Amadaz:
Sometimes i get scared about my future considering the present state of things

If you choose to live a very HONEST LIFE, without your mind being controlled by NEGATIVE SENTIMENTS, being steadfast and patient, an explorer, seeker after TRUTH and living SINCERELY by your UNDISPUTABLE findings, structured by REALITY OF PRECISION and not PRE-CONCEPTION nor ASSU?PTIONS but C'OCK SURE. I assure you that there is NOTHING to fear today or tomorrow.

The major reasons for all these crisis we see every where is because of what is infact an abnormal and perverted civilization which this era prides her self in the name of MODERNIZATION.

Modernity is actually an opposition to traditional values. VALUES WHICH UPHOLD THE DIGNITY OF MANKIND. The result of this oppsition is today's crisis, CRISIS OF THE MODERN WORLD, where the home, family and marriage institutions mentioning the least, has fallen all in a chase after vanities. ITS DELIBERATE, NOT ARBITRARY AT ALL BUT VERY WELL CALCULATED. ITS A NEW WORLD AGENDA, A SOCIETAL DESIGN BY MASTERS OF MANKIND.

At present in the WEST, (America, Europe....) a very, very large percentage of ladies are single and will remain so till the die. I CAN WRITE SCHOLARSTICALLY AND HONSETLY VOLUMES ON THIS TREND ENCROACHING THE REST OF THE WORLD.

Despite the artificial creation of hardship cooked and well served, a meal called recession. The SEX industry is booming making lots of money. SENSUALITY MAKES SO MUCH MONEY, why will the world's economy driven by capitalism, which makes so much money from ILLICITNESS want marriages to work. All these so many guys not married and and ladies too are the prime customers of this SEX INDUSTRIES. Just trying to give you an insight. In the nearest future, men will be getting married to SEX DOLLS, like as these dolls were launched in SPAIN...............since sex as being reduced to nothing but Masturbation and since these dolls will need not food or clothing except batteries.
DONT THINK ALL THAT IS HAPPEINING IS ACCIDENTAL, THEY ARE WELL PLANNED TO ACHIEVING A GOAL.

[quote author=realnas post=57918572]Notice that the ladies in question are from the erosion infested, red mud, crime headquarters of Nigeria...

Am sorry for you cos your mum didn't give you a complete doze of breast milk...

Receive common sense now.....

Abeg i dey find wife

Naughtysite:


Older men are becoming more envious of young men and would not like to see them succeed in life.

Even if you are doing well on your own, they did pull you down with slightest contact.

In develop world a guy of 18 is already working with his own apartment, at 22 or 23 he is already married that's if he doesn't want to flirt with ladies. But here in Nigeria a man of 30 still lives with his parents or Big Brother, still collecting pocket money. The situation is just terrible.

jaybee3:


Let's flip it for a second and view it from a father/daughter angle.

Would you feel comfortable allowing your daughter whom you've tremendously invested in become a second class citizen just so she can become a Mrs?
Or
Would it be acceptable not to invest in them (girls) but rather focus on the boys since they will most certainly yield positive financial results?

I think it has a lot to do with understanding and full acceptance of roles in marriages.

Flip as much as you want.

1. It is the man that pays the bride price in Nigeria.

2. It is the responsibility of the man (by African tradition) to feed the family (although some women are breadwinners, but in most of such marriages the man has no say in the family).

3. The man also takes care of his parents and siblings including those of the wife's family (except in few instances where the wife is rich or her family is well-off).


The developed west we are copying, scrapped bride price a long time ago.
and family financial responsibility is shared.

chronique:
Ok. For most men, it's fear of being financially incapable. For others, it's not meeting the kind of women they want. But honestly, if we want to remedy this situation, it's not so much a hard thing. Return most of the jobs to the men and by so doing, you'd be empowering them financially to take up responsibility.

Give the job to a woman who becomes comfortable and starts searching for a partner who refuses to turn up because he doesn't want to be seen as incapable and a gold digger. At the end, he remains single and she remains single.


Give the job to a man and empower him financially to take up responsibility and he gets married and can afford to take care of his wife from it. She gets off the single market and so does he.


