CareerHubAfrica:
Google ‘Sexual Harassment in the Workplace’ and you will discover that 90 percent of the image results you see depicts a woman being harassed by a man.

Women are 9 times more vulnerable to sexual harassment at work than men. This may be true, but have you ever stopped to think how often men are subjected to such things?

Sexual harassment is an unwanted sexual advance or request for sexual favor usually done physically or verbally. It can be from boss to subordinate, supervisor to subordinate or even co-worker to co-worker. Sexual harassment is a silent epidemic that has eaten deep into the Nigerian workplace. Actually, it has become so common that people are beginning to see it as a norm. Statements like these have become the order of the day – “As long as there is a boss and a subordinate somewhere, irrespective of gender, there will always be sexual harassment”. “It is normal”. “Don’t make a big deal out of it”. To make it worse, the economic situation of the country makes many succumb to harassment, even when they find it disturbing. They refuse to speak up for fear of losing their jobs.

Undoubtedly, men are responsible for a good number of sexual harassment in the workplace. But men are also targets and victims of this same menace, and we often forget that. Maybe it seems like it doesn’t exist because most men actually deal with the harassment head on and then shrug it off. Let me give you a typical scenario.

Jane, a female staff of a small food processing company, harassed a new intern assigned to work with her department. She constantly made snide comments and asked him offensive questions like “How large is your pen***”.

At some point, she started taking it as far as groping him whenever they were alone in the office. This intern tried many times to tell her off nicely but she wouldn’t oblige. He dealt with it silently and never reported her to the authorities because he had seen her couple of times going in and out of the CEO’s office at odd times including after work hours. He thinks she is actually sleeping with the boss and if he reports this, he would be out the door before you say jack!

This is just one of many scenarios, cases like this go on in our workplaces on a daily basis. Harassment is the same, be it to a male or female and should be treated the same. The disturbing experience of harassment leaves the victim often frustrated, depressed and angry. As it is considered normal office culture, many people who go through this don’t feel confident that the problem is big enough for them to speak up.

What can we do to eradicate this bug eating itself through our workplaces?

Nigeria does not have very stringent rules with regards sexual harassment. Some people think reporting harassment cases is completely useless. Because even those you are reporting to are somewhat guilty of the same offence and you might end up with nothing or even lose the job.

So what can we do to stop this?

What do you suggest? Leave your comments below.

Article on our blog - https:///IO1xzw

well I want to be sexually harassed. I'm so sex starved, and I don't know how to approach a lady. I'm miserable!!!

The sexual harassment of women against men is the worst. All the sexually transparent clothes that show your sensitive parts of your body are instruments of sexual harassment. Apart from the challenge from entertainment industry, end time factor -evil spirit, if women begin to dress normally, sexual harassment will reduce drastically. Men are moved by what they see which goes into their subconscious mind.

CareerHubAfrica:
Google ‘Sexual Harassment in the Workplace’ and you will discover that 90 percent of the image results you see depicts a woman being harassed by a man.

Women are 9 times more vulnerable to sexual harassment at work than men. This may be true, but have you ever stopped to think how often men are subjected to such things?

Sexual harassment is an unwanted sexual advance or request for sexual favor usually done physically or verbally. It can be from boss to subordinate, supervisor to subordinate or even co-worker to co-worker. Sexual harassment is a silent epidemic that has eaten deep into the Nigerian workplace. Actually, it has become so common that people are beginning to see it as a norm. Statements like these have become the order of the day – “As long as there is a boss and a subordinate somewhere, irrespective of gender, there will always be sexual harassment”. “It is normal”. “Don’t make a big deal out of it”. To make it worse, the economic situation of the country makes many succumb to harassment, even when they find it disturbing. They refuse to speak up for fear of losing their jobs.

Undoubtedly, men are responsible for a good number of sexual harassment in the workplace. But men are also targets and victims of this same menace, and we often forget that. Maybe it seems like it doesn’t exist because most men actually deal with the harassment head on and then shrug it off. Let me give you a typical scenario.

Jane, a female staff of a small food processing company, harassed a new intern assigned to work with her department. She constantly made snide comments and asked him offensive questions like “How large is your pen***”.

At some point, she started taking it as far as groping him whenever they were alone in the office. This intern tried many times to tell her off nicely but she wouldn’t oblige. He dealt with it silently and never reported her to the authorities because he had seen her couple of times going in and out of the CEO’s office at odd times including after work hours. He thinks she is actually sleeping with the boss and if he reports this, he would be out the door before you say jack!

This is just one of many scenarios, cases like this go on in our workplaces on a daily basis. Harassment is the same, be it to a male or female and should be treated the same. The disturbing experience of harassment leaves the victim often frustrated, depressed and angry. As it is considered normal office culture, many people who go through this don’t feel confident that the problem is big enough for them to speak up.

What can we do to eradicate this bug eating itself through our workplaces?

Nigeria does not have very stringent rules with regards sexual harassment. Some people think reporting harassment cases is completely useless. Because even those you are reporting to are somewhat guilty of the same offence and you might end up with nothing or even lose the job.

