I have decided that, my children will not bear my father's name (as their surname) but will rather make them bear my own name (as their surname).

Is there anything bad!

Hope I am on point?

olorunwa90:
I have decided that, my children will not bear my father's name (as their surname) but will rather make them bear my own name (as their surname).

Is there anything bad!

Hope I am on point?

Not nice, it will just create unnecessary dichotomy in your extended family and your children and their descendants may be negatively affected.

maclatunji:


Not nice, it will just create unnecessary dichotomy in your extended family and your children and their descendants may be negatively affected.

I'm confused, isn't their father's name supposed to be their surname in the first place?

I bear my Father's name.

SuperSuave:
I'm confused, isn't their father's name supposed to be their surname in the first place?

We bear the surnames of our fathers not their first names in this part of the world.

I see no reason why my children should not have my name as their surname. My surname is not even my father's... It belongs to a generation he can't trace.

very silly.Dnt cut ur family tue/tree.

I subscribe to this. Start another genealogy. Our forefathers bore the names of their fathers. Wonder why they stopped.

olorunwa90:
I have decided that, my children will not bear my father's name (as their surname) but will rather make them bear my own name (as their surname).

Is there anything bad!

Hope I am on point?

If you will share, what is your reason for that?

maclatunji:


We bear the surnames of our fathers not their first names in this part of the world.

Me and my siblings are using the first name and I prefer it that way.

giftedheart1:
I see no reason why my children should not have my name as their surname. My surname is not even my father's... It belongs to a generation he can't trace.

I like that you are strong enough to think about that. Personally, my siblings and I bear my father's own name.

Now let me point out some of the disadvantages I noticed.

We are somewhat disconnected from the larger family. While everyone is bearing a particular surname, we are bearing something else. It feels somewhat, trust me.

There is this joy that comes when you see or reconnect with a distant relation, especially when you guys share same surname. Sometimes people trace you simply because of the familiarity of your surname. I won't know because nobody ever asked me.

Essentially, just know that you are building another branch of the family. If everyone decides to start bearing their father's name, imagine how it will go.

with that-
- You're building another branch of the family
- There will be a disconnect with your extended family. Imagine your brother keeps to the family name or does as you, that's an awkward situation for your kids.
- In the future, tracing family lineage would be difficult for your generation.

but then, it's your decision to make and it's the norm with millennials this days, so you're not alone.


For instance, I & my brother bear my great grandfather's name - the family name.
my half siblings choose my father's name.

I hope it doesn't cause friction in future for us.

For some of us whose grandparents picked their names from the Bible, it is complete fuc.kery to maintain such names simply because we want to be identified with a deity.

If your surname is Abraham, Joseph or John, you can pass the name to your descendants because an unfounded tradition says so.

Same apply to many of our indigenous names. A lot of Adenuga exist on Facebook with no connection with the Adenuga we all know. You'd meet some very poor Atiku today, you'd begin to wonder how they come about their own Atiku.

Just give your children a good and well deserved name. Do not displease yourself and your children over what a deity or "society" says.

It could be very embarrassing when people begin to ask why your own Adenuga cannot afford N200 recharge card, or why your own Obasanjo is so stingy. It gets worse when a member of your extended family decides to commit a terrible crime. It will forever remains a stain upon the whole descendants.