's high time one established.

The education curriculum will last for five years. . . . . .

I will be back lemme sleep small.

coolier:

Put an ad in one of the national dailies . You'll get loads of applications!

Good idea, though she will have prob of choice.

Oh simple! Budget thousands of dollars for the mission, be ready to build him a house, send his younger sister to school and also pay for his mamas health care, You make it sound like theres a market where you pick husbands in Naija here, 
there are good men everywhere ! you dont have to come home to pick one!

hehehe, wahala dey ooo!!!

@poster,
Contact me to supply you one and your frens too.

Just get in touch with me with your CV (yes now!you are applying for a husband aint ya?)
I'm considering running a consultancy, by the way, this is my account number:002233444555  for the voluntary service charge  

The girls should come and sample for us here.

Well, just be attending events in Nigeria, and always associate freely with Nigeria based girls and guys.

sarcasm sarcasm sarcasm  

is that all you guys got
its just a simple question,
i was just asking about the character that a naija man will want to see in a woman

my reason is cos i never dated a naija guy
and when i tried dating i noticed that
most of the things i would'nt consider a big deal is seen as a  

thats why i asked

mrperfect:

Well, just be attending events in Nigeria, and always associate freely with Nigeria based girls and guys.

thanks atleast you were sincere and gave a reasonable answer

hickybrax:

sarcasm sarcasm sarcasm

is that all you guys got
its just a simple question,
i was just asking about the character that a naija man will want to see in a woman

my reason is cos i never dated a naija guy
and when i tried dating i noticed that
most of the things i would'nt consider a big deal is seen as a
thats why i asked
thanks atleast you were sincere and gave a reasonable answer

U need quite along time to really know any husband materia, knowing fully well that u are from Europ may make him put up his best side. . . leaving the nasty side when the marriage is done and dusted.

I suggest u take ur time and pick, don't do Take Way,

Well I could talk about the ones I know in UK,

I know so many girls who have "run some serious mileage" and it got so bad that everybody knows each other, if a guy picks up a lady within months the news would get get back to him that, bobo your babe used to be our area champion" I know some who have emigrated to US or Canada but the news reach them there, so the next option is to go to Nigeria and come back with a man, by the time they get back to europe they would just move to Manchester or Liverpool and start a new life without the risk of exposing the ladies past, but the ones who come back to London, sometimes the news would filter back to the bobo that ha ha ha na real shownana you marry for house (because Naija man would let the cat out somehow) or by the time the Nigerian guy's eye become open that "why have Burger, when you could have steak" thats when he would be looking outside!!!

Its a complicated issue but I would never support it,

Though finding it hard to advice you because i see situations like that all the time where i am and i keep asking myself what ever you are running from in shokoto you might meet it as well also in sokoto.

If you have your papers already please relocate for the time being to naija for maybe one to two years and mix up. I believe definitely you can hook up with the right one or just try to frequent home as from now on and always mix up with people around and your friends as well.

Please when going back home don't live where people know you or can easily notice that you came from abroad because that will bring either a positive or negative signal to your person. Please shine your eyes because not all that glitters are gold and try to humble yourself and learn how they role over there and be willingly to adapt to the changes you find.

Best of luck.  

Pharoh:


If you have your papers already please relocate for the time being to naija for maybe one to two years and mix up. I believe definitely you can hook up with the right one or just try to frequent home as from now on and always mix up with people around and your friends as well.

Best of luck.  

thats why i am also in NL am hoping i could build up my communication skills with nigerians, i dont have nigerian friends where i am,  and i noticed that i really dont know much about naija way of life, especially when it comes to relationships
(what to do and what not to do)

hickybrax:

am talking about naija girls that are abroad, whether in USA, UK, AUSTRALIA, ASIA or any country outside naija looking forward to going home to get a husband

what are the things she needs to do, well some naija girls abroad are in this situation but never really talk about it
what character is she supposed to have
any advice

Good Cook
Dont Nag too much
Clean/Good Dress Sense
Respect him, his family and his friends
God Fearing
Educated and Hardworking
Be reserved but dont take no bullshit

erm i think dats it

^^^^
i see

as per character; the girl should be reasonable and be able to distinguish between black and white.

tboy1:

Good Cook
Dont Nag too much
Clean/Good Dress Sense
Respect him, his family and his friends
God Fearing
Educated and Hardworking
Be reserved but dont take no bullshit

erm i think dats it

I want to believe that the husband to be must meet the above qualities right?

otokx:

as per character; the girl should be reasonable and be able to distinguish between black and white.