So what can we do to stop this?

What do you suggest? Leave your comments below.

Article on our blog - https:///IO1xzw

. well I want to be sexually harassed. I'm so sex starved, and I don't know how to approach a lady. I'm miserable

Women make provocative jokes about men's dick too but the society is lenient and some guys laugh it off as it's nothing...

We are in God's hand, both married and unmarried women harass us at work . this matter tire me

The problem is not that sexual harassment exists in the workplace,
the real challenge is that many of the victims do not see themselves
as one and without a victim, it is impossible to tackle a crime.
@CareerHubAfrica Most stories about sexual harassment against men are usually
told as a joke by the "victims" which essentially lessen the gravity
of the act.

Make I position here... Meanwhile,

Read: Barcelona Takes Appeal Against Neymar's Red Card To CAS

https://kenzygist.com/2017/04/22/barcelona-takes-appeal-neymars-red-card-cas/

martyns303:
Secondly, young boys are more molested by aunties, house helps and neighbors than the female child but no one hear about it.

Do you know that by definition as given by the Lagos state government, a man cannot be raped by a woman?

Lol..because it is absolutely impossible to rape a man except his body truly wants it. He needs to be hard for a woman to even attempt the rape in the first place, and he needs to be sexually turned on by whatever he sees or feel. This isn't the same for the woman and we all know this. So even if there is something like sexually assaulting a man, it's hard to believe a man can be raped if we're honest with ourselves.

I dey find woman wey go harass me sexually jor

How can a man be complaining of sexual harrassment?
Men always want sex...Something they chase,spend money on,tell lies to get being offered on a platter of gold irrespective of the person or location is a plus

having sex with his boss/colleague at work is a mega achievement.Something to discuss with the guys at a bar over chilled beer and be applauded and envied by peers.

Unless a child under 18years,there is nothing like male sexual harrassment.
An invitation for sex is every man's dream.

SweetJoystick:
I dey find woman wey go harass me sexually jor

correct man!

godunia:
We are in God's hand, both married and unmarried women harass us at work . this matter tire me

you should be happy! you men always want to sex na

Aimosagie:


Lol..because it is absolutely impossible to rape a man except his body truly wants it. He needs to be hard for a woman to even attempt the rape in the first place, and he needs to be sexually turned on by whatever he sees or feel. This isn't the same for the woman and we all know this. So even if there is something like sexually assaulting a man, it's hard to believe a man can be raped if we're honest with ourselves.

It is possible for a man or a woman to become involuntarily prepared for sex. The effect of this is psychological trauma. The feeling of complicity in something they did not want. Many men and even wome live under the shadow of self loathig caused by this phenomenon

Modified
There is a lot of research on this subject. See belowhttp://www.popsci.com/science/article/2013-05/science-arousal-during-rape

Men are not complaining o!

Boboye4slim:

well I want to be sexually harassed. I'm so sex starved, and I don't know how to approach a lady. I'm miserable!!!

gbegemaster:
A man complaining of being sexually harassed by a woman, should be apprehended and forced to change his gender.

I keep saying that before you start to understand a woman, she has already analyzed and placed you appropriately. She knows the type of men she can try those type of games with.

The simple solution is to man up.

That is a simpleton's analysis.

If a woman has a closer relationship with the superiors of that institution or establishment then she can/may use that to cause problems for that man at work.

She may also lie and claim that it was the man who was pestering her.

Aimosagie:


Lol..because it is absolutely impossible to rape a man except his body truly wants it. He needs to be hard for a woman to even attempt the rape in the first place, and he needs to be sexually turned on by whatever he sees or feel. This isn't the same for the woman and we all know this. So even if there is something like sexually assaulting a man, it's hard to believe a man can be raped if we're honest with ourselves.

Are you serious right now?

greenpasture:


It is possible for a man or a woman to become involuntarily prepared for sex. The effect of this is psychological trauma. The feeling of complicity in something they did not want. Many men and even wome live under the shadow of self loathig caused by this phenomenon

Modified
There is a lot of research on this subject. See belowhttp://www.popsci.com/science/article/2013-05/science-arousal-during-rape

My guy.. gbagbe oshi jare.. which psychological trauma to a man is it that you are talking about?? Even on this nairaland, you see the guys commenting and begging to be sexually harassed so biko what are you saying? A man cannot be raped except he truly wants it.. whatever regret he feels later on (if there's any) is just his conscience eating at him. Sex is something a man sees as a trophy he just acquired.. another puna he has conquered and will brag about it to other guys who care to listen and who will still be weirdly envious of the dude's conquest. So I say again..my guy, gbagbe oshi.

missyadorable:
How can a man be complaining of sexual harrassment?
Men always want sex...Something they chase,spend money on,tell lies to get being offered on a platter of gold irrespective of the person or location is a plus

having sex with his boss/colleague at work is a mega achievement.Something to discuss with the guys at a bar over chilled beer and be applauded and envied by peers.

