Over the weekend I visited a friend and over heard him shouting on his wife why she served him a cold meal knowing he likes his meals hot. She calmly reminded him that he asked her to serve his food at the dinning as he is hungry and wouldn't want to wait when he gets home, only for him to return 30 minutes later.

I simply asked him if his hands will break if he should take the food to microwave to his taste. He kept mute as he noticed I wasn't comfortable with his tone while talking to his wife

My country men, if we learn to treat our spouse like humans equal to us, our homes will be filled with love and joy. The issue of adding extra money when they make list for you will stop, unnecessary quarrels will be avoided while peace will reign.

Your wife is not your slave or inferior, but your betterhalf and help mate. Treat her with love and respect. Learn to assist her in the kitchen, with chores and with the kids.

2 weeks ago I heard my betterhalf telling her colleague that she wont be able to attend their colleagues wedding as she have some of her peronal clothes to wash after returning from the market since she prefers washing her church wears herself. I kept mute and pretended not to know what they were talking about. When she left for market, I simply took the clothes behind the house and wash them all. When she came back she had to rush to were I was with my friends to hug and kiss me saying thank you for assisting her. I was just smiling like a newly married bride that missed her period with all joy.
Immidiately she left, one of my friends said,"bros, I think say na only me they help my wife wash sometimes"

The essence of these scenario is tell us (men) that our wife's are meant to be appreciated and treated like Golds. Please ensure you make your wife feel like the best and most luckiest woman to have you.

Only a very stupid man would do that to his wife

richyblink1:
Over the weekend I visited a friend and over heard him shouting on his wife why she served him a cold meal knowing he likes his meals hot. She calmly reminded him that he asked her to serve his food at the dinning as he is hungry and wouldn't want to wait when he gets home, only for him to return 30 minutes later.

I simply asked him if his hands will break if he should take the food to microwave to his taste. He kept mute as he noticed I wasn't comfortable with his tone while talking to his wife

My country men, if we learn to treat our spouse like humans equal to us, our homes will be filled with love and joy. The issue of adding extra money when they make list for you will stop, unnecessary quarrels will be avoided while peace will reign.

Your wife is not your slave or inferior, but your betterhalf and help mate. Treat her with love and respect. Learn to assist her in the kitchen, with chores and with the kids.

2 weeks ago I heard my betterhalf telling her colleague that she wont be able to attend their colleagues wedding as she have some of her peronal clothes to wash after returning from the market since she prefers washing her church wears herself. I kept mute and pretended not to know what they were talking about. When she left for market, I simply took the clothes behind the house and wash them all. When she came back she had to rush to were I was with my friends to hug and kiss me saying thank you for assisting her. I was just smiling like a newly married bride that missed her period with all joy.
Immidiately she left, one of my friends said,"bros, I think say na only me they help my wife wash sometimes"

The essence of these scenario is tell us (men) that our wife's are meant to be appreciated and treated like Golds. Please ensure you make your wife feel like the best and most luckiest woman to have you.

These part got my attention...

Sometimes cos of what people would say a lot of men try to keep to themself stuffs they do for their wives.

In short it is the men that assist their wives the most that usually claims the opposite outside.

God bless your marriage boss

temi4fash:


These part got my attention...

Sometimes cos of what people would say a lot of men try to keep to themself stuffs they do for their wives.

In short it is the men that assist their wives the most that usually claims the opposite outside.

God bless your marriage boss

Amen!!!

I'm very sure a girl somewhere once rejected you because you were a "good" guy.


Not all women appreciate your gesture bruv. Do you know some women consider it a crime for a man to sit at home and do chores while other men are out there hustling? Some women actually love it when hubby leaves home as early as 4am, and return home drunk at 11:30pm. The days he's not drunk, they want him to stay out till 11pm watching La Liga. That's "what makes a man a man", to some category of women.

Don't be surprised your friend's wife may never support your view.

