For the ladies in the hosue, i need ur advise. what would be your reaction or do if your husband of 3 years claimed he lacks trust in you because you practise christainity and he is a muslim and that he married u thinking you would change ur religion to his and now not?

somebody please talk, need ur advise before i do otherwise

@Poster as a poster before said, I think it would have been better if you had worked this out before marriage, but some times we think things may not be a problem, sadly things change.


I used to date a Muslim guy, to be honest I was very happy he had a faith, he had a lot of principles and tried to live up to most.
I thought it would have been fine, but later the difference in faith did effect the relationship.

But I honestly do not see what you have done wrong, did you say you would convert?

At first, there was no trust.

He knows you're a Christian before he married you, he was giving you the benefit of doubt.

Your behaviour in the past three years might not have shown to him that you're really a religious person which he expected; be it Christian or Muslim.

Maybe you should work on your character.

@madlady, to convert would be the last thing i will do, cos we both tried to iron this issue out before marriage and he vowed it won't be an issue that am free to practise any one i so desire, now its s different story. am really confused by now and i feel like poisoning him cos to really support his words then we did church wedding with the registry and he has started going to church with me, all of a sudden he just came back from one of his trip to Uk and turn over a muslim back.

mature ladies in the house please talk to me before i commit a crime in this house cos my hatred for him since two days ago now is growing too fast.

thanks

ojuomoge2:

@madlady, to convert would be the last thing i will do, cos we both tried to iron this issue out before marriage and he vowed it won't be an issue that am free to practise any one i so desire, now its s different story. am really confused by now and i feel like poisoning him cos to really support his words then we did church wedding with the registry and he has started going to church with me, all of a sudden he just came back from one of his trip to Uk and turn over a Muslim back.

mature ladies in the house please talk to me before i commit a crime in this house cos my hatred for him since two days ago now is growing too fast.

thanks

I really do not know what to say.

I was the the one who ended the rel, so I took the easy way out, you cannot.

His faith is very important so maybe he feels he is going against it



You will just have to keep talking .

@madlady does this mean muslims men general are very deceptive, wicked, not keeping to their words? cos heaven knows would rather break the marriage than convert, cos i took his words for real before accepting him. apart from this issue of religion, i wld say he is a nice man any woman can have, what i mean by that is he doesn't drink or smoke, he doesn't keep too many frirneds, he is not the party type or womanize, but with theis faith issue i don't mind to break it up cos i can NEVA CONVERT TO A MUSLIM or u feel am taking a wrong step?

My sister you are into it already.Most of the Muslims guys that promise you heaven and earth be4 marriage are lying.As you hv vowed not to change ur religion the same mind he got not to change his but he wuld be thinking that as the head of the family,he wuld have the finally say.This is a big issue.
Since you are a Christian ,i will advice you to take it to God in prayer cos it can only take the grace of God.I know this is late but WHY did u go into it in the first place!!!!!?
He evn tried to allow you to practice for sometime,for some of them,it is immediately after that wedding day that you start to worship dir own way cos ur kettle and veil wuld already be waiting for you.
Take it to God and ask for His mercy upon ur marriage.I know He is a merciful and faithful God.Meanwhile,be submissive and dont be rude to him or get angry.You cant say even your character can make him change.Dont try to  be adamant,try and be nice to his reactions and let him see reasons as well.
Wishing u the very best

ojuomoge2:

@madlady does this mean muslims men general are very deceptive, wicked, not keeping to their words? cos heaven knows would rather break the marriage than convert, cos i took his words for real before accepting him. apart from this issue of religion, i wld say he is a nice man any woman can have, what i mean by that is he doesn't drink or smoke, he doesn't keep too many frirneds, he is not the party type or womanize, but with theis faith issue i don't mind to break it up cos i can NEVA CONVERT TO A MUSLIM or u feel am taking a wrong step?

That is them for you.They deceive most of the Christians they plan to get married to and to change their words as soon as they finish the wedding.I wont advice you to convert to a Muslim ooooo.And dont think of divorce for now.There may be Muslim girls already on the queue waiting for you to leave ,pls dont give them that chance.Still rely on God and dont be stubborn abt it please.Ask God for Wisdom which is the principal thing and He will guide you.

ojuomoge2:

@madlady does this mean muslims men general are very deceptive, wicked, not keeping to their words? cos heaven knows would rather break the marriage than convert, cos i took his words for real before accepting him. apart from this issue of religion, i wld say he is a nice man any woman can have, what i mean by that is he doesn't drink or smoke, he doesn't keep too many frirneds, he is not the party type or womanize, but with theis faith issue i don't mind to break it up cos i can NEVA CONVERT TO A MUSLIM or u feel am taking a wrong step?

NO NO NO NO PLEASE DO NOT READ IT THIS WAY . I LEFT BECAUSE I DID NOT LOVE HIM.

