Hello all, Please I opened this new account to pour out whats been bothering me since morning. I ll have to start from the history of the matter so you will know where it started from.
I live with my parents with 3 children. My elder sister has a good job that pays well, while I am doing a small job that pays some little money. At least enough to make me bot collect pocket money from my parents, with little savings. For the past one year, I ve been processing a permanent residence visa in a very well developed country, of which I used my savings to handle all the exams, medicals and other processing associated with it. During then, I was really saving my money, so I once borrowed 10k from my sister to buy a phone, which got stolen in less than a month, so I couldn't pay back as promised. I also failed one of the 3 exams I took and had to rewrite, of which I urgently borrowed 30k (i added 20k to make 50k). I also couldn't pay back as promised, but I ve still kept it in mind to pay when I have as I was also saving for medicals examination (50k) as the next stage of my visa processing.
The bane of the matter isn't really that. First, my sister has been acting disrespectful just because she has money. She talks without respect and orders people anyhow. Sometimes calls on the phone and begin to talk anyhow like its a servant there. She has a car, so she will be commanding or hurrying me to wash it at times, that she is busy or hurrying somewhere.

Anyway, there is this spiritual church she goes to with my mum, I ve made it clear to them years back that they should neer involve me there. I don't want to hear any message from them, any prayer point from them and anything that has to fo with them(Please the reason for this is another long story entirely). So practically, I was going about my stuff without any intervention from the church or anything that has to do with them. The church is also not even our main church, just a place my mum visits, where they say they see visions with some weird practices like that. Now, my PR visa was successful, I will be travelling in a few days time. My mum then told the pastors in that church about it, so they asked for me to come for prayer before travelling. I then made it clear that I have said I don't want to have anything to do with the place again, that they should leave me alone, they kept disturbing me. My mum was also disturbing me. I then reminded her that hope ahe knows I DID NOT LET HER KNOW ANYTHING ABOUT THE STAGES, PROCESSING AND CHALLENGES DURING THE VISA APPLICATION because, sge will only make matters worse with her spiritual bias to everything (She always thinks setbacks and illness are from witches and wizards). Now it is successful, they should leave me alone. Imagine, my sister today called me and said... "If I don't go for prayers in that Church, I must never call back home if i travel and need help" That statement has been ringing in my head since morning. I feel its the worst thing that should come out of anybody's mouth. I felt irritated and what my mind thinks is to just chin up, leave when due and don't eer talk to any of them.

But my only concern is that... My parents are not in the best of terms, and live partly away from each other, so I ve left their matter to focus on my own problems. So, my sister who ai thought will be the only family left has also made me develop hatred. I really don't want my family to just disintegrate like some I do see around. I ve usually heard of siblings and parents fighting, but I don't want mine to get to that extent. But the thing is that this church has colonized their brains that they cant think, that they are so stupid to make such threats to me... That if I have a problem(obviously, ther is no human being who is immune to problems), I should not call anybody. Meanwhile, I never told them of so many of the challenges I faced during the visa processing stages. I feel so angry right now that someone will use visiting a church to make a threat on a family member. I also didn't mention that my mum is not on good terms with my dad due to this reason, as they also have different religious ideologies. I know my sister took to it, but threatening me is what has made me develop hatred for her. Thing is my sister got her job while judiciously going to that church. I also got my PR visa without going there. I don't know why its difficult for them to respect my decision and know that everyone does not have the same ideology and everyone cannot be the same. They are making me want to decide decide that once I leave, I will cut or drastically reduce all contacts with them immediately and its a pitiful situation. Currently, my dads finances aren't too good, so she will be contributing to the amount i will take totravel for initial upkeep, so its been giving her mouth like she is some kind of boss, which is disgusting.
Please, experienced people, your advices are much needed here
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I want to believe your Sister is older.

Well, As long as you pray and believe in your God, ...

Jhuniyour:
I want to believe your Sister is older.

Well, As long as you pray and believe in your God, ...

yes, she is older with 3 years

The thing here is you only have to play along.Go to the church nothing much there.

CheapSunglass:


The thing here is you only have to play along.Go to the church nothing much there.

The thing is that.. The church's wahala is too much, like Cele.. They will be giving messages, fasting and strange visions around. Moreover, I am avoiding unnecessary socialism with the pastors there, cos thats how it starts

Please more comments are needed

family matter sha

Follow the power, this is the simple rule of Machiavellism, once you find yourself in a group, even when you travel, try as much to be in terms with the most influential person in the group.
Don't antagonie them, court their favour and be friends with them.
The only time you have to stand up to them should be your last, make sure it's done and properly delt with. In your case that will be when you are financially OK.
Am not a Christian, but I know that church won't kill you, if I were you, I will be more zealous in that church more than her.
Do it for your future and your family. Remember we're Jesus said the children of darkness are wiser than the children of light? For you it's now.
The world is not fair, read up gray books, start with 48 laws of power

You've done all the processes up until now without telling them.

Never give over your mind to just anyone to mess with be it in spiritual or matters of the heart.

Understand that you are composed of body,mind and spirit and build the total man in you.

Those cele woléé and most god of men in Nigeria are using fear to take the gullible prisoners.