Guy fold your balls and help yourself out

I'm so sorry, I couldn't help but quote the entire post. Men like you are very rare. You just earned my respect. Most men feel it's out of place or unmanly To Help their woman out once in a while. We are not robots too.

richyblink1:
Over the weekend I visited a friend and over heard him shouting on his wife why she served him a cold meal knowing he likes his meals hot. She calmly reminded him that he asked her to serve his food at the dinning as he is hungry and wouldn't want to wait when he gets home, only for him to return 30 minutes later.

I simply asked him if his hands will break if he should take the food to microwave to his taste. He kept mute as he noticed I wasn't comfortable with his tone while talking to his wife

My country men, if we learn to treat our spouse like humans equal to us, our homes will be filled with love and joy. The issue of adding extra money when they make list for you will stop, unnecessary quarrels will be avoided while peace will reign.

Your wife is not your slave or inferior, but your betterhalf and help mate. Treat her with love and respect. Learn to assist her in the kitchen, with chores and with the kids.

2 weeks ago I heard my betterhalf telling her colleague that she wont be able to attend their colleagues wedding as she have some of her peronal clothes to wash after returning from the market since she prefers washing her church wears herself. I kept mute and pretended not to know what they were talking about. When she left for market, I simply took the clothes behind the house and wash them all. When she came back she had to rush to were I was with my friends to hug and kiss me saying thank you for assisting her. I was just smiling like a newly married bride that missed her period with all joy.
Immidiately she left, one of my friends said,"bros, I think say na only me they help my wife wash sometimes"

The essence of these scenario is tell us (men) that our wife's are meant to be appreciated and treated like Golds. Please ensure you make your wife feel like the best and most luckiest woman to have you.

eeerm, ok. This laundry part is what I really don't understand.

Let's assume there's no washing machine.
why should I wash my hubby's clothes? Did I wear it with him?
Is he handicapped?


I'm not his maid, I'm not his mum.


I ain't washing no man's clothes!

Mimzyy:
I'm so sorry, I couldn't help but quote the entire post. Men like you are very rare. You just earned my respect. Most men feel it's out of place or unmanly To Help their woman out once in a while. We are not robots too.

Thank you

Joavid:
eeerm, ok. This laundry part is what I really don't understand.

Let's assume there's no washing machine.
why should I wash my hubby's clothes? Did I wear it with him?
Is he handicapped?


I'm not his maid, I'm not his mum.


I ain't washing no man's clothes!

I bet you you were in a hurry to comment that you jumped the part where I said she was willing to stay back from attending a colleagues wedding just because she has a lot on her plate, coupled with the fact that she went to the market and will hit the kitchen once she returns from the market.

Ladies like you are the reason why good for nothing men treats their wife's like second hand citizens. As if the clothes will jump into the washing machine by itself even if you chose to use it.

Oyind17:
Guy fold your balls and help yourself out

Can't make head or tail of your post. Speak English

richyblink1:


Can't make head or tail of your post. Speak English

I was not referring to you

Joavid:
eeerm, ok. This laundry part is what I really don't understand.

Let's assume there's no washing machine.
why should I wash my hubby's clothes? Did I wear it with him?
Is he handicapped?


I'm not his maid, I'm not his mum.


I ain't washing no man's clothes!

Are you married?

awwsshhh.. nice one

Joavid:
eeerm, ok. This laundry part is what I really don't understand.

Let's assume there's no washing machine.
why should I wash my hubby's clothes? Did I wear it with him?
Is he handicapped?


I'm not his maid, I'm not his mum.


I ain't washing no man's clothes!

OK

Acidosis:
I'm very sure a girl somewhere once rejected you because you were a "good" guy.


Not all women appreciate your gesture bruv. Do you know some women consider it a crime for a man to sit at home and do chores while other men are out there hustling? Some women actually love it when hubby leaves home as early as 4am, and return home drunk at 11:30pm. The days he's not drunk, they want him to stay out till 11pm watching La Liga. That's "what makes a man a man", to some category of women.

Don't be surprised your friend's wife may never support your view.

Brotherly, when it's Saturday morning, it's family chores first. Then I can go hang out with the boys much later after assisting my senorita with vital chores.

