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Re: Married Last Week, Already Set For Divorce. Help A Nairalander Make A Decision by Nobody: 12:00am On Apr 27, 2017 |
maryyo:Not even close . still years away from even harbouring the thought |
Re: Married Last Week, Already Set For Divorce. Help A Nairalander Make A Decision by metallisc(m): 3:34am On Apr 27, 2017 |
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Re: Married Last Week, Already Set For Divorce. Help A Nairalander Make A Decision by metallisc(m): 3:38am On Apr 27, 2017 |
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Re: Married Last Week, Already Set For Divorce. Help A Nairalander Make A Decision by metallisc(m): 3:43am On Apr 27, 2017 |
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Re: Married Last Week, Already Set For Divorce. Help A Nairalander Make A Decision by cococandy(f): 7:06am On Apr 27, 2017 |
Someone is reasoning. Kudos SirVintageCock: 2 Likes |
Re: Married Last Week, Already Set For Divorce. Help A Nairalander Make A Decision by cococandy(f): 7:08am On Apr 27, 2017 |
100 dadexcel: 1 Like |
Re: Married Last Week, Already Set For Divorce. Help A Nairalander Make A Decision by 2dmax(m): 7:36am On Apr 27, 2017 |
BuariCopyPaste: NEVER EVER ATTEMPT TO BREAK A BOND BETWEEN A MOTHER AND HER CHILD. IT IS THE PREROGATIVE OF THE CHILD TO DO SO, NOT YOU. If the mom is a home breaker... Alas If the mom is a home builder... Alas If you love your wife, guide her to safety But if her bond is stronger than her love to you... Its well |
Re: Married Last Week, Already Set For Divorce. Help A Nairalander Make A Decision by 2dmax(m): 7:48am On Apr 27, 2017 |
There are things we need to understand about marriages in the Igbo culture. If we do, this scenario and the consequent action will be put into clearer perspective. No, a traditional marriage is a customary marriage where culture plays the lead role. Haven said this, those asking the op to call a meeting should know he has no such powers. The power is rested in the hands of his father and the ụmụ nna to summon the representatives of the wife, excluding her mother. But before then, the wife's representatives should have already sought out their inlaws (the groom people) to inquire why their wife is still with them and not with the inlaws. If this do not happen, that means the mentioned uncle of the wife is just a scarecrow-head to the wife family, which means the mother reigns supreme. Customarily, women are not engaged in traditional matters and can only voice their opinion speaking via a male (there is a reason for this). 1 Like |
Re: Married Last Week, Already Set For Divorce. Help A Nairalander Make A Decision by Folumade1: 7:57am On Apr 27, 2017 |
I quite understand you brother and i would like to tow the line of PEACE MAKING for the sake of your son like some have rightly advised. Look the truth is PATIENCE can conquer any BRIMSTONE or FIRE of argument, i won't blame you for loosing your cool when you discovered things didn't go according to plan i am sure when you vent your frustration and annoyance on her that day for the shortcomings of her family and she was apologizing, some BUSY BODIES would have whispered in hears that why would you allow a man talk to you like this... bla bla bla Remember BUSY BODIES are out there to destroy with their tongues. SHE must have been influenced by their word either directly or indirectly this may explain why she DID not turn up and the reason her TEMPER flared at little provocation from you when she returned. LOOK Bro no matter what this is the same woman you have been with for a Minimum of i guess 2 years considering your son's Age and you must have accepted her anomalies and faults enough to decide to come do the right thing " PAY HER DOWRY". so i would advice you " SWALLOW YOUR PRIDE COMPLETELY" and just ASSUME you are WRONG first irrespective of what she did and what your in-laws did. REMEMBER you and your Wife are 1+1=1 (ONE PARTY) and all external parties NAIRALANDERS, IN-LAWS,FAMILY MEMBERS,CHURCH MEMBERS,NEIGHBORS are (ANOTHER PARTY). Hence, always see your WIFE AND YOURSELF as one person, so the Question is will you DIVORCE YOURSELF( 1+1=1) I am no saint either and i have disagreements with my wife every now and then yet we go still resolve and move on.... i am sure your wife cannot be as BAD as the PICTURE OLAKUNLE CHURCHILL painted of his WIFE TONTOH DIKEH and yet for the sake of his SON ANDRE or KING he is still willing to forgive her, accept her back and move on with her. atleast your wife is not VIOLENT nor destructive. LASTLY Bro, i would advise you get your hands on any book that has to do with "EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE" when i learnt about "EI" a while ago my marriage has never remained the same and it really does help. Having said this Sir; you are the one in this situation and there is not generalized approach to any issue of the heart. God will see you through. Be Blessed[color=#006600][/color] 2 Likes |
Re: Married Last Week, Already Set For Divorce. Help A Nairalander Make A Decision by 2dmax(m): 7:59am On Apr 27, 2017 |
Finally, OP My humble advise if you do love your wife is to stay action on the civil wedding. For that part gives her equal rights to you in a marriage. Why did I advice so? It is to get to the root cause of this matter which happened during one of the most important event in you guys lifes, even after the experience garnered from practicing and enjoying 'playing House' even with a son for two years. When you have deciphered where the root of the matter stems from, as the head of your own family, you can cut it off, then process to the civil union stage. For at that point, you are marrying the woman you fell in love with, not some puppet of someone with an unlived-out life. Be courageous as you engage and do carry about your tasks with love in mind and at heart. Congratulations to you both for your traditional wedding. God bless your Union. |