And the man?

justwise:

I want to believe that the husband to be must meet the above qualities right?

No he was advising her about the quality she need to be able to put up with a Nigerian man.

hickybrax:

^^^^
i see

Just start with what tboy has told you and please don't always try to follow the crowd, use your head and personal judgment as well. Be helpful to him in every way you can excluding sex, i mean help him by advising him in a humble manner about his career, character, life and what you expect from him.

hickybrax:

thats why i am also in NL am hoping i could build up my communication skills with nigerians, i dont have nigerian friends where i am,  and i noticed that i really dont know much about naija way of life, especially when it comes to relationships
(what to do and what not to do)

Nairaland will help you but like i told you before use your head because this place is a representation of diverse character and mindset so pick the good stuffs only. Did you grow up in Nigeria or where you are? I guess you will be at the eastern part if you don't have many Nigerians around you.

I will try to come up with something for this part and you can throw t to the guys as well, i believe they will help you and give you sincere advice because we are not the stereotypes ladies think we are. Watch out also for the ladies advice, each party might want to draw you nearer to their idea so use your head in interpreting every response here.

u lot make me laugh.

I am one of these women based abroad and marrying someone in nigeria, however, we met thru a mutual friend and its not for papers or anything like that as I am moving to nigeria.

anyway to the poster - there is no method except make friends (both male and female) during visits to nigeria and let people know you exsist. thats all i can say.

it does work for some people but it takes a lot of work, sacrifice, understanding and compromising for both parties (i'm sure my fiance puts up with some of my weird behaviour cos i didn't grow up in nigeria).

remember you don't look for a husband it is a man that looks for a wife. i was at the start of a relationship when i met my fiance and he is the one that pursued me until i agreed so don't look for a husband. just do the right things for him to find you

remember you don't look for a husband it is a man that looks for a wife.

Really!!!! this is not the Four Figure table era, This is the BROADBAND era, you go out and take whats yours

u lot make me laugh.

I am one of these women based abroad and marrying someone in nigeria, however, we met thru a mutual friend and its not for papers or anything like that as I am moving to nigeria.

No one is talking about papers here, just if you have your papers already then you will be free to move out and get what you want. Will you move out when you don't have the required working hours for your permit?

@poster,
Just be you and you will find one.and make sure you can be trusted.thats all

Sister its going to be a long cause 4 u bt u hav 2 be careful. Most of d guys wud come 4 what use u can be 2 them not who u are. U have 2 be carefull. Maybe u can start by gettn networkd on nairaland. There r a lot of nice naija guys ova here n there r a lot of crooks n scammers here. Or you may try spendin ur holidays ova here. Hang out wit family,friends n make a some of naija grown friends. D truth is this,neva tell people what u r searching 4 or who u are,ur financial status cos even ladies u meet may misdirect u.
Lastly i like d fact dat u come out boldly wit wot u want,seekn advice 2 get it. There r lots of gud caring guys in d midst of d wolves,n God will help u get one u deserve.A gud naija guy is very patient,caring,tolerant,loving n above all down 2 earth unlike d whyties He'll make a gud relationship u neva imagined. D ladies know dat,forget all their bashing of naija guys on NL. They cant stop havn us

i too agree.
just want to add frequent nija more socialise,or go to church and you might possibly meet the right man

Kelvinj:

are u confused or something?

Nope, i aint confused; it's just funny that someone will wake up to start prospecting for naija husband living in naija.

1. what happened to the guys out there?
2. what happened to the guys the poster knew prior to travellin abroad?
3. If she has being living abroad all her life what happened to the peeps she met while she grew up?
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H2O2:

jonny miss road
lay off cheap drugs m8

Take a look at the drooling lunatic accusing me of being on cheap drugs. i aint on any stuff. i hv 2 b plain here, ladies should check their priorities first b4 thinkin of gettin married.

Akebulan:

fume! my dear fume! no clue to common sense.

justwise:

U need quite along time to really know any husband materia, knowing fully well that u are from Europ may make him put up his best side. . . leaving the nasty side when the marriage is done and dusted.

I suggest u take your time and pick, don't do Take Way,

My dear this post wasn't exactly initial post i saw in the early hours of today. it has been doctored to seduce the mind of the weak.