How come those cele pastors are unable to get spiritual solutions to unite your parents?

This the ideal moment to pass a message across to your family by being the Man and blaze your own trails or submit your mind to some guy called woléé to pull your mental strings?

Chubhie:
You've done all the processes up until now without telling them.

Never give over your mind to just anyone to mess with be it in spiritual or matters of the heart.

Understand that you are composed of body,mind and spirit and build the total man in you.

Those cele woléé and most god of men in Nigeria are using fear to take the gullible prisoners.

How come those cele pastors are unable to get spiritual solutions to unite your parents?

This the ideal moment to pass a message across to your family by being the Man and blaze your own trails or submit your mind to some guy called woléé to pull your mental strings?

The bolded is actually one of the annoying things I have with the place.When we were young, my dad used to warn everyone not to go there, yet my mum will sneak us there. Worst part is that they will see one vision about my dad, probably saying his brother/sister/mother/frienf is plotting evil against him and imagine my mum going back to tel him. Your last statement is what I did. I made it clear to them that I won't be a party to all that.

And what gives you the impression that it is your sister's money that will contribute to your traveling, look if you know your God, you won't be saying all this. Keep being focused and let time change her opinion about you, I'm saying this from experience, besides your sister's money ain't yours she can call whatever shots she wants. Just be focused on making your life better.

follow your intuition bro..but what do you plan doing there

Whether you go or not, one thing is needed...and that is THE BRAIN. So far you don't give in to whatever anybody tells you to scare you, you can't be manipulated.

KogiChap p..ost=57516452:

T÷£.he thing is that.. The church's wahala is too much, like Cele.. They will be giving messages, fasting and strange visions around. Moreover, I am avoiding unnecessary socialism with the pastors there, cos thats how it starts

Hey sist dont visit that church or u might not be able to travel again. Gid forbids in Jesus name.

Those kind of churches are fetish and are haven for witches and emeres. like seriously.
my battery is low i will get back to u. Dont try it. A friend .had a verybad experience in one of such sometime

I will advice that you do your best to avoid that place. Your mind is not in it, so whatever they do will have no effect or control over you. It's sad to see how they manipulate people and tend to control them with fear. Make up your mind. Nothing evil will happen to you, cos, curse causeless shall not come. Shalom.

davtosh:



Hey sist dont visit that church or u might not be able to travel again. Gid forbids in Jesus name.

Those kind of churches are fetish and are haven for witches and emeres. like seriously.
my battery is low i will get back to u. Dont try it. A friend .had a verybad experience in one of such sometime

Thanks, I am a guy o. I clearly remember when I said I will stop going there, I was having challenges at the time, so my mum won't let me be, saying its because I ve left the prayers that caused the setbacks. I still chined up, and was doing my thing. Now, I ve gotten a PR visa which will definitely change my life, they won't let me rest. Sometimes, I remember the amount of grace I had at different stages of the application, yet I was mute with everyone and never went there. I ask myself if its a different God there that blesses people.

swegiedon:
follow your intuition bro..but what do you plan doing there

Its a skilled migrant PR visa. Lets me stay indefinitely and work

KogiChap:

The bolded is actually one of the annoying things I have with the place.When we were young, my dad used to warn everyone not to go there, yet my mum will sneak us there. Worst part is that they will see one vision about my dad, probably saying his brother/sister/mother/frienf is plotting evil against him and imagine my mum going back to tel him. Your last statement is what I did. I made it clear to them that I won't be a party to all that.

Women and spiritual waka waka! They always want to hear something.

Your mum and sis are neck deep in their fear based control. They are more scared of what might happen to them the moment they stop going to that church.

Perhaps, your divine mission is to liberate them from such control by ways of example?

You can build your spirit man and also see visions and aliens/demons/angels.

We are all spiritual beings having this temporary human experience with expiry date of perhaps 120 years.

In truth, there's actually nothing to fear about in this life. Not even that woléé agba.

All the very best as you damm the consequences and take total control of your body,mind and spirit.

Stand firm in the faith that you believe in and it will sure bring forth your expectations. I'm in the same challenge currently with my mum as she use to call me her husband being the bread winner of the house. She has even left spiritual churches to native because they have drained all her money. Just on Monday we both had it very tough I mean face to face and I stood on my ground that I will never ever accept such rubbish because situations are no longer the way it use to be. She tried all means to brainwash me and even threaten me that if she dies her blood will be on me. But guess what God never sleeps two days later I have gotten what I have been praying for and I give God all the glory. She no longer relate with me as mother and daughter since Monday I tried to do something for her that she likes, I made tilapia pepper soup with rice for her so as to make up for her anger but still she is not yet fallen but I will still continue to pray for her to be saved by God.

omosefeeguaibor:
And what gives you the impression that it is your sister's money that will contribute to your traveling, look if you know your God, you won't be saying all this. Keep being focused and let time change her opinion about you, I'm saying this from experience, besides your sister's money ain't yours she can call whatever shots she wants. Just be focused on making your life better.

Bae so on point!!
He should forget whatever threat and just believe things will work out fine..
He started without anybody's Help..

Thanks