supersystemsnig:



Have you now married? I am among the hustle forget woman crew, looking back, i feel it was a bad decision.....

okay

AngelicDamsel:
Why won't I break up with u, when I saw ur different pics with foreign girls




Just kidding..
Sincerely speaking , If you can't wait for your bae who is away for at least 10yrs, then I doubt ur patience for JESUS 2nd coming....

can you wait for someone for 10 years

pocohantas:


It's not mislead o! It happens.
Men even leave their wives for years in Nigeria, let alone girlfriend.

I know one my uncle kept waiting for years, he didn't marry her after every. She had to move on bitterly, I still see her.

any man wey dump im wife for another probably no love im wife in the first place .some men dey pray for any given opportunity to dump their wife.not all men love their wife.

lefulefu:

any man wey dump im wife for another probably no love im wife in the first place .some men dey pray for any given opportunity to dump their wife.not all men love their wife.

I agree 100%

supersystemsnig:


I agree 100%

Ty my brother.its in the same naija that some men when they move abroad they make every effort to bring their wives over to join them.cases don happen like dat na.some men just marry their wives out of marrying sake.dem no feel anything for them and when such a woman na the troublesome or nagging dat na even double wahala.tell me why wont the man run away if abroad open chance for am.if a man is lucky to marry a woman that he loves he fit catch more than a grenade for her.

lefulefu:
Ty my brother.its in the same naija that some men when they move abroad they make every effort to bring their wives over to join them.cases don happen like dat na.some men just marry their wives out of marrying sake.dem no feel anything for them and when such a woman na the troublesome or nagging dat na even double wahala.tell me why wont the man run away if abroad open chance for am.if a man is lucky to marry a woman that he loves he fit catch more than a grenade for her.

Lol @ if a man is lucky to marry a woman that he loves he fit catch more than a grenade for her... I agree again 100%... but did you listen to Bruno Mars this morning? A man that loves his wife, will go out of the way to make things happen

supersystemsnig:



Lol @ if a man is lucky to marry a woman that he loves he fit catch more than a grenade for her... I agree again 100%... but did you listen to Bruno Mars this morning? A man that loves his wife, will go out of the way to make things happen

haha how did u know?...yes o i listened to mars dis morning

lefulefu:
haha how did u know?...yes o i listened to mars dis morning

Lolz....I've been hungry for his songs thesedays, lemme download lazy song... Time to get lazy

Evaberry:
Most times its the guys that end the relationship because they want better prospects, wanna have fun and they believe it won't work out because of the distance

But the fact is it is very difficult for this kind of relationship to work out, both parties have to sacrifice and go through alot,

At the end of the day you might just want to ask yourself is this really worth it?

it's better to focus on yourself and your career than to go through a long distance relationship with little or no future. You gotta pay those bills homie

you fvcking bitch ass flirt

fuvck you

Tokunboh bfs & gfs everywhere!

Sydney17:
In 2014 I left Nigeria, having spent almost 2 years searching for jobs without any luck, I had a gal who was very 'loyal' despite my 'brokenness' ! We were so much in love despite the usual 'lovers' ish!

I told her about my plan to seek greener pastures abroad (since naija dey fall hands), she agreed with me though reluctantly coz of what she read and heard about distance relationships!

In short I was able to secure a visitor visa to finally leave naija and seek a better life! Hmmm, it was a mixture of joy n sadness! A lot runs through my innocent mind! The thought of leaving my parents behind, the thought of someone taking my 'boo of life' like she likes to call herself dominate my heart! But of course the though of living a better life, escaping the noises of 'molues' and danfo thrills me!

Finally I will be able to provide for my boo and my siblings! But! Hey I was wrong! 'Nowhere in the world where trees bring forth cash instead of fruits', you really have to work! I made a vow to my gal to be back in December that year! Lol! And promising never to cheat on her! We almost made blood covenant sef (no blame me o)

First few months was hell! It was extremely cold! Like there are AC every where! Infact AC sef dey learn gan! We have to wake up early morning daily to look for off jobs! Despite the coldness! Gradually! The little dollars I brought from naija don finish! I have to pay for monthly rents, electricity, water etc!

