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Why Don't I Forget Easily #torture Help!!! by XXXwhistleblowe(m): 6:35am On Jul 27, 2017 |
I don't know if this happens to me alone or there are people out there who experience this too. I have observed that I hold on to memorize of my pasts that often makes me nostalgic. Sometime I wish I could go back to that time and experience those feelings again. This feeling weighs me down and doesn't let me enjoy the present moment with the people I'm with. Another phase of this problem is I hardly forget wrongs and most of the things people say to me so it makes me hold grudges even when I don't want to. But its hard because my brain keeps reminding me and its like I'm living that experience all over. So I get angry and the other person who doesn't understand. Does not know why I'm making the fuss. This is affecting me a lot as I have become too emotional and sentimental. I can't even keep a girlfriend because of this grudge thing. If she lies to me once without knowing. My brain filters her out as dishonest and I start losing feelings. Especially when people contradict themselves, my brain remembers everything. There was a time I was in church and my pastor insulted fela as being an agent of the devil. My brain recorded it. The I guess after a year or so the same pastor praised fela as an icon. Everyone else has forgotten but it kept conflicting itself in my head. If anybody here can help me, I'll appreciate the advice and tips. I feel too Much and its wrecking me... 2 Likes |
Re: Why Don't I Forget Easily #torture Help!!! by Bibi294(f): 6:38am On Jul 27, 2017 |
Get a counselor.. You need serious help |
Re: Why Don't I Forget Easily #torture Help!!! by swiz123(m): 6:42am On Jul 27, 2017 |
Sorry BRO.. Nairaland ain't got therapists and u really need one |
Re: Why Don't I Forget Easily #torture Help!!! by XXXwhistleblowe(m): 6:46am On Jul 27, 2017 |
Bibi294: I don't think its that serious 1 Like |
Re: Why Don't I Forget Easily #torture Help!!! by Nobody: 7:38am On Jul 27, 2017 |
Hmm op you're just like my mum and seriously I do not pray to marry a person like her. But the good thing about you is that you admit something is wrong with you and that's the beginning of all solutions..so I see you getting better. My mum never admitted she had issues and that had made people desert her. she's just alone. If I weren't the only child of a single mother, I would have left her too bcus being with is more of enduring than fun. Now that you've admitted your faults, open up your mind and let peaceful influences come in. It may seem difficult at first but you'll rejoice at the end. 1 Like |
Re: Why Don't I Forget Easily #torture Help!!! by Nobody: 7:45am On Jul 27, 2017 |
I don't forget easily, I can quote what a person said to me in the last 5 years.. Its actually helping me in my school. 1 Like |
Re: Why Don't I Forget Easily #torture Help!!! by networkrecharg: 7:51am On Jul 27, 2017 |
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Re: Why Don't I Forget Easily #torture Help!!! by networkrecharg: 7:54am On Jul 27, 2017 |
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Re: Why Don't I Forget Easily #torture Help!!! by SirMichael1: 7:55am On Jul 27, 2017 |
Rorachy: Lmao. What was the first sentence I said to you when our monikers crossd path? |
Re: Why Don't I Forget Easily #torture Help!!! by Nobody: 7:57am On Jul 27, 2017 |
networkrecharg:Why? |
Re: Why Don't I Forget Easily #torture Help!!! by Nobody: 7:58am On Jul 27, 2017 |
SirMichael1:Why would I care about what you told me? 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Why Don't I Forget Easily #torture Help!!! by blackonblack(m): 8:08am On Jul 27, 2017 |
Re: Why Don't I Forget Easily #torture Help!!! by Bibi294(f): 8:15am On Jul 27, 2017 |
XXXwhistleblowe:You sure? |
Re: Why Don't I Forget Easily #torture Help!!! by networkrecharg: 8:32am On Jul 27, 2017 |
Re: Why Don't I Forget Easily #torture Help!!! by XXXwhistleblowe(m): 9:16am On Jul 27, 2017 |
RadicallyBlunt:. I just hope it doesn't affect me, I need to learn to let go of things and not take things personally. |
Re: Why Don't I Forget Easily #torture Help!!! by XXXwhistleblowe(m): 9:16am On Jul 27, 2017 |
Rorachy: Does it affect your emotions too? And your relation with people. |
Re: Why Don't I Forget Easily #torture Help!!! by Nobody: 11:37am On Jul 27, 2017 |
XXXwhistleblowe:I try to forget people wrongdoings 1 Like |
Re: Why Don't I Forget Easily #torture Help!!! by Nobody: 11:58am On Jul 27, 2017 |
networkrecharg:I'm not in Uyo. |
