I Am Loosing It! Please Help B4 I Do Sometin silly


My best best friend is dating my favourite Cousin's husband, I found out 2hrs ago.

Dis is a girl I hv known since i came into dis country, she is from Argentine, but was born and raised here
we do all most everytin 2gether. I trusted her, but now she has betrayed my trust.

It all started 3 days ago when She left her phone with me to use the restroom, no sooner she left the lib than my in-law called oh my God!! I could not believe my ear for what I heard, but i did not freak out cos it could be a mix up somewhere: but where could they meet?, my in-law hardly come to LA, the last time he came was Feb '09, all this hv bn going on in my head until 2hr ago i confronted her, and it was true that my in-law was cheating on his wife- my cousin, they met and exchanged #s the last time he visited
My question is what do i do should I go ahead and tell my cousin, and terminate her marriage, or keep quit. and watch this madness go on,
My in-law has bn calling and pleading with me not to disclose it to anybody. Please help me, I love my cousin so much

Hi just keep it to yourself that is the best you can do please don't break your cousin marriage most married men cheat on their wife let me say 98percent so please kept it to yourself to save your cousin marriage

u don't have to tell ur cuz,what u should do is confront ur friend and make sure she breaks it off.u can also threaten ur in-law,tell him u'll tell on him if he doesn't desist 4rm such acts.but never make the mistake of telling ur cousin cos if u do & it turns out bad she'll somehow blame u at the end.

Mind your own damn business?

freecocoa:

u don't have to tell your cuz,what u should do is confront your friend and make sure she breaks it off.u can also threaten your in-law,tell him u'll tell on him if he doesn't desist 4rm such acts.but never make the mistake of telling your cousin cos if u do & it turns out bad she'll somehow blame u at the end.

EXACTLY

freecocoa:

u don't have to tell your cuz,what u should do is confront your friend and make sure she breaks it off.u can also threaten your in-law,tell him u'll tell on him if he doesn't desist 4rm such acts.but never make the mistake of telling your cousin cos if u do & it turns out bad she'll somehow blame u at the end.

Two grown up adults doing what the fuk they want, how is that anybody's business?

People with no sense of shame indulging in immoral act! The world is in serious moral degradation. But use wisdom to handle a sensitive issue like this lest you 'll be blamed for the consequences of what may latter be termed your 'meddlesomeness'. Made them see reason for a need to end the relationship. Wish you the strenght for a right decision

let you in-law knw dat you knw about the affair and you will tell your cuz if he doesn't break it off

@poster
here is something for you to consider. . . . . . . . . .
if you were in your cousin's shoes and everybody knew that your husband was cheating on you, wouldnt you want them to tell you?!

also, what do you think is important in any union: to LOOK happy or to BE happy

blood is thicker than water, look out for HER interest not his.

tell your inlaw that you will give him 72hrs to confess or decide on what he will do about the situation before you get your family involved. oh yea you shouldndn't tell her alone get more family involved because sometimes these things back fire

I would tell so your cousin can divorce the man and get a new one

Thank y'all so much, I knew I could rely on you, but sometin came up!!!

My friend, who has bn sickly 4 sometime now, called to tell me to say clear, that she is pregnant by my in-law, and she is keeping it
My in-law on the other hand, just called, after all my treats, to make me an offer a student like me cannot reject, just to shut up and stay clear (but am not gonna fall 4 it)  
Please, am I still in this world? this whole thing is driving me crazy

I would want my family member to tell me if I had a philandering husband.

Tell your Cousin and save her from the danger ahead
Whoever said it isn't your business must be delusional.

bubugul:

Thank y'all so much, I knew I could rely on you, but sometin came up!!!

My friend, who has bn sickly 4 sometime now, called to tell me to say clear, that she is pregnant by my in-law, and she is keeping it
My in-law on the other hand, just called, after all my treats, to make me an offer a student like me cannot reject, just to shut up and stay clear (but am not gonna fall 4 it)  
Please, am I still in this world? this whole thing is driving me crazy

They are even having unprotected sex? More reason to let your cousin know. Your cousin will eventually find out. Do you think she would congratulate you for knowing all along and accepting an offer from her husband?

bubugul:

Thank y'all so much, I knew I could rely on you, but sometin came up!!!

My friend, who has bn sickly 4 sometime now, called to tell me to say clear, that she is pregnant by my in-law, and she is keeping it
My in-law on the other hand, just called, after all my treats, to make me an offer a student like me cannot reject, just to shut up and stay clear (but am not gonna fall 4 it)  
Please, am I still in this world? this whole thing is driving me crazy

10:27pm- I just found out my friend is cheating.
12:58pm-I just found out my friend is pregnant
why are you such an attention seeking LovePeddler?

hollandis:

10:27pm- I just found out my friend is cheating.
12:58pm-I just found out my friend is pregnant
why are you such an attention seeking LovePeddler?

LMFAO

Write a letter to you Cousin from ur friend's id or ask your friend to do it on behalf of you. OR forward those private SMS to your Cousin's cell.

In that way, you can feel free from ur guilt.

Give them an ultimatum to stop their abominable act,then they will know you mean serious business.

Holy Lawd what pp wil do to get a man.so she,s pregnant n wants to keep it abi?doesnt dat tell u dat she,s been planning it all dis while?some gals r smtin.i tink i agree wit clikonnet cos if u tell her,d tin might turn round on u.
       even if u tell ur coz she,l need proof.so b careful n dont accept d bribe.d man gat guts.
[b]Give them an ultimatum to stop their abominable act,then they will know you mean serious business.[/b]. haaaaaaa.some pp can be callous o u want dem to assassinate her or harm her?

whats all d debate for? tell ur cousin let her decide what she wants to do with the info

@ Poster,

Put yourself in your cousins shoes. Wouldn't you feel betrayed if you were not told. You are supposed to watch out for your cousins interest. Tell her about it, and let her decide what she'll do about her cheating husband.

Do what your mind tells you, our reply here may not change what you want to do. You and only you know what is right for your cousin, my advise may be influenced by my experience, same for every poster. So. do what you inner safe wants you to do.

Thank you!! Thank you so much Nairalanders.
A problem shared is a problem half solved

I guess this is a damned if you do and damned if you dont situation. Think of it this way, if your husband was creeping, and your sister/cousin/friend knew about it, would you want them to tell you? I think I would want to be told because who knows where he has dipped his stick? he could probably bring home "The Monster" . I think you should tell her.

what abt me giving you a lil worry of ya own so u can take your mind off d love triangle saga.
Where u @?

Its no more a simple fling that can easily be swept under the carpet. 
A child (unborn) is now in the picture and therefore an inevitable eventuality that your cuz would get to find out -sooner or later, no matter how long.
I  beleive she has a right to know and that you owe her that right ; but before then, you might as well double his punishment by taking the offer (abi hush money) and still rat on his arse so that he still got to pay for his actions.

preach 4 her 2 change 4 beta

u no wat just go on ur kneels & seek spiritual intervention 4rm GOD cos my hubbi dated his married collegues but wit prayer dey brokeup and nw d hubi of d collegue has packed out witout letting her no his where abut.pray pray pray 4 her.

stillwater:

I would want my family member to tell me if I had a philandering husband.

i have always belived that spouses are aware of philandering on some level

and that they often prefer to ignore it because acknowledging it will force them to take action


try to leave a hidden /anonymous message and see what she does

telling her is supposed to be the right thing to do - but if she is already aware, it may cause a rift between the two of you - reporting a cheating spouse does not always work out the right way - esp if the husband is a smooth talker etal p you could just end up looking like the villain