Hmmmmm! As a naija boy d hustling spirit keeps me going! And of course I maintain communication with bae! We chat on whatsapp most times am free! We upload and tag each other pictures on whatsapp and et al!

But gradually the December I promised was drawing near, yet no plan to go naija sef! Firstly due to paper issues (most of us are illegal immigrant until when luck smile on u) secondly no enough cash yet back home due to accumulated bills! Gradually reality begin to stare at my face!

Boo will call and tell me how her friends were laughing at her! How lonely she is! How boring it is! How badly she needed to be fvckd! Etc! Of course am in thousands of kilometers away! In a cold winter stricken environment wishing for a miracle!

Well! After almost two years of waiting, things changed! The pictures on FB says it all! Perhaps she can't hold on any longer! When I confronted her with my observations! She raised hell! Of course we men are always the usual suspect! I wept for days! But what can I do? Bae started frolicking with diff guys and yet some idiots back home will start shouting 'guys abroad are cheat'!

Of course my friends around laughed at me for believing there's still love in Nigeria! And she told anyone that cares to listen that she left because she's so sure I will end up marrying oyinbo!!

Fast forward! It's been three years now I left home! Paper issue sorted! Even though we ain't super rich, we ain't as broke as we use to be! Bae is still single! Getting older! Turning to churches! Updating heart aches on FB!!

Ladies! The fact that your bf left naija doesn't mean the union is over, stop this inferiority complex! No white lady is sexier than u! No oyinbo is sweeter than u! Don't let friends and gossips breaks your heart! Your man will always be your man if you're patient enough! Sorry if am boring! Just wanna share my experience with u

Have been there before, not easy on both parts, its like that batman scenes in Dark Knight, where the two boats were given detonators , one boat filled with criminals and the other filled with normal civilians where each rationalized pulling the bomb on the other. She's sure you're going to cheat because its what its expected , and you on the other hand might be thinking she's prob cheating till one person acts on it, really if things were good in this country there'd be no reason to live for better options , but its better this way relationships will always come and go, but opportunities like what you have are rare. besides who's to say she wouldn't have left you even if you stayed behind. All the best bro

supersystemsnig:



Have you now married? I am among the hustle forget woman crew, looking back, i feel it was a bad decision.....

This is my fear too, but am curious why did you say so ? and what did you experience

pcguru1:


This is my fear too, but am curious why did you say so ? and what did you experience

One just feels empty, as one begins to go further...

supersystemsnig:



One just feels empty, as one begins to go further...

Oh that one, that's a norm that's fixable on a short term basis, I thought you meant something more severe

pcguru1:


Oh that one, that's a norm that's fixable on a short term basis, I thought you meant something more severe

Nope. Just this brov. The emptiness

supersystemsnig:



Nope. Just this brov. The emptiness

You know when I left the country , I was so happy but when I got there I felt that emptiness too, my solution was alcohol and an unhealthy obsession with work, as in taking a lot of work just to keep me occupied. So I get what you mean, but am back in Nigeria, but the scenario is about to repeat itself as I might leave again.

pcguru1:


You know when I left the country , I was so happy but when I got there I felt that emptiness too, my solution was alcohol and an unhealthy obsession with work, as in taking a lot of work just to keep me occupied. So I get what you mean, but am back in Nigeria, but the scenario is about to repeat itself as I might leave again.

I can completely relate with you about this. I feel the same exact way. We were indoctrinated with hustle and leave women alone, but mehn, there's a void that craves for a woman O. I feel this same way, and us work to fill the void up, but there's that space..It's hollow. How are you holding up brov. Have you tried dating ladies on the forum ? There are amazing ladies and who knows, luck could hook you up with one

supersystemsnig:



I can completely relate with you about this. I feel the same exact way. We were indoctrinated with hustle and leave women alone, but mehn, there's a void that craves for a woman O. I feel this same way, and us work to fill the void up, but there's that space..It's hollow. How are you holding up brov. Have you tried dating ladies on the forum ? There are amazing ladies and who knows, luck could hook you up with one

No not dating anyone here, but I have friends here though, am sure things will sort it self out.

pcguru1:


No not dating anyone here, but I have friends here though, am sure things will sort it self out.

