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Divorced..but He Wants Me Back..am Confused..practical Advice Please by joelyusuf(m): 11:28am On Apr 20, 2017 |
Please I want to remain anonymous
I have been wanting to share this, but
don’t know whom to confide in. I
hope I get practical advice.
I got married to the love of my life in
2013 November, before then, he
introduced me to his parents and
they welcomed me before the
wedding.
He lost his job after the wedding, we
moved to his friend’s house, he never
told me his company gave him money
to rent an apartment when it folded
up, I got to know through his
colleague. He does not discuss
anything about his business with me.
I always have to squeeze out any
information I need from him. I tried to
support him in the little way I can.
We travelled to his home town the
Christmas of 2013. His parents called
a meeting because I did not wake up
by 6am to sweep the compound,
meanwhile I do every other thing,
cooking, washing plates, cleaning the
house.I even learnt how to make my
father in-laws meals because he does
not eat same thing with the rest of
the family.
My hubby refused to get a job. The
next Christmas ( 2014 ) I had to
borrow money from a friend for us to
travel. My dad has been asking me to
come home, but because of work I
couldn’t, that’s why I borrowed to
make it possible, I spent two days
with them and decided to go see my
dad on the 30th.
My dad was not around. He travelled, I
had to wait for him to come back. He
came back on the 1st January 2015.
Yes i waited for my dad to get back
against the wish of my husband,
because according to his family
tradition, everyone must be around
on the 1st of January to celebrate the
new year.
When I came back on the second of
January with my dad, my dad offered
to drop me. I met my husband, who
had already packed my things that
am leaving his house, His father even
hit me, saying I should stand up and
leave his house.
All these were happening in the
presence of my dad, so my dad helped
me carry my things and we left.
Later in April, we went back home to
reconcile, but I don’t call the parents
on the phone like I always used to do,
neither do they call me after the
incident.
When I travelled home the following
Christmas, my hubby said, I should not
come to the house, that his parents
are not happy with me. I insisted I’ll
come and I went. Truly his father
came in and asked me to leave, and
hubby was in support. To avoid being
hit again, I left.
I got tired of the whole situation and
told my parents am no longer
interested in the marriage, so they
returned my bride price December
2016. My hubby filed for divorce
January 2017.
We did not have any child, because
both of us did not have the means to
raise one.
I have always been the one
apologising whenever we have any
problem.
The thing is, he wants to come back,
he started calling me this April, but
am tired, I just want a peaceful life.
Since 2013 up till now it’s been one
problem or the other. I have been
squatting with my friend from when
his friend sent me out of his house
with my hubby’s order.
Now I have a good job, even though I
want out, am scared I might not find
someone that will love me, and I don’t
want that title ”divorcée”.
How would people see me, am so
confused. |
Re: Divorced..but He Wants Me Back..am Confused..practical Advice Please by MrBrownJay1(m): 11:58am On Apr 20, 2017 |
WOmen women women....how many times have i called you desperate lot?! The man and his family treated you like dirt, he beat you once, throw you out the house every time you do what YOU believe is right, he is a jobless liar, his parents are in total control of him and your household... And after divorcing your low self esteem self, you still want to go back to this NO GOOD of a man because of Desperation's to remain a (miserable) Mrs?! The worst is that you wrote that you are afraid not to find love "again", as if this one ever loved you, BWAAAAAAH!!!! Here is the important question to you: what's so good about this man that you wanna return to him? Tell us all the quality he's got 2 Likes |
Re: Divorced..but He Wants Me Back..am Confused..practical Advice Please by Gentlevin: 12:43pm On Apr 20, 2017 |
The guy above me has said it all. I think dis time around dey will remove ur eyes in front of your dad before u know dat u are no more wanted in dat family... |
Re: Divorced..but He Wants Me Back..am Confused..practical Advice Please by nellyquash(f): 1:03pm On Apr 20, 2017 |
My dear is better you remain single than to be a miserable Mrs. 1 Like |
Re: Divorced..but He Wants Me Back..am Confused..practical Advice Please by sauceEEP(m): 10:29pm On Apr 24, 2017 |
Don't ever go back to that man! Old habits die hard, he wants in now because you have a better job so run. you'll definitely find a man who'll love you unconditionally... |
Re: Divorced..but He Wants Me Back..am Confused..practical Advice Please by Tallesty1(m): 5:37am On Apr 25, 2017 |
You don't value your life and peace of mind at all. |
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