All these talks from ladies of: “I cannot marry a man who doesn't have this..”
“I cannot marry a man who doesn't have that..”

My question is what do you have and what are you bringing to the table?

They’re always talking about what they’re entitled to from the man. But never feel the man is entitled to something too from them.

This is why a lot of men don't respect some women. They come like benefactors not partners. It's all about what the man has or not. It's more like he's fathering you and not like partnership.

And this is one fueling forces of condescension and abuse from some men because he feels fully responsible for you, just like you're his child.

That is not how it's supposed to be.

A woman should bring something to the table.
It's not just about what he lacks or has.
He doesn't have a good house..you say..
He doesn't have a car, you say..
You, what do you have?

There are lots of empty women seeking to marry filled men. It doesn't work that way.

Men who respect their wives and worship them so much is not because of their beauty and curves. It's because of what she brought to the table. Because she came with something, she wasn't an empty woman just making demands from her man, she brought stuff, she made things happen..

This is why I keep saying that a woman cannot just fold her and watch her husband foot all the wedding bills. Unless he's very capable and wants to. But then this is wedding; both of you getting married, he is not adopting you, and it's really sensible that you bring your quota. Contribute something.
Give your man that sense of partnership. Most women are the ones who demean and devalue themselves because they feel as a female they should bring nothing. Automatically the man has a superior stand; sees you like an inferior. This is why they are abused; you make men feel that because you're female, nothing much should come from you.

A woman must bring something to the table if she wants to be respected. It might not be money but something really valuable.

Solomon Buchi Bartholomew
Life Coach/Motivational Speaker