I wish us both luck

That shouldn't be a problem op, if you still love her, you can go ahead and settle down with her, the babe try, its not easy staying alone for so long.You check am now.

@op Girl � � Girl� I repeat � girls...... Fear them


Na my own be that....

pcguru1:

Have been there before, not easy on both parts, its like that batman scenes in Dark Knight, where the two boats were given detonators , one boat filled with criminals and the other filled with normal civilians where each rationalized pulling the bomb on the other. She's sure you're going to cheat because its what its expected , and you on the other hand might be thinking she's prob cheating till one person acts on it, really if things were good in this country there'd be no reason to live for better options , but its better this way relationships will always come and go, but opportunities like what you have are rare. besides who's to say she wouldn't have left you even if you stayed behind. All the best bro

thanks boss

pcguru1:


You know when I left the country , I was so happy but when I got there I felt that emptiness too, my solution was alcohol and an unhealthy obsession with work, as in taking a lot of work just to keep me occupied. So I get what you mean, but am back in Nigeria, but the scenario is about to repeat itself as I might leave again.

Speaks my mind... really don’t know why there is so much emptiness on getting abroad.

Sydney17:
In 2014 I left Nigeria, having spent almost 2 years searching for jobs without any luck, I had a gal who was very 'loyal' despite my 'brokenness' ! We were so much in love despite the usual 'lovers' ish!

I told her about my plan to seek greener pastures abroad (since naija dey fall hands), she agreed with me though reluctantly coz of what she read and heard about distance relationships!

In short I was able to secure a visitor visa to finally leave naija and seek a better life! Hmmm, it was a mixture of joy n sadness! A lot runs through my innocent mind! The thought of leaving my parents behind, the thought of someone taking my 'boo of life' like she likes to call herself dominate my heart! But of course the though of living a better life, escaping the noises of 'molues' and danfo thrills me!

Finally I will be able to provide for my boo and my siblings! But! Hey I was wrong! 'Nowhere in the world where trees bring forth cash instead of fruits', you really have to work! I made a vow to my gal to be back in December that year! Lol! And promising never to cheat on her! We almost made blood covenant sef (no blame me o)

First few months was hell! It was extremely cold! Like there are AC every where! Infact AC sef dey learn gan! We have to wake up early morning daily to look for off jobs! Despite the coldness! Gradually! The little dollars I brought from naija don finish! I have to pay for monthly rents, electricity, water etc!

Hmmmmm! As a naija boy d hustling spirit keeps me going! And of course I maintain communication with bae! We chat on whatsapp most times am free! We upload and tag each other pictures on whatsapp and et al!

But gradually the December I promised was drawing near, yet no plan to go naija sef! Firstly due to paper issues (most of us are illegal immigrant until when luck smile on u) secondly no enough cash yet back home due to accumulated bills! Gradually reality begin to stare at my face!

Boo will call and tell me how her friends were laughing at her! How lonely she is! How boring it is! How badly she needed to be fvckd! Etc! Of course am in thousands of kilometers away! In a cold winter stricken environment wishing for a miracle!

Well! After almost two years of waiting, things changed! The pictures on FB says it all! Perhaps she can't hold on any longer! When I confronted her with my observations! She raised hell! Of course we men are always the usual suspect! I wept for days! But what can I do? Bae started frolicking with diff guys and yet some idiots back home will start shouting 'guys abroad are cheat'!

Of course my friends around laughed at me for believing there's still love in Nigeria! And she told anyone that cares to listen that she left because she's so sure I will end up marrying oyinbo!!

Fast forward! It's been three years now I left home! Paper issue sorted! Even though we ain't super rich, we ain't as broke as we use to be! Bae is still single! Getting older! Turning to churches! Updating heart aches on FB!!

Ladies! The fact that your bf left naija doesn't mean the union is over, stop this inferiority complex! No white lady is sexier than u! No oyinbo is sweeter than u! Don't let friends and gossips breaks your heart! Your man will always be your man if you're patient enough! Sorry if am boring! Just wanna share my experience with u

. Baba regarding your post,is it possible to enter Australia with tourist visa and try to get a job? Without work permit?