For the records, i leave home 6:20am every morning and returns by 7pm from Monday to Friday. And once I am home I immidiately start my nanny job (carrying, singing and playing with my girls as we have 5 months old twin girls) till the sleep let's say by 10pm or so depending, knowing fully well that my betterhalf will take over if they wake at midnight/early morning. While I equally sing and play with them Saturdays and Sundays to allow their mother rest.

Trust me, there is no better joy than singing and dancing for my girls daily. In fact I do James bond on wheels daily just to get home on time to play with them before they go to bed. Mind you, I equally wake between 2am and 3am to check on my squard(betterhalf and the twin) incase they are awake or need my assistance.

Mimzyy:
I'm so sorry, I couldn't help but quote the entire post. Men like you are very rare. You just earned my respect. Most men feel it's out of place or unmanly To Help their woman out once in a while. We are not robots too.

Mimzzzzz

I've got my eyes on you... .

PresVA:
awwsshhh.. nice one

Thank you

Oyind17:
I was not referring to you

Oh! Sorry bro, never intentional

richyblink1:


I bet you you were in a hurry to comment that you jumped the part where I said she was willing to stay back from attending a colleagues wedding just because she has a lot on her plate, coupled with the fact that she went to the market and will hit the kitchen once she returns from the market.

Not just about you. There are alot of men like you who believe their wife is an automatic laundry woman after marriage. That's why you see washing your own clothes as a big deal.

Maybe it's a cultural thing; I don't care.

but where I come from plus common sense just dictates that your laundry is a personal thing you should take care of yourself.

Ladies like you are the reason why good for nothing men treats their wife's like second hand citizens. As if the clothes will jump into the washing machine by itself even if you chose to use it.

read that again and ask yourself if you made any sense.

Joavid:
eeerm, ok. This laundry part is what I really don't understand.

Let's assume there's no washing machine.
why should I wash my hubby's clothes? Did I wear it with him?
Is he handicapped?


I'm not his maid, I'm not his mum.


I ain't washing no man's clothes!

Dear future Joavid, I apologize for what the present Joavid has written here. So pls don't be dissapointed when you come back n read this comment in next 10 years.


Anyway, with this your comment. I confirmed you are still very young. When you get married, you will understand that washing isn't such a big deal in marriage. There are more important issues you will be bothered about. Trust me.

cruchenuti:


[s]Dear future Joavid, I apologize for what the present Joavid has written here. So pls don't be dissapointed when you come back n read this comment in next 10 years.


Anyway, with this your comment. I confirmed you are still very young.When you get married, you will understand that washing isn't such a big deal in marriage. There are more important issues you will be bothered about. Trust me.[/s]

Is your head filled with cement or what?

This is not a question of whether or not it is a big deal to you.

Every Adult should do their laundry themselves.

I guess this is a cultural thing with people down south.

Joavid:

I did not know it was a big deal until you just mentioned it.

Now you've made yourself feel better with my post, run along and look for a laundry woman to marry.

Relax. Nobody is fighting you. You may not understand some things now. But you will as you grow older. You obviously made that comment based on the current knowledge and exposure you have.

Go and write this down. You will come back and read that comment few years from now and you will smile at yourself. Cuz by then, you would know better.

cruchenuti:


[s] Relax. Nobody is fighting you. You may not understand some things now. But you will as you grow older. You obviously made that comment based on the current knowledge and exposure you have.

Go and write this down. You will come back and read that comment few years from now and you will smile at yourself. Cuz by then, you would know better.[/s]

still talking trash.

lol, someone who spends all his days in romance section discussing porn & e-wooing a girl on a faceless forum telling me about exposure and knowledge.


You need to grow up and understand your laundry is your responsibility, not your wife's.

Joavid:


still talking trash.


How do you know I'm not married

1. I don't need sooth sayer to tell me that.
2. You are just stubborn and never want to accept that you might be wrong.
3. In the past you have made good comments, I commended you.
4. At the end of the day, I can't force you to see things from another perspective. You will, in few years.
5. Stop replying me like I'm fighting you, I'M NOT.

Good night.

Hahahaha Joavid

I see, you are trying to reconcile my topics with this discussion.

For your info. If you are checking on me from my topics on Nairaland. You gat it totally wrong. Those threads was for Parody. And meant for fun and laughter. I'm not that stupid.

