Thank you all for sharing your opinion. And thank you TBD10463, mummax2, alheri for sharing your experience quite insightful. Those experiences are real eye opener.

@TBD10463, Maybe somebody with parenting experience can offer some advice. I have no experience. Thanks once again for sharing your experience.

@casper
are you a virgin that you want to marry a virgin

@babagana, Mide2, Oracle

i agree wit u "LOVE" matter in everything

The world is fast coming to an end because it seems single parenthood has become an order of the day.
Single parenthood out of loss of a partner or unfortunate marriage circumstance is OK.
But all them girls who just get pregnant and keep babies while mates are studying,I can't fathom it.
Those guys going unprotected too,I ponder!

sure, will

was born so

hey stop, dont say dat to my mama!

some went for D&C but she kept me

later got married till date and very happy together

Unfortunately those going on without protection could be victims of dreaded diseases.
mo money thank God for your life.Things happen!I'm sure u wont want to have kids in that same circumstance even if u were lucky.
U know what i mean.

i would definately marry a guy that has a kid if i love him. That is a non issue.

Why not!? But as long as the woman has a daughter (4-6 years) and not a son

no big deal i can get married to a single mother if the love is there.

Just like lots of people have said, LOVE is not enough. there are lots of other factors. for all the people that believe its impossibe to date a woman(since im a lady) who has a kid, what if she was raped and decided on been responsible and kind enough to the baby to keep it? does that still amke itmossible or a man to be sensitive enough to keep her and love her and not been so concerned about how jealous he would be or how much of her love he can get. And since the jealousy thingy came up , it does not matter if teh baby arent his ornot. if it were the guys' he still would be jealous( men are like that they always have that feeling that the baby wouldget more love than they and they dont like it). really, the only way people would really know how they would react when faced with dating or getting married to a single parent is actually been faced with the situation.IT takes lot of maturity on the side of the person with the dilemma cos there are lots of things that t.he person can not chnage and that is te fact that if teh child dont like u, the child dont like u and youmight never be gud enough. so for u that say we will jus work thru it or talk through it, you had better get ready cos its not ben and jerrys it is responsibility.

what if she's a widower,

cushman:

Why not!? But as long as the woman has a daughter (4-6 years) and not a son

U just said my mind. Seconded!

Sure. Dat na tested working

yes i possibile .on codition

well it all depends, i'll marry her if the child can accept me as a dad which i dont think i'll have a problem of replicating same.

its so interesting reading all the replies especially when it kind of relates to you.
i'm a single mum! and proud of it
you want to marry a single mum? think, well, well
cos she's going to be expecting a lot from you
i'v been there before,i dont want any financial help but emotional, i needed a lot of love
and i love my child, and would love my child more than i would love another man- can he take that?
me, i have made up my mind, marriage, no way
people tell me no man will want to take you with your baggage,
true talk, i seen it happen several times
you just work hard for you and your child
no point looking up to another man for love, affection whatever
cos no matter what, that child comes first
like someone said, i dont come with no "baggage" but a "gemstone"

yeah i think i can do it

sure! i'll get to know the kıd, ıf ı can lıve wıth em, then we get marrıed, or somethıng lıke that!

weelll, difficult but should be attempted if one is really in love with the person and if the opposite sex has the right attitude and is honest about practical issues. but any one going into such a venture should count the cost first by simulating in his/her mind worst case challenging senarios that could arisse in the later part of their life.

Sure why not, will I be able to love the child like my own?>
Really does depend, but im going to say yes

no i just couldn't, for me dealing with the ex and all is just too much of a hassle, i'd rather marry someone without that much history and connection to another woman.

You right Eurphoria, but what if the ex was dead?
You sure wouldn't have the problem of dealing with her.
If Love exists in the relationship then i see no reason why you shouldn't accept. But it sure is gonna be hard.

Try liking the child first, if there is a chemistry between u two, and then the parent is down with u, its no big deal. \\abi the single parent no be human being?
Once the chemistry flows, i go marry

Oracle,
yeah i may consider that, if he lost his ex , i know it sounds selfish.

Definitely! The most important thing for me is love and acceptance. If we both love and accept each other then it will go a long way in making our lives easier. You see when people enter into a relationship with pre-conceived negative notions, then that relationship will be fraught with problems; single parent or 'non-parent'


What of relationships without children? Are they automatically perfect because there were no children before the marriage - No!

I know of someone who thought he was a househelp because of the way his parents treated him when he was growing up- he was their first son (both of them). So how do we explain how some parents treat their biological children?

If you both work out how things are going to be before the relationship becomes permanent, most of the problems expected from such relationships really won't arise. So long as you see yourselves as soulmates then you will want to work things out and chances are you will succeed

_{Having said that, what I've noticed is that those in relationships with single parents are matured people; it is not for the childish}

Well its not like there's a choice here. However, it would be nice to know the story of how the child came into the picture. cos years later another guy can come out of the blues and want to claim the child, court cases, etc.


But on the whole that wouldn't be a barrier.

why not as long as am happy with him/her.

yes, of course or are they not human beings. infact they are d most experienced people
i will advice anybody to go ahead.
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I have 5 children. After my divorce, I have been proposed to more times than I can count.

I actually use my children as the reason I don't want to get married.

I have issues trusting men around my children, my boys too but especially my daughters who are drop dead gorgeous even at 5 and 10 years old.

The woman in this case was absolutely correct, you do not run every Tabo, Duwa and Oseun to meet your kids. Your kids don't need to see all those potentials in your life.

Drusilla

I guess you are well settled and happy then not to want to share your life except with your lovely kids. But have you got a good balance there?

I was also wondering if it is harder for a single female with kids or the males with kids? what do people think about this?

No big deal, love matters most

i would marry him if i really love him and he loves me too.

the most important factor is love and respect