let me go straight to d point,i hv dated ds lady 4 two year now and we hv promised ourself to get maried.she cal and tel me d way d father complains abt her being single even though d elder sister is not maried and she is currently serving. we are both 26yrs nw. i passed out july this year and stl jobles afta so many test and interview,my gf is in her final year in the univ. am confused guys what shd i tel her,blc am nt very ready 4 marriage nw,bt yet i dont want to loss her.am confused.

you want to eat your cake and still have it.

leave her for now. many ladies are out there that will crowd you immediately you have a good job.

take your time. sit down and explain to her why you don't want to get married so soon (no job, stuff like that).

marriage isn't something you rush into. . .

or you may find yourself rushing out of it in the future. lol

thks jcob,hax,

Forget about her for now. You are not ready to settle down.

If i were you, a word they says is enough for a wise!
All that you needs to hear has been said!

eya this is hard

thks guys, what of if she stil want to hang on?

there is nothing that cant be sorted out over talks. you are jobless for now, doesnt mean u will be jobless for ever. if you both love yourselves you will sure stick on irrespective of the pressure from your families.

thks c_blow i appreciate u response

no matter hw much she loves u,most women bow to pressure easily.take the bold step tell her what is on ur mind if she doesnt understand let it go cos if u stick to her she will dump u when some one else came calling.I m talking frm experience.

waoo! ds is hard o!

Tell the girl to go ahead with her tricks. She is praying with your head. go look for money, job and all other things will come including the babes

@poster,
I dont like responding to these sorts of post when the handwriting is on the wall for everyone to see. No father, i repeat no father will worry a child to get married when the elder sister is still unmarried. I am telling you this because the father will be worried about the elder sister getting married before turning to her the younger .Your girl is playing games with you .She probably has seen a guy that has proposed to her and sees the relationship that you have with her as a string to the actualisation of that dream.She is hurrying you now so that in a haste, u will break up.My one cent is that you tell her that you know her tricks and tell her to do her worst.
Point to note-You shdnt worry yourself now that you havent gotten a job. If the girl wants to stay ,good and well, if she doesnt, dont worry,you would meet some sweet girls when you have a job to mix up with guys in out there. what you need now is a job that translates to money that will give you acces to good life, the babes will come flooding.These university babes that we clive on to most times dont wait for a guy after graduation, free your mind and let her take the decisions. Look for money first.

Patience is the key word here for u both. Tell her u know u've promised marriage but it can only be achieved in the right order. Wen u get a job marriage preparations can commence. If she is the girl dat luvs u she will understand and wait, if not then gud riddance.

My friend no worry ur self 2 much, get job first, after that u go see as beautiful babes go dey find u like say na 'jazz'