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Re: My Wife Double Dated Before We Got Married by gistelesb(m): 4:19am On Apr 08, 2017 |
I would simply agree with others here that u ignored d warning/danger signs when u were dating. Once u began to notice those signs wz when u ought to have investigated. (Talking frm xperience). If u force urself on a woman, she can easily see dat & will surely tk u for granted. I do nt agree with d fact dat most girls/women cheat coz their man doesn't care much. Som girls accept 2 date u without breaking up with their current guy.(dey think dey ar so smart & of course, dey will outsmart any guy who loves too much & thereby ignore warning signs thinking she will improve). Som just broke up & want to fill d vacuum of loneliness & pain & just accept u nt coz dey love u. Once dey c someone else who fits their "specification", beta, u begin to c those signs u mentioned earlier. Anyway d deed has bn done, so let's stop flogging a dead horse. U will have to pardon her-dat is vry difficult I I understand. Bt I think if she's truly remorseful, she should b scared to ever cheat on u again. If u were still dating & nt yet married, would hav said "dismiss her ASAP". As for trusting her ever again, I reserve my comment. 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Double Dated Before We Got Married by Nobody: 4:19am On Apr 08, 2017 |
It's hard for me to believe that this story is real. But in case it is, OP, you need to divorce this woman like yesterday. Do you per chance wash her undies too like I see on OrisunTV? 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Double Dated Before We Got Married by justmenoni: 4:23am On Apr 08, 2017 |
God bless you. I still can't figure out why some people get married for the wrong reasons. Some years ago, my friends told me they don't find anything wrong in marrying an Ex olosho...it might be sweet at the beginning but imagine been at work, then you get sick and decided to go home earlier, you called your wife and she ain't picking and once you got home you met a Nepa official or your mechanic in d compound with your wife, what would be your first instinct? professorfal: |
Re: My Wife Double Dated Before We Got Married by AreaFada2: 4:46am On Apr 08, 2017 |
Ol@ boy, You're between a rock and a hard place. It appears you had little experience with girls before marriage. You probably never experienced the true love of a lady previously. Ab initio, she was not in love with you at all. You probably gave her something she needed (like attention, economic assistance, etc) or she just wanted you as insurance/side dude. Many girls do this routinely. They keep one or several insurance dudes. The same friend that came to beg you must have begged the main guy before but he refused. Then it became imperative to get you back. Still she was too proud to come in person. Fact is that she's a very untrustworthy person. Like an unrepentant thief who only regrets disobeying the 11th commandment (don't be caught). If the main guy, her preferred hubby that never was, were to give her more attention & desire her, she'd bang him. That is if she hasn't o. She has made such a big fool of you bro. If you both have kids already, you really have no options at all. If not, as bad as divorce might be, you can free her to follow the guy she truly wants. If any kids, paternity test ASAP. Do you want to be in a marriage of perpetual mistrust for the next decades? If you can take that, go ahead bro. But do not expect her to change genuinely. She'll secretly loathe you for being so sneaky and finding out. Her promise of change is just to avoid the societal stigma of a marriage broken within a few years. She liked your mumu status, not this "wise" one.. That concealment of her true feelings can build up her ill will to a dangerous level. Being cornered make people dangerous. Beware. 11 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Wife Double Dated Before We Got Married by mctowel01: 4:56am On Apr 08, 2017 |
ademola2017:They always warn you guys, yet you won't listen. After you will come and be giving us your problems. So what exactly did you see in her? hips, fine face, nice shape? And whim, she is your wife....Oya enjoy what you bargained for. |
Re: My Wife Double Dated Before We Got Married by mctowel01: 5:00am On Apr 08, 2017 |
Splinz:Let me try to be civil with you. Are you reqlly understanding what you re seeing? This is a clear case of a proud and manipulative spouse. She is only begging because she cannot afford to lose that title of "Mrs" and not because she really feels ir understands the pain with the husband. 3 Likes |
Re: My Wife Double Dated Before We Got Married by mctowel01: 5:04am On Apr 08, 2017 |
Many of the girls commenting here are or were also guilty of it. Guys dont take their words serious. They are just talking and dont even understand themselves. Infact, 95% of the time, don't take anything girls say serious. 5 Likes |
Re: My Wife Double Dated Before We Got Married by giles14(m): 5:04am On Apr 08, 2017 |
Splinz:a leopard never changes its spots. be warned. 2 Likes |
Re: My Wife Double Dated Before We Got Married by ivanoj(m): 5:10am On Apr 08, 2017 |
ademola2017: U have enter one chance bro. If no issue, back out forget the marriage. If there is, do nt add more, keep mute and be watchful. No love at the beginning no love to the end. While keeping mute and be ur self things will take shape. She will surely back off herself. |
Re: My Wife Double Dated Before We Got Married by aamstih: 5:16am On Apr 08, 2017 |
Chaiiiiiiii... Bro, you've been played... How do I even start this counseling? How old is the marriage? |
Re: My Wife Double Dated Before We Got Married by breezeng: 5:23am On Apr 08, 2017 |
The lady used u as extra tyre while dating her, so I will expect u to have thought her a bad lesson by bursting whole she was on the express road I.e when d other guests disappointed her. U can't get anything better from her now. She's smattering and deceptive |
Re: My Wife Double Dated Before We Got Married by Splinz(m): 5:26am On Apr 08, 2017 |
giles14: In our judgment of others, we must first of all put ourselves in their shoes. Lets use you as an example. If you were a thief, rapist, cheat, etc, does it mean that you can never repent from these things? Does it mean your fake is forever sealed? "A leopard never changes its skin" is in half, nothing but fallacy! |
