Morning guys. I have been dating this lad for like 5years now. One day I decided to pop the question to her, I gave her the ring. She ran out of the room, laughing dat am I teasing her. I was surprised at first bcause we have talked abt dis for some time now dat a lady dat I wld marry wld be d one I would give d ring to. I went to her and asked her wat d problems was, she said her culture will put me off being a religious person. Truthfully, am deeply in love with her and I told her, I don't mind, dat I want to be with her, she said NO. So I cut off d relationship. We parted for three weeks not speaking or calling, even if we meet on d road, she doesn't greet me and I don't care. In short, av moved on. There has been a lady who proposed her love to me bt I turned her down cos I was already in love wit anoda person. She saw me, held me, get talking and I found her interesting to be with. Thinking of giving her d ring soon bt comes out of d blues is my EX (the first lady I proposed to) starts calling me which I didn't pick, sending text y I didn't pick her calls. Shld I reply her to leave me alone or I shld jst not respond. I need advice please.

Should you reply her to leave you alone or should you not respond......





Are you even a Man? Cuz if u really are, taking a decision won't be difficult for u

bakbayus:
Morning guys. I have been dating this lad for like 5years now. One day I decided to pop the question to her, I gave her the ring. She ran out of the room, laughing dat am I teasing her. I was surprised at first bcause we have talked abt dis for some time now dat a lady dat I wld marry wld be d one I would give d ring to. I went to her and asked her wat d problems was, she said her culture will put me off being a religious person. Truthfully, am deeply in love with her and I told her, I don't mind, dat I want to be with her, she said NO. So I cut off d relationship. We parted for three weeks not speaking or calling, even if we meet on d road, she doesn't greet me and I don't care. In short, av moved on. There has been a lady who proposed her love to me bt I turned her down cos I was already in love wit anoda person. She saw me, held me, get talking and I found her interesting to be with. Thinking of giving her d ring soon bt comes out of d blues is my EX (the first lady I proposed to) starts calling me which I didn't pick, sending text y I didn't pick her calls. Shld I reply her to leave me alone or I shld jst not respond. I need advice please.

This is how bad marriages start. She must have gone to test her Numero uno prospect and probably got turned down too, hence the sudden u-turn. U are not her first choice or she just doesnt have it for you. Dont marry your 2nd choice lady either cause she might later suffer in your hand. I wii suggest you marry your best female friend. Thats how the best homes started. Most of this love stories with twists always end in bad marriages. Be wise

My brother take your decision wisely.

Never you go back to your ex, she has gone to try her other suitors, maybe none of them is ready to settle down.

DickDastardly:

This is how bad marriages start. She must have gone to test her Numero uno prospect and probably got turned down too, hence the sudden u-turn. U are not her first choice or she just doesnt have it for you. Dont marry your 2nd choice lady either cause she might later suffer in your hand. I wii suggest you marry your best female friend. Thats how the best homes started. Most of this love stories with twists always end in bad marriages. Be wise

Tenx guy bt wat abt her continuous calling? What if she comes visiting? Shld I tell her off or what?

Op is confused ....the choice is yours sha

bakbayus:

Tenx guy bt wat abt her continuous calling? What if she comes visiting? Shld I tell her off or what?

Exactly that you should do. That culture spin is a pointer to the fact that you'd end up with a habitual manipulator. Did she tell you initially that "i will think about it", i'd say she got confused. But her first response exposed her distance and detatchment from your feelings. Do not let your soft spot for her drag you into a marriage of negative melodrama that will surely end up with blames being heaped on you later. Let her stew in her own miscalculation. Ignore her calls and go out there looking for a "best friend, confidant, paddy etc" with little or zero drama. Let the one you'll marry earn your surname pls. Goodluck!

bakbayus:
Morning guys. I have been dating this lad for like 5years now. One day I decided to pop the question to her, I gave her the ring. She ran out of the room, laughing dat am I teasing her. I was surprised at first bcause we have talked abt dis for some time now dat a lady dat I wld marry wld be d one I would give d ring to. I went to her and asked her wat d problems was, she said her culture will put me off being a religious person. Truthfully, am deeply in love with her and I told her, I don't mind, dat I want to be with her, she said NO. So I cut off d relationship. We parted for three weeks not speaking or calling, even if we meet on d road, she doesn't greet me and I don't care. In short, av moved on. There has been a lady who proposed her love to me bt I turned her down cos I was already in love wit anoda person. She saw me, held me, get talking and I found her interesting to be with. Thinking of giving her d ring soon bt comes out of d blues is my EX (the first lady I proposed to) starts calling me which I didn't pick, sending text y I didn't pick her calls. Shld I reply her to leave me alone or I shld jst not respond. I need advice please.

I just think you should hear her out, she would possibly have a tangible reason for that statement besides even if her people don't accept you because of your religiosity, who cares are you marrying her father or her mom.

dingbang:
Should you reply her to leave you alone or should you not respond......
Are you even a Man? Cuz if u really are, taking a decision won't be difficult for u

E weak me, every man should know what to do at all times.

Ignore her and marry the second lady that's if you're man enough

Oyind17:
E weak me, every man should know what to do at all times.

Ignore her and marry the second lady that's if you're man enough

I just tire when people come in here to ask cheap questions.... The only time I can talk about any relationship in here in is when I am being blackmailed or something really complicated...

dingbang:
I just tire when people come in here to ask cheap questions.... The only time I can talk about any relationship in here in is when I am being blackmailed or something really complicated...

Hmmmm.... I hear you

Oyind17:
Hmmmm.... I hear you

u know am not telling lies