Afam4eva:
Great question.

The problem with the term LOVE as defined by a lot of people is a farce and is only a representation of what their ideal man or woman should be. When actually love is supposed to connect people beyond any conceivable variable. Like a very beautiful and well endowed lady getting married to a short, black and big headed man who isn't rich. That is true love right there and not juju like a lot of people will want to believe.

Now, going for your spec is a different ball game. But please don't call it love except it's truely love.

It pertinent to note that people also attract what they are. It's funny how some ladies who aren't so good looking in the first place will be looking for a tall, handsome, rich and God fearing man. Examine yourself both inwards and outwards and be realistic with your expectations. I've seen people as beautiful as Agbani Darego gallivanting the streets of Lagos looking so clean and foine but i don't bother going after them because...

olagbemi118:
The poster below me has the right answers u need...he has never disappointed & he won't start now...trust him & do as he says....mind u I didn't read the post...

makydebbie:
I think it matters. To avoid things like, "she's not my soec". To justify cheating later on. We all know love can get us unreasonable at times. But guys I beg you, if you love busty ladies, go for them big boobs ladies. Don't go for a peanut sized boobs, and when you're caught cheating on her, you'll give excuse that you've always liked them big. As for me, it matters. So as to avoid stories that touch.

greatwomenworld:

Abi... you have a point o. justification for cheating

makydebbie:
I think it matters. To avoid things like, "she's not my soec". To justify cheating later on. We all know love can get us unreasonable at times. But guys I beg you, if you love busty ladies, go for them big boobs ladies. Don't go for a peanut sized boobs, and when you're caught cheating on her, you'll give excuse that you've always liked them big. As for me, it matters. So as to avoid stories that touch.

makydebbie:
I think it matters. To avoid things like, "she's not my soec". To justify cheating later on. We all know love can get us unreasonable at times. But guys I beg you, if you love busty ladies, go for them big boobs ladies. Don't go for a peanut sized boobs, and when you're caught cheating on her, you'll give excuse that you've always liked them big. As for me, it matters. So as to avoid stories that touch.

Kondomatic:
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makydebbie:
I think it matters. To avoid things like, "she's not my soec". To justify cheating later on. We all know love can get us unreasonable at times. But guys I beg you, if you love busty ladies, go for them big boobs ladies. Don't go for a peanut sized boobs, and when you're caught cheating on her, you'll give excuse that you've always liked them big. As for me, it matters. So as to avoid stories that touch. I'm a tall lady, because of love I'll not end up with a short man.

vicfuntop:
@greatwomenworld I will say yes and no. Physical appearance is directly proportional to love in most cases. I don't believe that you wake up one day and fall in love just like that.

You have to be attracted to the person first. In other scenarios, personality can be very attractive and a person can have that intriguing personality on a body that you are not even attracted to at all.

What happens in a scene like this? You WEIGH. Does his/her personality interests you more than how he/she looks? I mean you weigh the personality and looks. Anyone that has a higher percentage, you go for. I believe you use your heart to weigh here .Let me use my self as a case study.

I am attracted to very dark, slim, tall, left handed and good looking men, but I ended up with a very good looking, chocolate, tall, chubby man. He has this kind of bad boy personality , honestly I think that was what I was attracted to first. Then as time flew by,I fell in love.

In summary, you have just got to WEIGH which is more important

Antina:


My sister, marrying someone spec. doesn't not stop someone from cheating "a cheater will always cheat and find excuse to justify it. What you will hear next is 'it's devil's work'.

vicfuntop:
@greatwomenworld I will say yes and no. Physical appearance is directly proportional to love in most cases. I don't believe that you wake up one day and fall in love just like that.

You have to be attracted to the person first. In other scenarios, personality can be very attractive and a person can have that intriguing personality on a body that you are not even attracted to at all.

What happens in a scene like this? You WEIGH. Does his/her personality interests you more than how he/she looks? I mean you weigh the personality and looks. Anyone that has a higher percentage, you go for. I believe you use your heart to weigh here .Let me use my self as a case study.

I am attracted to very dark, slim, tall, left handed and good looking men, but I ended up with a very good looking, chocolate, tall, chubby man. He has this kind of bad boy personality , honestly I think that was what I was attracted to first. Then as time flew by,I fell in love.

In summary, you have just got to WEIGH which is more important

Edemaya:
When you get to a stage in life, u will definitely understand physical appearance isn't that special in telling someone No, what will be your watch out for would mainly be good characters, God fearing and at least a man that can take care of your needs.

Antina:


My sister, marrying someone spec. doesn't not stop someone from cheating "a cheater will always cheat and find excuse to justify it. What you will hear next is 'it's devil's work'.

Antina:
You were engrossed with his appearance and after your wedding he has an accident and what you like most in his appearance withers off, will you get a divorce?
Or you marry an handsome 'wife beater' or a beautifully shaped 'slay queen' who will kill you before your time.

There is one I read like that, she says she was in love with his hair before marriage, after marriage the husband lost some of his hair, God knows to what! And doesn't love husband anymore, But his husband dad is attracted to her (father-in-law) cos he still has the hair she fell in love with.

If we look at the divorce rate around us, we wouldn't say most of them didn't marry their specifications.

To me I will say appearance is not 'that' necessary, as far as he is complete (no disabilities), little above me in almost every aspects and he is good, I'm good to go.

Acidosis:
Am I the only one who doesn't give a fck about appearance?

I particularly run away from ladies who carry these spec nonsense for head. If by any chance they fail to marry a man that meets at least 70% of their spec, that marriage will never know peace.

Nothing beats a woman or a man that loves you for no reason! When a man or woman loves you because you're tall, fat or rich, just know that you're doomed forever. The problem isn't whether or not the appearance will wither,

Acidosis:

it is the fact that he/she will always meet someone BETTER, TALLER, FAIRER, RICHER, etc.

greatwomenworld:

really? no offence o but can you go for a dwarf with all these personality?