Unless a child under 18years,there is nothing like male sexual harrassment.
An invitation for sex is every man's dream.

Don't you see how shallow minded you are...... and ladies don't want sex ba?

funny enough I am just knowing the real meaning of sexual abuse. I have been abused many times. infact right from when I was 4 years old till now but I saw it as no big deal. now I would be harsh on any girl that harrasses me maybe reporting them or acting by myself. am saving this page

missyadorable:
How can a man be complaining of sexual harrassment?
Men always want sex...Something they chase,spend money on,tell lies to get being offered on a platter of gold irrespective of the person or location is a plus

having sex with his boss/colleague at work is a mega achievement.Something to discuss with the guys at a bar over chilled beer and be applauded and envied by peers.

Unless a child under 18years,there is nothing like male sexual harrassment.
An invitation for sex is every man's dream.

take off this thought.. it will help you. If you say there is nothing like male rape based on your argument above then there is nothing like female rape because both parties enjoyed it and women also like Sex. Rape can be both ways... get off this weaker gender thought.

It is funny how everybody refuses to talk about sexual harrasment by witchcraft. The constant seeking of a man's attention from witches (ladies) is a nuisance to the society.

Men are more sexually harassed?
Talk another story
They are harassed, but it can never be more than that of women.

Now people are claiming female bosses harass them, the same female bosses that are unnecessarily rude?

Aimosagie:


My guy.. gbagbe oshi jare.. which psychological trauma to a man is it that you are talking about?? Even on this nairaland, you see the guys commenting and begging to be sexually harassed so biko what are you saying? A man cannot be raped except he truly wants it.. whatever regret he feels later on (if there's any) is just his conscience eating at him. Sex is something a man sees as a trophy he just acquired.. another puna he has conquered and will brag about it to other guys who care to listen and who will still be weirdly envious of the dude's conquest. So I say again..my guy, gbagbe oshi.

you don't even know how a man's body work. A man's joystick can get erect by continuous stimulation and touching even whilst the man is sleeping.

Aimosagie:


Lol..because it is absolutely impossible to rape a man except his body truly wants it. He needs to be hard for a woman to even attempt the rape in the first place, and he needs to be sexually turned on by whatever he sees or feel. This isn't the same for the woman and we all know this. So even if there is something like sexually assaulting a man, it's hard to believe a man can be raped if we're honest with ourselves.

Be dat as it may, since 1 needs to give permission (weda action/word), without diz consent, anytin else z considered an assault........ Dat men gets erect wit slight provocation is a betrayal by his hormonal nature, only few can control d outcome..thanks

missyadorable:
How can a man be complaining of sexual harrassment?
Men always want sex...Something they chase,spend money on,tell lies to get being offered on a platter of gold irrespective of the person or location is a plus

having sex with his boss/colleague at work is a mega achievement.Something to discuss with the guys at a bar over chilled beer and be applauded and envied by peers.

Unless a child under 18years,there is nothing like male sexual harrassment.
An invitation for sex is every man's dream.

Are you serious?!

TheLogicalMind:

This topic is nothing but unrefined bull crap. So statistically if 1 out of every 1000 men experiences sexual harassment in the work place, it makes it as bad as the 900 out of 1000 women who experience it? Stupid, stupid, stupid

What is this one saying?
Who told you 1 in 1000 is being molested

Boboye4slim:

well I want to be sexually harassed. I'm so sex starved, and I don't know how to approach a lady. I'm miserable!!!

Trust me, you don't
You have forgotten that your rapist will choose you, not the other way round.
If a fat, unattractive and sick lady wants to rape you, will you still want to be harassed

Ugosample:


Trust me, you don't
You have forgotten that your rapist will choose you, not the other way round.
If a fat, unattractive and sick lady wants to rape you, will you still want to be harassed

So, sexual harrassment is cool when the lady is beautiful?
Thank God this is coming from a man.

missyadorable:
How can a man be complaining of sexual harrassment?
Men always want sex...Something they chase,spend money on,tell lies to get being offered on a platter of gold irrespective of the person or location is a plus

having sex with his boss/colleague at work is a mega achievement.Something to discuss with the guys at a bar over chilled beer and be applauded and envied by peers.

Unless a child under 18years,there is nothing like male sexual harrassment.
An invitation for sex is every man's dream.

Better leave that one

You obviouskt have no clue about what is happening..

Do You know how many married men are bullied to have sex with their female bosses against their will?

You people are probably teenagers talking here, go to the workplace,and see the harassment men AND women too go through, then you will not be talking like this

majekdom2:
you don't even know how a man's body work. A man's joystick can get erect by continuous stimulation and touching even whilst the man is sleeping.

Smh.. let's do a small test to the effect that a man cannot genuinely be raped..you guys are just basking under sexual harassment ish and blaming hormones for responding and entirely enjoying this harassment. Before nko? Is it not hormones that control every human person? So what's your excuse for not being able to keep it in check? Lol
Abeg for all those guys looking to be sexually assaulted, quote this comment and let's hook up.. forget the pretence of your fellow sons of man