Besides the issue on porn is a serious issue, that is affecting the society. In my post, I was referring to back in 2001 when porn wasn't free and adults could only access it. It is necessary to talk about issues like this because the future of oir children depends on it.

cruchenuti:


[s]1. I don't need sooth sayer to tell me that.
2. You are just stubborn and never want to accept that you might be wrong.
3. In the past you have made good comments, I commended you.
4. At the end of the day, I can't force you to see things from another perspective. You will, in few years.
5. Stop replying me like I'm fighting you, I'M NOT.

Good night.
[/s]

unfortunately I'm not here to massage your ego and I don't care if you commend or like posts in the past or in the future.

I have my opinions and what I believe in.
I was brought up to understand responsibility, as well as my siblings.

I don't need to see things from your gutter perspective as I wasn't raised with a poor sense of responsibility and independence.


P.S Don't quote me again

Joavid:


unfortunately I'm not here to massage your ego and I don't care if you commend or like posts in the past or in the future.

I have my opinions and what I believe in.
I was brought up to understand responsibility, as well as my siblings.

I don't need to see things from your gutter perspective as I wasn't raised with a poor sense of responsibility and independence.


P.S Don't quote me again

You are just frustrated that you are NOT intelligent enough to craft a good reply without cursing or lurking on my nairaland parody posts.

You are confused and trying to figure out who I am. Everything you tried did not connect the dots.

Sorry I dissapointed you. Again, I repeat. You are young and in few years. You will gain knowledge. Kapish.

cruchenuti:
Hahahaha Joavid

I see, you are trying to reconcile my topics with this discussion.

For your info. If you are checking on me from my topics on Nairaland. You gat it totally wrong. Those threads was for Parody. And meant for fun and laughter. I'm not that stupid.

Besides the issue on porn is a serious issue, that is affecting the society. In my post, I was referring to back in 2001 when porn wasn't free and adults could only access it. It is necessary to talk about issues like this because the future of oir children depends on it.

If you do not understand something as simple as 'Your laundry is your responsibility, not your wife's' and argue from that angle, don't bother wherever you see my moniker.

Joavid:


If you do not understand something as simple as 'Your laundry is your responsibility, not your wife's' and argue from that angle, don't bother wherever you see my moniker.

Nobody said your laundry is your wife's responsibility, but that doesn't stop me from helping the woman I married to wash her clothes when she needs my help sometimes.

Washing machine or not. It doesn't matter.

For you to make a bold statement that, " I can never wash a mans clothes ". You are no different from a man who never wants to help his wife. This thought process of yours is wrong.

Op you are a good man but trust me it is not in your place to wash your wife's clothes. From experience I would advice you don't do that again unless she is completely indispose for that period and not because of party. Everyone needs to understand their role and where they come in to help. If she is sick etc then help out.

Brother don't do something you would later regret

Again just an advice. God bless your union

cruchenuti:


Nobody said your laundry is your wife's responsibility, but that doesn't stop me from helping the woman I married to wash her clothes when she needs my help sometimes.

Washing machine or not. It doesn't matter.

For you to make a bold statement that, " I can never wash a mans clothes ". You are no different from a man who never wants to help his wife. This thought process of yours is wrong.

You don't have to waste time and energy arguing with that girl, she's yet to see the other side of life. It's possible that she washes and irons her boyfriend's clothes but she's here feeling like what she's not to make a useless point.

Ofcourse my laundry is my responsibility but I and my partner are one so my responsibilities are her responsibilities and her responsibilities with exception of child bearing are my responsibilities too.

I am personally not comfortable with sitting idly to wait for someone to cook and serve unless she's like my aunt who doesn't want any male in her kitchen.


@Op, I want to tell you something, there are good men and there are good women but the problem with our generation is that we apply what we read online to our offline life.

I know a friend who goes to her boyfriend's house every Saturday to cook different soups for him that will last him the whole week but she was among those disturbing us with wife not cook hashtag.

Likewise men, many of us do all many works that are considered to be female works but we will never admit it.

Thing is, do what works for your family and be proud of it, it's nobody's business.