@POSTER: i think he is not inlove with u.

@Poster your faith is very important to you, I can see that.

My case was  100% different, if I had loved him I would have converted in a flash.

@poster, be smart to work out of the marriage fast cos the guy is planing to bring in a muslim lady to replace u fast. its their usual norms, he will stop at 4 0r 7 wives

Nikky, pls dnt generalse. there are vry faithfl muslim guys around, poster said h dosnt wmanse.

@Postr, u shld know dat it wil be very hard for a man as devoted as hm to convert. Just pray 2 God for direction.

Please DO NOT convert!! To put a man before God is a bigger mistake! Be the perfect wife then he has no complaints and if he wants out cos of your faith then it will be on his head not yours. Stand firm in your faith!! If has changed his mind about your faith then he can feel free to leave at any time.

The basis of your faith is different. What an Islamic marriage permitted, Christianity do not. But one thing is sure, you can never win him over. And if you feel the heat is too much to bear, it is better to be seperated than commiting murder.

you muppet!!

did u not know the only reason he married you is cos he thot u would change ur religion??

kmt i dont understand these women nowadays what made u think it will work??

anyways ur alreadi married

so its best u tell ur husband to do his own while u don ur own

u religions dont need to bother each other!

ps no amt of prayer and fasting will convert him

in fact it will onli make things worse tryin!!

Never mind gal, trust God, for with Him there is nothing impossible. my advice to u is that let the light so shine on u that when they see they will come to know Christ. Be the virtue woman. May God see u thru, Amen

thanks eveyone that replies. on s second tot. am thinking of packing out of the house for him to an undisclosed place/country for like six months, maybe he will come to his senses before he runs me mad in the house. if u are against this, u can make ur comment as well. thanks

ojuomoge2:

thanks eveyone that replies. on s second tot. am thinking of packing out of the house for him to an undisclosed place/country for like six months, maybe he will come to his senses before he runs me mad in the house. if u are against this, u can make your comment as well. thanks

You are still upset . You should have put this thread on the religion section, you would have got some advice that your husband my have looked at.

Medicine after death. 
I bet you were singing "Love " conquers it all before marriage, abi?
Ehn let it see you through now. You want to run away now? Whatever happened to that sweet love?

No matter what anyone says about love and blah blah blah. . .religious differences is a big deal especially in marriage. . .problems definitely crop in at some point no matter how accepting or understanding each partner is . .

Your on your own there. . .cus it was a choice you made. . .so live with it. . .

stillwater:

Medicine after death.  
I bet you were singing "Love " conquers it all before marriage, abi?
Ehn let it see you through now. You want to run away now? Whatever happened to love?

My mind exactly. If u truly uphold your religion like you are claiming now, you wouldn't have ventured into marrying a muslim. Why is it so difficult to convert to Islam now? I'm sure you didn't see anything wrong in Islam when you tied the knot.

Well, my advice to you is in 1Pet 3

1Wives, in the same way be submissive to your husbands so that, if any of them do not believe the word, they may be won over without words by the behavior of their wives, 2when they see the purity and reverence of your lives. 3Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as braided hair and the wearing of gold jewelry and fine clothes. 4Instead, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God's sight. 5For this is the way the holy women of the past who put their hope in God used to make themselves beautiful. They were submissive to their own husbands, 6like Sarah, who obeyed Abraham and called him her master. You are her daughters if you do what is right and do not give way to fear

Be a good wife and continue to pray for him.

Love don shack finish, eyes don open

Tgirl4real:

My mind exactly. If u truly uphold your religion like you are claiming now, you wouldn't have ventured into marrying a muslim. Why is it so difficult to convert to Islam now? I'm sure you didn't see anything wrong in Islam when you tied the knot.

Well, my advice to you is in 1Pet 3

Be a good wife and continue to pray for him.

Nigerians, religion and prayers

So because he does not drink, smoke & club u think he is a nice men. Thats y men easily decieve ladies. Some wil say that because the guy is ready 2 wait ontil the girl is ready 4 se.x no matta hw long, that means he is nice. U ladies allow ur selves 2 b decived by drawin conclusion from all these little rubush. Now where is the love. Anoda mistake u ladies make is seeing love a sometin that shuld last 4eva hence u 4get 2 put in2 consideratiön what u shuld do if the love fades. Do u have a child 4 him? Hw couldnt u have seen this b4 u married him? Everybody knows that muslims marry more than 2 wives(i gues u were already prepared 4 this). If a man does not drink, smoke and club, the most likly place he can acheive gratification is in women and this he does secretly because of the pubic standard he has already created(most muslims do this). U can neva b hapy wit him. His so calld luv has faded and now sees reason 2 doubt u. Pls leave dat marriage and start all ova b4 its 2 late