I know this is a controversial topic in this generation but from the views of the author of this true story, the pros outweighs the cons.
Mr and Mrs E have been married for a few years now. They are in the same peer group and were first friends before spouses so naturally the free mentality continued into marriage.
A few years down the line quarrels began brewing, the underlying issues pointed to the man feeling not respected enough. Mrs E tried all her ideas to keep the marriage happy. Tried to incorporate hugs after prayer time etc as not only was she an affectionate person, but she also read of how hugs and the likes builds connection in couples. This didn't last long as the man quickly grew tired of being forced to hug or peck daily.
One day at a church gathering, marriage was being discussed and an old lady suggested that wives should return to the old ways of kneeling for their husbands. Everyone laughed about it and soon forgot it.
One day months later during reconciliation talks after a quarrel, the husband voiced out that he acted the way he did cos he feels his wife challenges his authority.
The wife calmly joked that did he want her to kneel to greet him daily like the old woman in church suggested, because she could. He turned his face away blushing saying "I beg don't kneel for me oh". Well madam still did kneel and said good morning lovingly. The perplexed man held her in his arms and prayed for her. While giving her all the hugs she desired.
Since that day madam has kept kneeling to greet oga. And even when oga tends to leave the bed before her, she still finds himself and says "you want to cheat me this morning abi?" as she kneels down to greet him and he pulls he up giving her a hug.
One morning last week, Mrs E went to bed angrily. In the morning, Mr E hugs her, she didn't respond well. After a few minutes he says "won't u greet me this morning?" She rolls over, kneels and greets him though still mad at him. Then it dawned on her that her husband had begun looking forward to her morning greetings and she smiled.
Needless to say their relationship has take a new dimension of intimacy. You may say she will soon get tired of this ritual, but according to Mrs E she says she even looks forward to mornings just to greet her husband.

Papiikush:
Whenever your Nigerian wife start kneeling to greet and calling you sweet names, just know she needs a favor.

Not true.



Stop spreading lies to get likes

If a guy demands that his wife kneels to greet him, then his low self esteem calls for attention. He needs a slave not a wife to massage his ego. There are other ways to show love and respect and kneeling to greet him portrays fear and extreme domination. The only time I kneel, is to greet an elder or when my dad/pastor is praying for me. But well, if my husband wants to pray for me too. Then I'll.

But my husband should be wary when I start kneeling to greet him. He should rush me to an asylum before it's too late and I start prostrating to greet him too.

Hell no!!.

I can't kneel to greet my husband because I feel I would be mocking him.........but I can kneel to receive....*clears throat*

Papiikush:


Next time before jumping into someone's comment like a frustrated low self esteemed rabbid dog, try and get the sarcasm.

Is that all?

makydebbie:
If a guy demands that his wife kneels to greet him, then his low self esteem calls for attention. He needs a slave not a wife to massage his ego. There are other ways to show love and respect and kneeling to greet him portrays fear and extreme domination. The only time I kneel, is to greet an elder or when my dad/pastor is praying for me. But well, if my husband wants to pray for me too. Then I'll.

But my husband should be wary when I start kneeling to greet him. He should rush me to an asylum before it's too late and I start prostrating to greet him too.

You can kneel to your pastor for prayers but can give your Husband that amount of respect? I feel Heartbroken reading dis

Ewlery:

You can kneel to your pastor for prayers but can give your Husband that amount of respect? I feel Heartbroken reading dis

Didn't you read when I said, I'll kneel for my husband to pray for me?

Quinn22:
I can't kneel to greet my husband because I feel I would be mocking him.........but I can kneel to receive....*clears throat*

spoilt girl

makydebbie:
Didn't you read when I said, I'll kneel for my husband to pray for me?

just prayers? I don't buy the idea of demanding for respect but as blacks there are cultures and heritage

She should kneel before God not me



He has the solution to every problems

Ewlery:
just prayers? I don't buy the idea of demanding for respect but as blacks there are cultures and heritage

So I should be kneeling to greet my husband everyday? No thank you. It sounds really abnormal to me.

