wanted to say 'for the 1st time ever, am asking for help on nairaland' but then i realized i've done that b4 but for a different reason. For the past few months, i've been overcoming my challenges. 1st, i wanted confidence, ryt now, i've got dozens of it, second, it was humility, am now very humble....but then i find it hard to overlook a lot of things and the result is being an unhappy fellow. Human beings need a certain amount of support, thats true but i think its very wrong for anyone to base his happiness on the amount of positive feedbacks one gets from pple. I mean we are meant to live an independent life, when we were created, we were given different souls and so we shouldnt be seeking approval and support from other pple especially when its not necessary. But despite knowing this, its kinda really difficult for me to allow what i think sink into me, to damn other pple and live my life, to live what i think. And my worst fear is this, all my life i've always dreaded being like my dad. My dad is not a bad person at all, but i find it off putting whem someone rarely smiles and that is who am gradually becoming. I've talked with some gal and a woman and they all said they find it hot, i do not find it hot and so i have to change it because my unsmiling nature comes from a deep feeling of unhappiness, and i bet no one finds this hot. Its really irritating.

xo we should tel u to be hapi ni?

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Davidgrey:
This makes "absolutely" no sense!

My Brain go freeze just reading ops post. I even started to believe that I might be dumb. Senseless

Op...na naija u dey...



We all r unhappy at some point...

it's your decision if you wanna be happy or not, if you wanna smile or not. just give yourself a reason to smile.

n perhaps join QUORA
thank me later

cc: Fitnessdoctor


I think he can help you

Whether or not a scowl is hot is irrelevant if it doesn't make YOU feel good inside. Personally, I think a smile is sexy. And, some experts say that it helps to make a conscious effort to smile everyday, in front of the mirror, and eventually it will come naturally. Fake it until you make it. I do not know how true that theory is. However, happiness should come from the inside.

You said you asked for confidence, then humility but neither of those made you happy. Which means that to be happy is what you really want. Yet, you didn't ask for happiness, though. And I'm going to try to guess why. Happiness isn't having all that you desire, but finding contentment in every situation you find yourself in. If you're like me, you guard and nurture your unhappiness, thinking that it would be the impetus you need to avoid complacency in your life. You don't want to be easily satisfied so that you remain ambitious. But we all need to be happy. And you can decide to be.

First, make sure you're not sabotaging yourself, an then pay attention to your conscience. Stop overthinking things, learn to let things go, learn to be fine with disappointing people, be selfish! Even altruism is geared towards selfish ends. Learn to laugh at yourself, don't take things too seriously. You'll be fine.

RaggedyAnn:
Whether or not a scowl is hot is irrelevant if it doesn't make YOU feel good inside. Personally, I think a smile is sexy. And, some experts say that it helps to make a conscious effort to smile everyday, in front of the mirror, and eventually it will come naturally. Fake it until you make it. I do not know how true that theory is. However, happiness should come from the inside.

You said you asked for confidence, then humility but neither of those made you happy. Which means that to happy is what you really want. Yet, you didn't ask for happiness, though. And I'm going to try to guess why. Happiness isn't having all that you desire, but finding contentment in every situation you find yourself in. If you're like me, you guard and nurture your unhappiness, thinking that it would be the impetus you need to avoid complacency in your life. You don't want to be easily satisfied so that you remain ambitious. But we all need to be happy. And you can decide to be.

First, make sure you're not sabotaging yourself, an then pay attention to your conscience. Stop overthinking things, learn to let things go, learn to be fine with disappointing people, be selfish! Even altruism is geared towards selfish ends. Learn to laugh at yourself, don't take things too seriously. You'll be fine.

at last there is someone who is intelligent enof to make sense out of what some dumb heads culd not undersnd. U all shouting 'this post is senseless' at last, here is the proof that its ur IQ that needs a little or big upgrade depending on how senseless you find the post. Thanks a lot dear.

RaggedyAnn:
Whether or not a scowl is hot is irrelevant if it doesn't make YOU feel good inside. Personally, I think a smile is sexy. And, some experts say that it helps to make a conscious effort to smile everyday, in front of the mirror, and eventually it will come naturally. Fake it until you make it. I do not know how true that theory is. However, happiness should come from the inside.

You said you asked for confidence, then humility but neither of those made you happy. Which means that to be happy is what you really want. Yet, you didn't ask for happiness, though. And I'm going to try to guess why. Happiness isn't having all that you desire, but finding contentment in every situation you find yourself in. If you're like me, you guard and nurture your unhappiness, thinking that it would be the impetus you need to avoid complacency in your life. You don't want to be easily satisfied so that you remain ambitious. But we all need to be happy. And you can decide to be.

