Hi Guys...just seeking your response on this.you have started to date a new girl and the relationship is just two weeks, now she's asking you to come talk to her mother and granny...will you feel comfortable with such an idea so soon? what would you do?

Bros, na whao! girlfriends for two weeks wants me to meet her folks, no no no!.
My reasons:
1. she's trying to formalise the relationship in a way that won't suit me.
2. If it turns out that I'm not her only guy(because it will take a guy years to know his girl,I mean the truth, ehn!)and she gets impregnated by someone her parents doesn't know, automatically i am the culprit.
3. etc
Bros I go take shakara leave the relationship, make nobody force into rushy rushy husband.

Well, it depends. What are you meeting her parents as? As a friend or as a bf? It all depends on the way the girl is, I have come a cross a number of girls whose moms are more like their elder sisters. But most of the time, it's simply a caseof a babe who is so in love with the idea of falling in love, and feels that she's practically married.

Thank you my brother, there is nothing wrong being in love but there is something about it that smells of "obsession" and i am not ready to be possessed after just two weeks....now that i have refused to oblige her until further notice, its "grandma bought some oranges for you...when are you coming to collect them?" she is a nice girl, but the idea of "pushing" me to do things when i am not ready for it scares the shit out of me...i have a feeling i should stop responding to some text mesages now before it gets out of hand

IT is really scary. Na whaoooooooo!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Are you guys intimate? If so, it just may be excessive sexual expression that leads her to this obsession whereby she feels that she is in love with you. I agree with you, don't meet her relatives yet, things like that can put unneccessary strain on a fledgling relationship

Yes, but it was very mutual and consentual...and i feel bad about it if that is the root cause of this issue....does that make me a heartless guy? at the same time i dont want to make promises i wont be able to fulfil.

I don't think you're heartless. Sometimes people play these "games". It's entirely up to you however, and my suggestion is to let herknow that you're not ready to start meeting her family yet. Just make sure you both talk about it and don't do anything drastic.

You are right bro, in fact take 3 *takes a hand shake*


@nicetohave:
You are not being heartless, but careful. This is serious o! ehn.

see all their heads!!!

snazzy how does their heads look like?

mangoes,yams and beans,thats how their heads are.

snazzy, you've not even seen me not to know how my head looks like.
Person like you talk say "I never kiss am but im wan marry me", and I know wetin una wey be girl tell am. Now are you expecting me to tell him to meet the girls parents?
na lie.
if you like cry.

na swear; never  i can't  or should we call it love, NO!!!!!!!! it call trap of love.

i'll thank her for the request but decline till some other time. 2 weeks is not a very long time.

Panic station boys!! Dont even accept to speak to any of her family on the telephone let alone meet them.

Thanks man

to me oooh, it seems she's trying to tie a rope around ur neck.
i'll say beware my man, better explain and let her understand that you guys have to slow down ooh*jeje*.
wetin sef

Meet a girl today, fall in love the next day, do her thing the third day, meet the parents and their dog the forth day, break up the relationship the fift day. it nothing personal but love gone sour.

Then ask, "who is next"?

Meet a girl today, fall in love the next day, do her thing the third day, meet the parents and their dog the forth day, break up the relationship the fifth day. it's nothing personal but relationship gone sour.

Who is next?

Too soon to meet family yet wasnt too soon to sleep with her

Hmm. . .

sleeping with her when delayed for two hours is like two hundred years. meeting her parents and their dog should wait a while. things should be done accordingly, one after the other.

You win the "worst excuse" award. Anyone else?

ThiefOfHearts:

Too soon to meet family yet wasnt too soon to sleep with her

Hmm. . .

no mind them,men! only God knows all the"sweet rubbish"he must have told her,now he is afraid to prove all he proclaimed!

Thiefofheart! abeg, make you leave me boo!!! one thing comes first and sleeping with her comes first.
Just no thief my heart

oyie! we all love and adore you women but let face the fact, one thing comes first. don't you agree?

family should have came first

I no want your evil wretched heart jare so no worries.

Thiefofhearts! talk thru make devil fall asleep? make e no see say u dey give me ur heart for keep

@Topic, I don't think it's too early to meet her family, it's not like she's asking 4 marriage or something. Many parents like to know who their kids roll wit and all, probably dats it.

Do u want to be doing under d tree kinda game or meet me at my place D relationship doesn't necessary have to graduate to marriage but let her parent/ family know who are friends are, dat's all Just show u're worth having their child as a friend

SwtNsoFLyy:


If she thinks alot of you, that should be an honour. There's nothing wrong with meeting a girl friend's family, so go and enjoy yourself. You know its nothing more, but if it makes you feel so uncomfortable, that you would have to ask a quesiton about it,, let her know how u feel, NOthing better in the beginning of a new relationship, than establishing good communication from the get go,

love & light.

help me tell him ooooooo.i suspect its because you have no plan to be serious wit her.for i dont see anything wrong with meeting her mother-it could be like meeting her friends or she to meet your friends!

May be she just wanted her people to see the guy and find out if he was ok.
Sometimes for older people a look is enough to tell