Spoilt? How?!

Acidosis:


spoilt girl

Ewlery:

You can kneel to your pastor for prayers but can give your Husband that amount of respect? I feel Heartbroken reading dis

A man I knew once said that if his wife doesn't kneel to greet him then he had better not catch her kneeling for another man not even her pastor!

Quinn22:
I can't kneel to greet my husband because I feel I would be mocking him.........but I can kneel to receive....*clears throat*

Yâ future husband is in for it

This type of topic is the reason I prefer reddit and quora.
What bullsh!t

I guess it's the other way around

RoyalBlak007:




Yâ future husband is in for it

Quinn22:
I guess it's the other way around

I'm pretty sure he's gonna love your own madness too

Lmao.

RoyalBlak007:



I'm pretty sure he's gonna love your own madness too

It actually doesn't remove a single strand of hair from my body, but honestly I think kneeling for my husband EVERYDAY just to make him feel good is somehow, I'd just do it to bring peace if at all.

But some men are funny sha, why so power drunk even with your own wife?
Talking about 'challenging your authority'
Sooooo by kneeling, she no longer challenges your authority?
I guess the mr E in this story is a boy in the body of an adult.
Why don't they complain when their wife is struggling to help take care of the kids? Or even please him in bed? Why not complain of authority then?
Just like people say some women have fish brain, I swear some mehn just have hot air in their skull

Hmnn unless when praying o.




Pls all I need ur contributions and advice here thanks.

https://www.nairaland.com/3876962/it-wrong-stay-own-lane

In the story, except I am not a good writer yet, it explains that it's came about as the woman's idea and she is the reason it hasn't stopped? It's a tradition she created only in the privacy of their bedroom. No one else is privy to it.
Every marriage is unique and values and traditions are evolving as the family grows. Attempts to mould your nuclear family like your parents, friends or what society says is heading for chaos.
Also spouses need to beware of advise they receive from friends about marriage many times they don't tell u the truth about their own homes but what will boost their image in your eyes.

I could kneel to greet an old person if I feel like.
I know if I kneel to greet my hubby he will call me the fakest person on the planet and start suspecting I'm up to something.

He doesn't need uneccesary show or noise making to gain my respect.He has earned it and he earns it daily,so no need to flex low self esteem muscles.

When people start demanding outward show ,they have issues with themselves

Nothing like a man who is self assured and selfconfident not all these maimai men needing ego massaging every second as proof of man hood.

Loooooooooooooooool, I can't even be FRIENDS with a guy who portrays such a low self esteem

Quinn22:
Spoilt? How?!

We both understand

It is unnecessary.


But I have to say this...


Why do we deceive ourselves in this part of the world?

It appears that the only time we remember culture is during our traditional weddings... Majority of those who reject this idea will end up kneeling for their husbands on their wedding day. The 3 major Nigerian tribes practise this culture as part of the wedding rites... Should we continue to f00l one another with traditional and all blooming white weddings when in fact, our attitudes any other day contradict the hypocritical f00lishness will do on those traditional attires..?

Back in the days, our mothers genuinely go on their knees for their husbands during traditional engagements. These days, slay queens just do it for the Camera.

Shouldn't we just scrap traditional weddings since the real purpose has been defeated? Why do we invite the whole world to come and witness the same Nigerian traditions we condemn online with the white man technology?

Hmmmm...we are the architects of our fortunes and misfortunes. How could a man want a woman to treat him like a god and her baby simultaneously? You want a woman that speaks to you without saying a word, yet, you prefer she observes all protocols while interacting with you. How does that even work? Whew! OYO is your case! Go on, marry your village princess and cheat with Adadinma next door Na you go tire lastlast!

I don't know what you're talking about

Acidosis:


We both understand