Looking at both scenarios, which makes more sense? Obviously the second. But unfortunately, we live in an era where more jobs are being assigned to the women and at the end of the day, the society at large ends up suffering it.

WELL DONE!

Hahahaha bro u are really so funny

Flyingngel:
It call for serious concern. Imagine a lady of 40years looking for a man when as at such age shld have been through with child bearing.
In my state, it is the issue of marriage list that is keeping some low income men from approaching marriage.
Imagine getting a list of abt 700000 to 900000 naira; guy no person go say make u run couple with this Buhari economy.

agitator:


Flip as much as you want.

1. It is the man that pays the bride price in Nigeria.

2. It is the responsibility of the man (by African tradition) to feed the family (although some women are breadwinners, but in most of such marriages the man has no say in the family).

3. The man also takes care of his parents and siblings including those of the wife's family (except in few instances where the wife is rich or her family is well-off).


The developed west we are copying, scrapped bride price a long time ago.
and family financial responsibility is shared.

We need to sit down and address these issues. A working man has a lot of people to fend for even his wife's family if they are not doing too well financially but have you heard of a married woman even though working fending for her husband's family? If there is, it's a very rare occurrence.

My dear forget, it is not Africa alone. Single ladies all over the world don't live a happy life, they live pretentious life

Evaberry:
I can't wait for when Africa will stop seeing marriage as a priority

agitator:


Flip as much as you want.

1. It is the man that pays the bride price in Nigeria.

2. It is the responsibility of the man (by African tradition) to feed the family (although some women are breadwinners, but in most of such marriages the man has no say in the family).

3. The man also takes care of his parents and siblings including those of the wife's family (except in few instances where the wife is rich or her family is well-off).


The developed west we are copying, scrapped bride price a long time ago.
and family financial responsibility is shared.

Bride price is culture specific hence isn't recognised by the law. Though it's common but surely can't be used as standard

It was the responsibility of the man back in 'em days as written in the holy book. Women historically stayed at home as most jobs required and demanded physical prowess. World has evolved and we ought to adapt accordingly

pcguru1:
Can't blame the men, recession,inflation and dollar rate is crazy out there coupled with you're not sure of the person you want to marry if they really love you or just pressurized to get married, don't want to wake up two years down the line only for the babe saying she only married you out of pressure or disturbing her ex who was never serious, its a raw deal for men.

nice point.
for me im in love with a girl. she loves me so much but i know we cant get married. shes igbo and im edo. again we have different religion. i just dont know how to tell her. im so confused but she is my type of person. a person who apologises just to avoid grudge. a gurl that accepted me when i was broke. what do i do because i know she has turned down advances from wealthier igbo guys because of me. im so confused. i need advice.

jaybee3:


Bride price is culture specific hence isn't recognised by the law. Though it's common but surely can't be used as standard

It was the responsibility of the man back in 'em days as written in the holy book. Women historically stayed at home as most jobs required and demanded physical prowess. World has evolved and we ought to adapt accordingly

Now you are talking. Problem is Nigerians are not adapting, keeping the old cultures that favours them and accepting the new/foreign that favours them, others are at the receiving end.

Women want equal opportunities, as the advanced world, while maintaining man being responsible for the welfare of the family.

This causes a shortage of marriageable men, because the men want to meet up.

agitator:


Now you are talking. Problem is Nigerians are not adapting, keeping the old cultures that favours them and accepting the new/foreign that favours them, others are at the receiving end.

Women want equal opportunities, as the advanced world, while maintaining man being responsible for the welfare of the family.

This causes a shortage of marriageable men, because the men want to meet up.

So we shouldn't disengage/derail wheel or pace of evolvement but instead educate the younger ones on how to make themselves attractive to prospective suitors

doskie:
nice point.
for me im in love with a girl. she loves me so much but i know we cant get married. shes igbo and im edo. again we have different religion. i just dont know how to tell her. im so confused but she is my type of person. a person who apologises just to avoid grudge. a gurl that accepted me when i was broke. what do i do because i know she has turned down advances from wealthier igbo guys because of me. im so confused. i need advice.

