Okay, I am American born, of Nigerian parents, Kano to be precise. Spent a great deal of my life here in the states, but my fam being the freaking northerners they are decided they wanted me to get a "feel" of home, so I spent quite some time back home. Now, 2 degrees and a GREAT job later, I am at a point where I should start thinking bout starting my own family. Thing is, lately, I have found myself loving my country and culture more than ever,  I care more about whats going on, the people, state of the union, economy and all that good stuff, along with it is my newfound love for African women, especially Nigerian. My family is really laid back and could care less if I choose a martian for a wife, and personally, I would love to end up with someone that was brought up with some serious culture, but the problem I have been facing is that Nigerian women just seem to have issues. They front too much, a great majority of em are VERY materialistic, act very immature, cant take a compliment, love dissing guys who have honest intentions. So, naturally, I figured maybe I just dont have a handle on how they function, so I decided to talk to other Nigerians here in NY that I know, and guess what,  About 60-70 percent of the dudes I have spoken to all have the same response, "I dont mess with Nigerian girls". Like for real, no one's saying settle, or lower your standards, but come the Bleep on. There are 6 Billion people on earth, and 4 Billion of em are women, that means there are lots of choices out there. It hurts cos at first, I just thought it was a few, but this is a very common trend among you ladies. A few weeks ago, a friend invited me to a Nigerian party, and seeing that I aint never been to one, I was psyched and ready to dance the night away, but when i got there, I was seriously dissapointed. The ladies to one side, and the guys on another, some wont dance unless you buy them and thier friends drinks, and some just wont dance because they dont know you,  WHAT THE Bleep?  the way I see it, if yall keep up this act, in 10-20 years from now, there will literally be no one available to spend your life with cos us men just dont have the time for all this drama. Anyway's I figured trying to woo one of yall is like sitting with a radio ona hill waiting to catch an alien frequency, so like most of the nigerians I know, I have gone searching elsewhere.

So it begins . . . where is the horse and the rider?

LOL, I can't relate.

So, you did the right thing by looking elsewhere. C'est fini(?)

Oui. c'est fini

If you look hard enough you'll find you a Nigerian girl here in the States and even on NL that's not materialistic and has a brain. Take Chiogo up

there the girl is nice, good looking, never materialistic, smart, into sports and can cook. What more can you look for in a girl.

Sorry about that, however although many nigerian girls contain such qualities, not all do, then again, I'm starting to think, is it a general culture thing?

Ever since I started nairaland, I've been hearing all sorts of general cons of Nigerian girls, basically the ones you have listed and if the majority do it, there may most likely a be link with this behaviour and the way some are brought up, generally speaking, those who were born and bred there, those that don't just carry maybe one of two of those characteristics, but rather the whole package.

All I can say is why not try other races? You may find your jackpot there, who knows, but If you are that determined to find a Nigerian girl all I can advise is to try harder with your search, contrary to popular belief, there are actually some good ones out there

I mean, we can't all be THAT bad, some have managed to bag themselves a husband and still are doing so

Hope you find your 'needle in the haystack'

I like how you put it, "Needle in a haystack"

ngpatroit:

I like how you put it, "Needle in a haystack"

I like how that's the only thing you could comment on

I like how you put it, "Needle in a haystack"

That's my word, and it is only supposed to be used in reference to FL Gator

SEFAGO:

That's my word, and it is only supposed to be used in reference to FL Gator

Good you took your search else where. End of discussion.  

FL Gators:

Lol, what is that look for

ThoniaSlim:

Good you took your search else where. End of discussion.

Can I refer him to your side

OgidiBoy:

If you look hard enough you'll find you a Nigerian girl here in the States and even on NL that's not materialistic and has a brain. Take Chiogo up

there the girl is nice, good looking, never materialistic, smart, into sports and can cook. What more can you look for in a girl.

Take ya time, I'm only 12.

Take ya time, I'm only 12.

Age is just a number

SEFAGO:

Lol, what is that look for

@Ogidi
woman wrapper

chiogo:

Take ya time, I'm only 12.

The bobo is from Kano so your age is perfect.


** just kidding, don't mean to be "stereotyping" ***

^Hhaaaa

Nice

LMFAO! Age is not just a number, to me anyway.

Lemme not derail this thread, carry on guys.

chiogo:

LMFAO! Age is not just a number, to me anyway.

Lemme not derail this thread, carry on guys.

I know I'm not derailing the thread, The dude is look for a mate and I thought you'd make him a good partner so stop with dey Iyanga

I feel your plight dude. You're American-born with a lax family so if Nigerian women repulse you carry your baggage elsewhere.

OgidiBoy:

Can I refer him to your side

lol. . . Sorry I'm taken and moreover I don't do Abokis.

ThoniaSlim:

lol. . . Sorry I'm taken and moreover I don't do Abokis.

Sit there and be doing shakara the bobo is an Alhaji. I'm sure he has a fleet of Honda Accords in his garage.

Actually, its an Aston Martin

Lol. . . Thank you but I'll rather stick with my Nwoke.

ngpatroit:

Actually, its an Aston Martin

How many houses do you have in sabon gari.

ThoniaSlim:

Lol. . . Thank you but I'll rather stick with my Nwoke.

The bobo can take you to press club and buy you all the suya you can eat. Nwoke will be stingy with his money to build mansion in his village.

Got me a GREAT Sierra Leonian, LIVING THE LIFE

Lol. . . Infact let him be Bill Gates son as long as his an aboki, still doesn't make a diff. I'm perfectly fine with my Nwoke!

well, all i can say is unless yall push for the country to split, ABOKI'S WILL RUN IT FOR EVER, LIVE WITH IT. OR COMMIT SUICIDE

ThoniaSlim:

Lol. . . Infact let him be Bill Gates son as long as his an aboki, still doesn't make a diff. I'm perfectly fine with my Nwoke!

What do you have against abokies nah ? you schooled in the north so you must have associated with alot of them.