Re: Married Last Week, Already Set For Divorce. Help A Nairalander Make A Decision by jonerumu1: 8:17am On Apr 27, 2017 |
Move on, Don't die young because she will kill you . |
Re: Married Last Week, Already Set For Divorce. Help A Nairalander Make A Decision by BuariCopyPaste: 10:02am On Apr 27, 2017 |
Folumade1: Thanks a lot bro... that was deep. |
Re: Married Last Week, Already Set For Divorce. Help A Nairalander Make A Decision by stukinherdr1222(m): 2:09pm On Apr 27, 2017 |
Fifthcolumnist: NICE ON BRO !! 1 Like |
Re: Married Last Week, Already Set For Divorce. Help A Nairalander Make A Decision by stukinherdr1222(m): 2:22pm On Apr 27, 2017 |
BuariCopyPaste: you wanted her to give a full explanation ? but you approached the matter in a very wrong way . . . i have been married for seven years there are different ways to settle cases like this . .. i know you guys have along way to go , sit her down and talk her . not neccessary during the day, you can wake her up at night , remind her of your intentions before getting married , involve God , be a good father . work on your temper .( am a very hot tempered man but now am a father and i have to teach my children the right path ) . . this is a very simple case , more are coming it depends on how you settle your home , that is what makes you a man . . .. |
Re: Married Last Week, Already Set For Divorce. Help A Nairalander Make A Decision by Topjay: 2:36pm On Apr 27, 2017 |
we should give candid advise nd not add to the issue on ground, you response can save another marriage or destroy it. we should not be quick to judge or conclude According to the guy he has bottled anger in him due to the fact that the trad. was not handled properly and his fund mismanaged, that alone is hanging in the air. the second part is the wife came home late is also another issue. firstly, the story is not complete and no one can conclude hearing your side only, both parties should be heard so you can be advised accordingly. My questions to you are: were you passing aggression on your inlaws during the wedding? because a lot of things should be put into consideration when addressing issues like this. did you call her while she was away for those days? did you call her parent to know is she was around? you said she have a child for you, then you must have known her if not very well but to some extent; did you try calling her friends to know what is going on? when your wife returns, how did you react or approach her before her alleged outburst on u? (you can't justify yourself when you did not do the needful) cos am sure u can't just sit and watch her stay away for days i know you are a man, pls and pls do have a listening ear and mind and that will help u control your anger sincerely answer these then we will know where we are going |
Re: Married Last Week, Already Set For Divorce. Help A Nairalander Make A Decision by Amhappy(f): 3:34pm On Apr 27, 2017 |
BuariCopyPaste I followed this topic just to say a few things 1. Misappropriation of fund during planning of traditional marriage is kinda of common;Only few people can properly manage another man's sweat. Even your blood can do worse. Ikoyigate things 2. Your mother in law is very wrong. What she did is wicked. However,Nigerian parents are never wrong. Even when they do wrong ,we overlook and forgive. Your wife must have felt bad as well that guests were not properly attended to as provided. Ladies usually boast of abundance of food and the show of wealth by their husband during trad.(Ogbanje gbara there!!! sorry Anambra style) 3. Your wife have struggled with her family for so long to save face. She has been living with a man that she's not married to and even have a child out of wedlock. She has been mocked and disrespected for the sake of your union. 4. You reacted in public to her mother wrongs,something wifey had no control over. That was her time to prove to the whole village that she's not a loser but you made her look like one. Ordinarily she will think that you do not love her,risk not worth taking. 5. Wife paid back by staying away with no explanation to disgrace you before your kinsmen. 6. After two years of living together in sin and hoping to be properly married, she wants out 7. You are still in because you want the best for your family 8. Then take the first step and see how it goes. I wish you well |
Re: Married Last Week, Already Set For Divorce. Help A Nairalander Make A Decision by ArcToyin(m): 11:20pm On May 19, 2017 |
I will advise you to forgive her, overlook all what they have done and give her another chance. I expect her to apologize and if she doesn't overlook it and directly or indirectly bring her back. |
Re: Married Last Week, Already Set For Divorce. Help A Nairalander Make A Decision by FloxxyD(f): 11:32pm On May 20, 2018 |
limamintruth: U just spoke my mind @op is too hot tempered, and u know once someone is hot tempered, it makes one become unreasonable and very childish. 1 Like |
Re: Married Last Week, Already Set For Divorce. Help A Nairalander Make A Decision by ricki: 9:15am On Jul 15, 2018 |
whats the update on the mata ......please update us now Na only when trouble dey we go dey hear noise! when kissing start nobodi go hear dat one.....hmmmm |
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