I don't see any reason why you guys can't be married, I mean I've seen igbo get married to yoruba of all tribes talkless about igbo, what's the main concern, guy hold your wife tight good girls are not easy to find oh, is it financial or cultural differences, have the parents said anything ? when you say different religion what do you mean ? Catholic and protestant ?

pcguru1:


I don't see any reason why you guys can't be married, I mean I've seen igbo get married to yoruba of all tribes talkless about igbo, what's the main concern, guy hold your wife tight good girls are not easy to find oh, is it financial or cultural differences, have the parents said anything ? when you say different religion what do you mean ? Catholic and protestant ?

the thing about tribal difference is in her ability to speak a language i dont understand. im muslim shes christian.

doskie:
the thing about tribal difference is in her ability to speak a language i dont understand. im muslim shes christian.

Ah I see let me bust your mind, I have a friend called Bolaji fashola he is a Muslim and his wife is igbo and a Christian and they are married but though not gonna lie Religion plays a big divider Ave never seen an edo Muslim before this is new for me. I don't know what to say

pcguru1:


Ah I see let me bust your mind, I have a friend called Bolaji fashola he is a Muslim and his wife is igbo and a Christian and they are married but though not gonna lie Religion plays a big divider Ave never seen an edo Muslim before this is new for me. I don't know what to say

hahahahaha.... how can you say youve never seen an edo muslim lol..
most people from auchi in edo state are muslims.
its true on both sides. religion brings a serious divider. even a typical igbo would raise an eyebrow about her friend dating a muslim.

ikeepitreal:
Gone Gone the form of man.

Arise the demon etrigan

ab11baddo:
Arise the demon etrigan

My man. you just made my day. I've been waiting endlessly for someone to complete that.

they should just go and freeze their eggs now that they are young like 28, at 41 its not easy to get pregnant.

jaybee3:


Let's flip it for a second and view it from a father/daughter angle.

Would you feel comfortable allowing your daughter whom you've tremendously invested in become a second class citizen just so she can become a Mrs?
Or
Would it be acceptable not to invest in them (girls) but rather focus on the boys since they will most certainly yield positive financial results?

I think it has a lot to do with understanding and full acceptance of roles in marriages.

Nobody wants to see his daughter die a single woman no matter how many degrees she attains

Is that all? Our young guys ar fleeing d country...so who will marry these young ladys?

buchilino:


SO IF SOMEONE TELLS U TO PAY 500K AS BRIDE PRICE, U WILL FOOLISHLY PAY IT. I THOUGHT U GUYS WERE SMART. BESIDE Y R U TRYING TO BE TRIBAL, DIDN'T SOMEBODY PAY MORE DAN 2 MILLION AS BRIDE PRICE 4 IBBs DAUGHTER RECENTLY.

Continue carrying my matter for head like gala market, you go sell

Polygamy the solution but they won't agree

ikeepitreal:

My man. you just made my day.
I've been waiting endlessly for someone to complete that.

I love d way d demon uses rhymes to communicate

Evablizin:
No be to marry be the problem na the wahala weh dey inside people weh marry self de run out like flash eg churchill and tonto,mercy and lan wat i don forget self,ladies and gentlemen make una shine eyes very well

of all the joke Silva's and omotolas, eez these bad eggs you picked ur reference point from? wow a lovely case of half empty half full analogy.

ab11baddo:
I love d way d demon uses rhymes to communicate

Am curious is this a book

pcguru1:


Am curious is this a book

nope.... Not a book

ab11baddo:
nope.... Not a book

Out of curiosity I Google it and even found out it was a character I knew from the DC Universe, I think it was one episode in Justice league when they were kids. Imagine

pcguru1:


Out of curiosity I Google it and even found out it was a character I knew from the DC Universe, I think it was one episode in Justice league when they were kids. Imagine

it's like a spell to summon d demon etrigan

ijustdey:









http://pmexpressng.com/tough-economy-causes-scarcity-marriage-suitors-lagos/

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It is not compulsory to get married if it is
NOT coming yet. Or you can go for surrogacy
/sperm donation if you want a child or two and live
happily ever after