I am just a few years close to thirty years old and my father still wants to control my every movement! For instance, I went to a different church than his and he locked me out for hours! saying since I didn't want to worship in the same church as his then I should move out or get married! Recently, I got home about 9.15pm from visiting a family member and he ranted and raved at me.

I am so tempted to actually move out and be by myself but society frowns on ladies living on their own. What or how can I make him realise that I am a grown woman and can actually call his bluff!

Please help cos I am suffocating here,

Gt a job in a far location. Beta stil gt married

Let ur mum or any woman he listen 2 talk 2 hm nd mak hm undastand u nid som space

Get married cos I don't wanna live with my father anymore?  

VENUSS:

Let your mum or any woman he listen 2 talk 2 hm nd mak hm undastand u nid som space

He doesn't listen to anyone!

Liss:

I am just a few years close to thirty years old and my father still wants to control my every movement! For instance, I went to a different church than his and he locked me out for hours!  saying since I didn't want to worship in the same church as his then I should move out or get married!  Recently, I got home about 9.15pm from visiting a family member and he ranted and raved at me.

I am so tempted to actually move out and be by myself but society frowns on ladies living on their own. What or how can I make him realise that I am a grown woman and can actually call his bluff!

Please help cos I am suffocating here,

So long as you still live under your father's roof, you must abide by his rules and regulations.It doesn't matter if you are 30,40 or 60 years old.It's an unwritten rule.You will always be his little girl no matter how grown or matured you've become (even when you move out of the house).I hope you get married sometime soon sha.That would make it all easier.

Are you serious? Are you saying I am going to remain miserable until I get married? Now this is getting scary!

You can't have everything you know.You are under his roof.You MUST abide by his rules.What is so hard about that?When you have kids someday, you will want them following your rules.Imagine having a daughter of 25 years and she comes into the house during midnight after hanging out with her friends.Won't you be worried?If you have a son that leaves home for some weeks and shows up out of nowhere, how would you feel?It's things like these that give parents stroke and heart failure from worries.And please, remove that "dictatorial father" in your post.It makes you sound rebellious and childish.It makes you sound like someone that doesn't have regard for authority.It makes you sound like an Oprah-Winfrey-worshiping feminist.

Nuff said!

Jst take it easy i hv a father who was somewhat happy to see us sad & invents ways 2 make us cry. I jst graduated & i hv 2 come bak hm again full time & my dear it's funny, things hv changed. Although tat we can't spend d nite outside & we hv a curfew time has'nt changed bt he's nt as mean as b4. God has really heard our cry & i pray d same happens for u. Bt all in all be under ur parents u abide by their rule, jst bear wit him.

Luvlee:

Jst take it easy i hv a father who was somewhat happy to see us sad & invents ways 2 make us cry. I jst graduated & i hv 2 come bak hm again full time & my dear it's funny, things hv changed. Although tat we can't spend d nite outside & we hv a curfew time has'nt changed bt he's nt as mean as b4. God has really heard our cry & i pray d same happens for u. Bt all in all be under your parents u abide by their rule, jst bear wit him.

This sounds like a father who was protecting his kids from the wickedness the world has to offer.The above scenario must have happened when you were much younger and if that's the case, maybe you would have been happier if he let you have your way and then you get despoil.d by evil men and get pregnant with no father to take responsibilty. Only an irresponsible father will let his daughters roam about anyhow especially in the evenings and worse, in a country like Nigeria.He is a MAN and he knows what every man out there wants from his daughter.So what he did to protect you is now deemed as him "being happy to see you sad and inventing ways to make you cry".

Na wa oooo!

This is why i pray to have only boys as kids.Una wahala no get repair!

harakiri:

You can't have everything you know.You are under his roof.You MUST abide by his rules.What is so hard about that?When you have kids someday, you will want them following your rules.Imagine having a daughter of 25 years and she comes into the house during midnight after hanging out with her friends.Won't you be worried?If you have a son that leaves home for some weeks and shows up out of nowhere, how would you feel?It's things like these that give parents stroke and heart failure from worries.And please, remove that "dictatorial father" in your post.It makes you sound rebellious and childish.It makes you sound like someone that doesn't have regard for authority.It makes you sound like an Oprah-Winfrey-worshiping feminist.

Nuff said!

How does your post show your maturity? I don't do all the absurd stuff you wrote out. I only want the choice of worshipping God in my way and some space.
I am sure you are one of those men we are talking about here. Bcus it's your house then, noone has no peace, when you are sad or miserable, the whole house must join you in your misery or all hell breaks loose. Whatever, Mr. Egostiscal.

P.S I don't even watch Oprah.

harakiri:

This sounds like a father who was protecting his kids from the wickedness the world has to offer.The above scenario must have happened when you were much younger and if that's the case, maybe you would have been happier if he let you have your way and then you get despoil.d by evil men and get pregnant with no father to take responsibilty. Only an irresponsible father will let his daughters roam about anyhow especially in the evenings and worse, in a country like Nigeria.He is a MAN and he knows what every man out there wants from his daughter.So what he did to protect you is now deemed as him "being happy to see you sad and inventing ways to make you cry".

Na wa oooo!

This is why i pray to have only boys as kids.Una wahala no get repair!

I pray you don't encounter the same from your male kids too, What we are talking about here is not about being irresponsible, it's about LISTENING to your GROWN children and making their short stay with you as pleasant as possible so you don't drive to loveless marriages and faithlessness!

Liss:

I am just a few years close to thirty years old and my father still wants to control my every movement! For instance, I went to a different church than his and he locked me out for hours! saying since I didn't want to worship in the same church as his then I should move out or get married! Recently, I got home about 9.15pm from visiting a family member and he ranted and raved at me.

I am so tempted to actually move out and be by myself but society frowns on ladies living on their own. What or how can I make him realise that I am a grown woman and can actually call his bluff!

Please help cos I am suffocating here,

it's true that as long as you're living under his roof you have to obey his rules. but that doesn't mean he should be as strict with you as he would be with a child. anyway, i think the best solution is to move out. i know many girls who already live alone in their 20s so there's really no big deal. why should you let what 'society' thinks hamper your happiness. and if you really can't get over the society thing, consider sharing an apartment with a female friend. this may even be better for you if you like living with people, and it would reduce costs. you'll find it easier to call his bluff when you aren't living under his roof.