Alondrah:
99% of Nigerian Men are confused egoistic, insecure hypocrites!. I can type that again If need be in slow motion. They want to dominate, control,organize , oversee , dictate and direct the other gender's life yet they complain, wail and ask what the woman brings into marriage / relationship.

When a woman is below them, they trample on her, when she's above them, she becomes a threat to their existence. Then I ask, what do men want?. Aren't they just confused babies after all?

This is why I advise ladies to achieve what they want to achieve, be who they want to be, be financially stable before considering marriage, then the man will have no choice than to either get richer than you are, or accept you for whom you are. (before Marriage).

A man has no right to take a woman's life from her but can share her life with her.

Bumbae1:

Lol when she is tired nko lol

Btw for a guy how many time a week you think sex is needed for long lasting relationship ( marriage )
1 a week not a good thing ?

Bumbae1:

Its like everyone is PH whats there seff
Never been there

Presh900:
I rather die than be poorer than my wife... [url][/url]

Tallesty1:
Sex is not supposed to have a time table.

No wetness should be allowed to dry just like that and no erection apart from early morning greetings should go down unsatisfied.

Safiaa:
The fact of the matter is that MOST men will NOT be comfortable with their wife earning more than them. There is a sense of masculinty that men get being the main financial support for their familes. Now that doesnt mean a woman should take advantage of the fact that she earns more. But hey, such is life.

When i talk about not dating 'broke men' it falls back to this. You cant tell me this is the 21st century, and women are the financial providers these days. It takes a very strong emotionally stable man to withstand his wife making more than him. Women want to naturally feel like their being taken of regardless of their own financial status, so in the end it may cause problems. Its the truth, and i dont care what anybody has to say.

DukeNija:


It's an ego thing. A Nigerian man is proud of being the major/sole provider, take that away and he'll probably feel emasculated.
Besides, there's the profound theory that women who have money don't respect their husbands.

Tallesty1:
Sex is not supposed to have a time table.

No wetness should be allowed to dry just like that and no erection apart from early morning greetings should go down unsatisfied.

Omotayor123:
Funny but makes sense.

Bumbae1:

Ok so roughly how many times for you will be sufficient for happy home

Bumbae1:

But why do nigerian men find it hard to accept thats the issue ...

Its like they want a needy wife dont get it

iRepNaija1:


Exactly. I'm sure you've heard from time to time, from both men and women, that it's better to let "a man be a man." What they don't tell you is that a woman, in most cases, has to mind herself to protect the fragile male ego. That means make him feel like he's needed, let him feel like the provider, make it feel like he's wanted. It's all the things women must do to protect the man's sense of self and self worth. And if women don't this, they're suddenly threatening the man and his territory. If this story is true, that's why the husband and his family are behaving in this manner toward his wife. They don't see that what she's doing as benefiting the family but see it as an attack and a means to undermine the male authority (because, for whatever reason, people on here think a breadwinner wife means she'll want to be the head of the household, deliberately emasculate the man and etc.).

What I don't understand is why some are convinced a woman will "take advantage" if she earns more money than her husband but somehow forget that, time and again, some men do that very thing with their wives and no one seems to focus on that. The sooner people realize that marriage is a partnership and not a race for dominance, the better quality marriage they'll have.

tosyne2much:
Most Nigerian men feel intimidated and they don't like to see women top them or excel more than them in all ramifications. This is very evident in our tertiary institutions and even place of work, etc

I think most men suffer from insecurity issues when their wives earn more than they do, and this is due to the fact that most ladies throw their obedience and humility to the wind the moment they earn more than their men

However, it's not that men who don't want their wives to be richer than then are enemy of progress, it's just that they don't want their ego to be shattered

tosyne2much:
Most Nigerian men feel intimidated and they don't like to see women top them or excel more than them in all ramifications. This is very evident in our tertiary institutions and even place of work, etc

I think most men suffer from insecurity issues when their wives earn more than they do, and this is due to the fact that most ladies throw their obedience and humility to the wind the moment they earn more than their men

However, it's not that men who don't want their wives to be richer than then are enemy of progress, it's just that they don't want their ego to be shattered

Hannysmilez:
Its the stereotype,especially in our society that men should always provide. A lot of people get threatened by things that are different from the status-quo.
Its possible the man isn't even bothered but people whom it doesn't concern are
It doesn't matter whether or not she earns six figures,a proud woman is a proud woman and a humble woman is humble.
There are women who earn a whole lot more than men. Does this mean they shouldn't get married? Just find you a good woman,if you do that;you wouldnt need to worry bout respect.


To women:Never Ever deflate yourself to make him feel good. It's not your responsibity to preserve his ego,its his. If you have it,don't pretend or wait on him-do it for yourself

Omotayor123:

Hmm. Nice one.
I used to say No matter how Rich or financially capable I am, I would still collect from my husband because it's his duty to provide. The only thing I can do is add to what is given. And not the common "I can fend for myself" attitude that most independent ladies portray these days.

iRepNaija1:


A person should be able to fend for themselves, despite their gender. Marriage is a partnership, about being equals. Not about what either the husband or wife should or should not be doing.

Omotayor123:
But most men don't agree with that. They are never Comfortable with their wife being able to fend for herself.

Omotayor123:
I love the concluding part. Nice contribution dear.

Mynd44:

Part of the reason why men dont like when their wife is richer is because they want to dominate the woman but the more financialy independent a person (male or female), the less possible it is to doninate that person. So they say a richer woman will be proud but it is that she will not agree to be subjugated.

They also seem to think a richer wife won't have time to take care of the home. They want a maid as a wife who will be in the kitchen or in the bed.

Personally, if I have a wife that's richer, better for us as the family have more disposable income and the standard of living rises. I dont see the need to control my wife as we are partners, we can just be ourselves.

And on the issue of taking care of the house, my wife is not a maid. I will rather employ a maid and pay the maid to do that. Heck, aint nothing sexier than your wife going for a board meeting and coning back to "thank" you for supporting her prepare for it.

But then again, what do I know? I dont even have a GF.

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INTROVERT:
Questions is, who sent her packing?

LET ME SPEAK FOR THE GUYS before you answer the above.
First of all she, like many others may have lost respect for our husband because 'richer' than them. She suddenly becomes proud and pompous to do household chores etc because she dishes out more dough.

xynerise:
We have a little percentage of women that won't get intoxicated when they are richer than the husband.

But the bread winner, she will remind you of your responsibilities one day.