First, make sure you're not sabotaging yourself, an then pay attention to your conscience. Stop overthinking things, learn to let things go, learn to be fine with disappointing people, be selfish! Even altruism is geared towards selfish ends. Learn to laugh at yourself, don't take things too seriously. You'll be fine.

My friend. How are you?

CokersClub:


My friend. How are you?

Hey, I'm good, dear. Lazy weekend.

RaggedyAnn:



Hey, I'm good, dear. Lazy weekend.

mind hanging out?

CokersClub:
mind hanging out?

Awwww.....thanks for offering. But Beijing would be a helluva commute. I'm binging on all the movies I've been saving for later, so it isn't so bad.

Limescale:


My Brain go freeze just reading ops post. I even started to believe that I might be dumb. Senseless

ok let me explain what i wrote. You know in life we all need something and what i need may be prolly different from urs. So in my own case i need just three things: confidence, humility and happiness. And by God's grace, am now a humble and confident person. But there is still one thing left, am not yet a happy person, and an unhappy person is an unsmiling person (you need to be happy to smile not so? Otherwise, you are just faking it) So in essence, i find it difficult to smile because of my unhappy nature. I always bone my face. Although Some of my coleagues at work find it hot, i prefer to be a happy (smiling) guy. So the summary of what i wrote up there is just that i want to be happy but i do not know how to go about it. What suggestions do you have to give to someone like me? Simple! There is nothing senseless about the post up there, you just dont undersnd it probably because you are .......

RaggedyAnn:



Awwww.....thanks for offering. But Beijing would be a helluva commute. I'm binging on all the movies I've been saving for later, so it isn't so bad.

Wow. So unfortunate . So how things 4 dia

Ebuka2016:

ok let me explain what i wrote. You know in life we all need something and what i need may be prolly different from urs. So in my own case i need just three things: confidence, humility and happiness. And by God's grace, am now a humble and confident person. But there is still one thing left, am not yet a happy person, and an unhappy person is an unsmiling person (you need to be happy to smile not so? Otherwise, you are just faking it) So in essence, i find it difficult to smile because of my unhappy nature. I always bone my face. Although Some of my coleagues at work find it hot, i prefer to be a happy (smiling) guy. So the summary of what i wrote up there is just that i want to be happy but i do not know how to go about it. What suggestions do you have to give to someone like me? Simple! There is nothing senseless about the post up there, you just dont undersnd it probably because you are .......

Oh sorry

Ebuka2016:

ok let me explain what i wrote. You know in life we all need something and what i need may be prolly different from urs. So in my own case i need just three things: confidence, humility and happiness. And by God's grace, am now a humble and confident person. But there is still one thing left, am not yet a happy person, and an unhappy person is an unsmiling person (you need to be happy to smile not so? Otherwise, you are just faking it) So in essence, i find it difficult to smile because of my unhappy nature. I always bone my face. Although Some of my coleagues at work find it hot, i prefer to be a happy (smiling) guy. So the summary of what i wrote up there is just that i want to be happy but i do not know how to go about it. What suggestions do you have to give to someone like me? Simple! There is nothing senseless about the post up there, you just dont undersnd it probably because you are .......

Oh sorry, I understand you now, I don't know if my advice will make any difference to you though. I will leave to the intellects to come and help you.

Zarzar help this guy

RaggedyAnn:
Whether or not a scowl is hot is irrelevant if it doesn't make YOU feel good inside. Personally, I think a smile is sexy. And, some experts say that it helps to make a conscious effort to smile everyday, in front of the mirror, and eventually it will come naturally. Fake it until you make it. I do not know how true that theory is. However, happiness should come from the inside.

You said you asked for confidence, then humility but neither of those made you happy. Which means that to be happy is what you really want. Yet, you didn't ask for happiness, though. And I'm going to try to guess why. Happiness isn't having all that you desire, but finding contentment in every situation you find yourself in. If you're like me, you guard and nurture your unhappiness, thinking that it would be the impetus you need to avoid complacency in your life. You don't want to be easily satisfied so that you remain ambitious. But we all need to be happy. And you can decide to be.

First, make sure you're not sabotaging yourself, an then pay attention to your conscience. Stop overthinking things, learn to let things go, learn to be fine with disappointing people, be selfish! Even altruism is geared towards selfish ends. Learn to laugh at yourself, don't take things too seriously. You'll be fine.

that place where you talked about complacency, dear you got me. Some times i think that if i feel relaxed and be contented with the stage i am currently, i wouldnt achieve what i want i live, i wouldnt attain the level of success i desire. You hit the nail on the head dear. Thanks a lot for this.