Re: Why Don't I Forget Easily #torture Help!!! by jacyhelen(f): 12:08pm On Jul 27, 2017 |
RadicallyBlunt: your mum is an introvert simple |
Re: Why Don't I Forget Easily #torture Help!!! by thanki410(m): 12:11pm On Jul 27, 2017 |
Because your brains are in your head. Fall in love first and get romanced , in between the hot section , let romance land ask you about yourself and see if you will remember |
Re: Why Don't I Forget Easily #torture Help!!! by Nobody: 12:23pm On Jul 27, 2017 |
jacyhelen:She's not. Shes a very hard choleric |
Re: Why Don't I Forget Easily #torture Help!!! by XXXwhistleblowe(m): 12:34pm On Jul 27, 2017 |
thanki410: Explain better 1 Like |
Re: Why Don't I Forget Easily #torture Help!!! by Divay22(f): 12:38pm On Jul 27, 2017 |
That's one of the things that happens to introverted people.. They always go back to the past, what others have forgotten they tend to hold on to it.. I got a change of heart, when my pastor's wife preached about PEACE. I realized i was holding on to things that ain't relevant, even things that people weren't serious about, I had to free myself,i forgave myself and everyone i was holding in my heart and God helping me I am as free like an eagle and i found peace... Now life seems to be so sweet, I laugh over all the laughable " I'm like hey IT DOESN'T COUNT " Nothing is more sweet than going to bed, with a free heart. So OP try it's all in you, your life is yours, nothing goes in without your consent, you ain't doing anybody but you are doing yourself..... DO you know God hardly answer your prayers, if you're holding on to grudges? 1 Like |
Re: Why Don't I Forget Easily #torture Help!!! by DarkRebel69: 12:48pm On Jul 27, 2017 |
Divay22: OP's condition is by no means perculiar to introverts. 1 Like |
Re: Why Don't I Forget Easily #torture Help!!! by XXXwhistleblowe(m): 12:52pm On Jul 27, 2017 |
I am not sure if I'm an introvert, I talk and play too much. People always laugh around me. |
Re: Why Don't I Forget Easily #torture Help!!! by DarkRebel69: 12:58pm On Jul 27, 2017 |
Although I hugely doubt it, I think you have a mild case of HSAM (Highly Superior Autobiographical Memory). I can't understand why you would see it as a curse: HSAM is a boon to historians and professionals whose line of work is mainly concerned with having to recall huge amount of dates and facts. You have to learn how to filter out the irrelevant memories to avoid getting overwhelmed. You can use aversion therapy i.e. whenever those distracting memories flood in, you could pinch yourself until it hurts. Rinse and repeat this process until your subconscious begins to associate pain (pinching) with the irrelevant recollections, thereby putting a stop to them. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Why Don't I Forget Easily #torture Help!!! by Nobody: 1:04pm On Jul 27, 2017 |
Op, I'm exactly like you. Mine is; usually if someone offends me either directly or indirectly my subconscious mind stores detail of the hurt and whenever I spot the person I immediately recall but in a situation the person asked for forgiveness I forgive, become friendly with the person but I never forget what transpired between us. Have come to realize it's something that isn't within one's powers to stop but you could always control how you feel. |
Re: Why Don't I Forget Easily #torture Help!!! by pjewelSilva(f): 1:05pm On Jul 27, 2017 |
I feel the same way too, it's more complicated than it seems |
Re: Why Don't I Forget Easily #torture Help!!! by Nobody: 1:18pm On Jul 27, 2017 |
XXXwhistleblowe:I hope it doesn't lead to psychopathic tendencies |
Re: Why Don't I Forget Easily #torture Help!!! by thanki410(m): 1:24pm On Jul 27, 2017 |
XXXwhistleblowe: you are wise. Love takes a part of our RIGHT judgement away, It adds to the things we either remember or forgets. People tend to remember past wrongs , ills, fights more. But forgets goods easily. A quite mind observes quick , things noisy people sometimes over look...... Every thing that catches a quiet mind sticks there. That is why you can not be in deep thoughts and then listen attentively. Your experience is normal and healthy but learn not to be too judgemental, not to be a hard hearted.... 1 Like |
Re: Why Don't I Forget Easily #torture Help!!! by XXXwhistleblowe(m): 2:23pm On Jul 27, 2017 |
DarkRebel69: Can you help me develop this? |
Re: Why Don't I Forget Easily #torture Help!!! by XXXwhistleblowe(m): 2:27pm On Jul 27, 2017 |
pjewelSilva:How do you cope with it? |
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