Re: My Wife Double Dated Before We Got Married by taryur(m): 5:31am On Apr 08, 2017 |
raphemmanuel:u are lucky yours apologizes. how about mine who finds it difficult to say "sorry". infact,she plays the "victim card" and manipulates the whole scenario to make herself look like she did nothing. I was already planning marriage with but my mind wasnt at rest. I had to call the whole plans off. 3 Likes |
Re: My Wife Double Dated Before We Got Married by robotix: 5:34am On Apr 08, 2017 |
Re: My Wife Double Dated Before We Got Married by Cusan: 5:36am On Apr 08, 2017 |
Pieromania: True talk! 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Double Dated Before We Got Married by RicoBee(m): 5:46am On Apr 08, 2017 |
professorfal: Exactly my thoughts. @OP, you are a good man. Henceforth, let her EARN your trust. I can't advise you to divorce her. |
Re: My Wife Double Dated Before We Got Married by Cusan: 5:48am On Apr 08, 2017 |
luminouz: When issues are hot, fools smile 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Double Dated Before We Got Married by 4dor: 5:50am On Apr 08, 2017 |
ademola2017, it's time to move on, cut your losses and separate so you can focus your energy on more useful ventures. You're the rebound guy, it will never change, women genuinely love only one person and in this case it's not you. 2 Likes |
Re: My Wife Double Dated Before We Got Married by chiteny(m): 6:03am On Apr 08, 2017 |
Splinz: She is always remorseful when caught. Its normal. Nothing will change after she is forgiven this time. |
Re: My Wife Double Dated Before We Got Married by Ralph2211(m): 6:07am On Apr 08, 2017 |
I will advice u to sit down and ask ur self some deep questions: 1. Do I still love her? 2. if she continue in dis way will I be able to condole her? 3. Do I still want to associate with her despite her indecent behavior?. My bro, if ur answer to all dis question is NO, I will advice u call for separation not divorce because if care is not taken u might end up doing something u will regret truout ur life time (either u killed her or she killed u with her ways of life). Thanks 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Double Dated Before We Got Married by ThatIgboBoy: 6:22am On Apr 08, 2017 |
Benignasweety: Sorry dearie. Didnt u notice the signs before marriage abi love blind u like OP too? |
Re: My Wife Double Dated Before We Got Married by john1035: 6:24am On Apr 08, 2017 |
oga boss, she wuld do it over again. just let r go, she is not worth it. |
Re: My Wife Double Dated Before We Got Married by JEJE1803(m): 6:25am On Apr 08, 2017 |
The way guys got married this days na wa, you have been dating someone for more than 2yrs and you realized that the affair is one sided and you still go ahead and do the wedding hoping she will change...my brother marriage is not a rehab center or counseling period...always be with those who cherish you |
Re: My Wife Double Dated Before We Got Married by ThatIgboBoy: 6:26am On Apr 08, 2017 |
testimonyobaoyin: Was ur husband the reason u were confiding and seeking comfort in another mans arms? 2 Likes |
Re: My Wife Double Dated Before We Got Married by Cyco4all: 6:28am On Apr 08, 2017 |
If she apologises forgive her and move on. Just watch her with an Eagle eye. Also tell her not to communicate with her ex again. |
Re: My Wife Double Dated Before We Got Married by Omonigeriarere: 6:35am On Apr 08, 2017 |
ademola2017: Forgive her, but be more principled and start not taking anything for granted again: fire for fire maybe the best option sometimes. For your information, women are the most hypocritical set of people God created: they will be telling you they need a caring man, but when they meet the caring man who does their 'manipulative bidding' always, they will be disrespecting him and even call him mumu. If you like reading, I will like you to go online and download a book called 'manipulated man' by Esther. From this book, you will no doubt know how women's brains work and the knowledge you will get will help a lot. Remember, until a man becomes a 'problem' to be overcome by his wife, he has not become an Alpha Male. 3 Likes |
Re: My Wife Double Dated Before We Got Married by Realhommie(m): 6:37am On Apr 08, 2017 |
Benignasweety:Checked you out on FB, but you guys looked happy together... Na wa oooooo, this truly proves that "There's more to everything than meets the eyes"... It is well 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Double Dated Before We Got Married by Dexema(m): 6:40am On Apr 08, 2017 |
robotix:Exactly what I was about to say, if you guys don't have kids yet kindly and please kick her the hell out of your house. Fvckin olosho wey dey form orente. |
Re: My Wife Double Dated Before We Got Married by frugal(m): 6:42am On Apr 08, 2017 |
The worst thing any man can ever do in life is to accept an arrogant woman who thinks she's doing you a favor by being with you. Once I notice any slight arrogance of any sort, I kick you out immediately - And I've done it a few times. I'm not in a hurry to settle down with a woman who thinks she's a prize. If there are no kids yet, it's not too late to walk out. Nothing will change, trust me. 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Wife Double Dated Before We Got Married by Dexema(m): 6:45am On Apr 08, 2017 |
Benignasweety:Keep praying and seeking practical ways to getting a solution but don't rule out that option, at some point you will need to take a decision on what's best for YOU. Hope you guys don't have kids yet. Kids make things like this complicated. |
Re: My Wife Double Dated Before We Got Married by deflover(m): 6:46am On Apr 08, 2017 |
SmellingAnus: Just because u want to sound nice to NL ladies Read the nonsense u typed Guys need to learn to treat thier girls with much love and respect Are u DAT stupid Where did he say he doesn't Anyway u dey find babe for NL so I am not surprise how u will sell ur soul to achieve likes Coming from a man I smh So its the dude's fault you mean 6 Likes |
Re: My Wife Double Dated Before We Got Married by Realhommie(m): 6:48am On Apr 08, 2017 |
sayittome:Nice advice... I do not subscribe to divorce in this situation, it's not irredeemable.. Thank. |
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