Limescale:


Oh sorry


Oh sorry, I understand you now, I don't know if my advice will make any difference to you though. I will leave to the intellects to come and help you.

Zarzar help this guy

just say it, it probably might help.

Essentials1:
cc: Fitnessdoctor

I think he can help you

thanks bro

The rate at which people wan con dy ask for help for nl dey alarming o



anyways.......

Ebuka2016:

that place where you talked about complacency, dear you got me. Some times i think that if i feel relaxed and be contented with the stage i am currently, i wouldnt achieve what i want i live, i wouldnt attain the level of success i desire. You hit the nail on the head dear. Thanks a lot for this.

You're welcome, dear. I used to feel exactly the same way. Maybe sometimes I still do. I can so relate to your situation.

CokersClub:


Wow. So unfortunate . So how things 4 dia

Things are great. I meant you o! Your profile says you're in China.

RaggedyAnn:


You're welcome, dear. I used to feel exactly the same way. Maybe sometimes I still do. I can so relate to your situation.

so how much have u really achieved?? A lot, i guess. How much more do you still wannna achieve?

RaggedyAnn:


Things are great. I meant you o! Your profile says you're in China.

Oh, yeah . my profile say so. You dig

Ebuka2016:

so how much have u really achieved?? A lot, i guess. How much more do you still wannna achieve?

A lot more. It's important to keep setting goals for yourself, otherwise you would just be coasting aimlessly through life. But I do not depend on my achievements for my happiness. I'm melancholic, and after every milestone I find myself typically underwhelmed. The joy lasts only a second. And then I find myself questioning: is this it? Really? Was it worth it? What would ever be worth it? Maybe nothing. Holding on to that dissatisfaction wasn't productive for me. I had to make a conscious decision to be happy. Contentment and gratitude.

RaggedyAnn:



A lot more. It's important to keep setting goals for yourself, otherwise you would just be coasting aimlessly through life. But I do not depend on my achievements for my happiness. I'm melancholic, and after every milestone I find myself typically underwhelmed. The joy lasts only a second. And then I find myself questioning: is this it? Really? Was it worth it? What would ever be worth it? Maybe nothing. Holding on to that dissatisfaction wasn't productive for me. I had to make a conscious decision to be happy. Contentment and gratitude.

its really good that you've made that decision. Perfection is something no one would ever achieve but then a certain degree of perfection, aint a bad idea. The prob is, sometimes when you see some pple who are more successful, who are more perfect, there tends to be this tendency to belittle oneself and hence feel unhappy. Anoda reason why a lot of pple would feel unhappy is giving a Bleep about a lot of things that ordinarily, you shouldnt be giving a Bleep about. So as a lady who is quite contented and happy, do you think being contented with what you have is the only thing that have made you a happy person? What about other things? I very well know that contentment alone is not really enof to make someone a happy person.

About goals, i do set goals for myself but i've realized that achieving some of these goals have not really made me a happy person so am worried, i keep thinking maybe, even if i achieve all the goals i've set for myself, i might still find myself being unhappy so whats the essence of achieving them goals in the 1st place if it doesnt make me happy? So i think i need to take anoda approach to happiness. But i do not know how to go about it.

Ebuka2016:

its really good that you've made that decision. Perfection is something no one would ever achieve but then a certain degree of perfection, aint a bad idea. The prob is, sometimes when you see some pple who are more successful, who are more perfect, there tends to be this tendency to belittle oneself and hence feel unhappy. Anoda reason why a lot of pple would feel unhappy is giving a Bleep about a lot of things that ordinarily, you shouldnt be giving a Bleep about. So as a lady who is quite contented and happy, do you think being contented with what you have is the only thing that have made you a happy person? What about other things? I very well know that contentment alone is not really enof to make someone a happy person.

About goals, i do set goals for myself but i've realized that achieving some of these goals have not really made me a happy person so am worried, i keep thinking maybe, even if i achieve all the goals i've set for myself, i might still find myself being unhappy so whats the essence of achieving them goals in the 1st place if it doesnt make me happy? So i think i need to take anoda approach to happiness. But i do not know how to go about it.

That's what I said: separate happiness from achievement. It's your passion that drives you towards achieving. As for the other thing: love. Self love and love for others.

I'll be back to expatiate.

RaggedyAnn:
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That's what I said: separate happiness from achievement. It's your passion that drives you towards achieving. As for the other thing: love. Self love and love for others.

I'll be back to expatiate.

no yawa dear