How will you react when you discover your hubby is secretly building a house for his siblings?

It's his siblings not a girlfriend, so no problem there . However why is he keeping it a secret from you? That's the part I would definitely have problems with.

If i find out that my WIFE is secretly doing that, i wont find it funny oooo. HELL WILL let loose oooo

Absolutely nothing. I'll fake ignorance and life goes on as usual. Since we have our own house, I won't have a problem with that. He doesn't want me to know, I'll pretend not to know. 'Am sure when the time comes he'll tell me and if he doesn't, I won't ever ask him. But I know! And "knowledge is power"!!! But the interesting thing is he doesn't know that I do.

Is he the bread winner of the entire family and do you oppose his decisions to help his siblings? If your answer is NO, then something is not just right. Have a heart-to-heart discussion with him to know his reasons for this action. Don´t undermine what a man can do, he maybe getting ready to bring in another SHE. [img][/img]

perhaps, he is afraid u might dissent of his ideas. He knows you better.

Lets be sincere, some wifes can be so wicked that they will not allow their husband to do anytin reasonable for his siblins/family. though we still have smart guys out there, who will secretly [just like this one] put up somtin big for their siblins despite their wifes attitude

This one get K-Leg oh.

~Preggy~:

How will you react when you discover your hubby is secretly building a house for his siblings?

I'll feel bad for myself because I'll know that the only reason he kept it as a secret from me was because he knew I woudn't be supportive. Which means I have failed in my fundamental duty as a wife - to support my husband in any decision he makes, even if I don't like it!

. . . and then I'll make sure he builds the exact same house for my siblings too!

The only reason he will not tell the wife is because she may disapprove of the idea.

I will not be sad about him building a house for his siblings but the idea of keeping it from me will make me angry!!!

I will also start building a house secretly to my own siblings if i have the resources. Do me i do u man no go vex.

Thanks for all your contributions

Demdem:

If i find out that my WIFE is secretly doing that, i wont find it funny oooo. HELL WILL let loose oooo

thats what i intended doing intially but on a second thot; i decided to play dumb; like i m not aware like coolier advised but the only difference this time is that we live in a rented apartment

coolier:

Absolutely nothing. I'll fake ignorance and life goes on as usual. Since we have our own house, I won't have a problem with that. He doesn't want me to know, I'll pretend not to know. 'Am sure when the time comes he'll tell me and if he doesn't, I won't ever ask him. But I know! And "knowledge is power"!!! But the interesting thing is he doesn't know that I do.

Fhemmmy:

This one get K-Leg oh.

Fhemmmy na so we see am ooo   

jumie:

The only reason he will not tell the wife is because she may disapprove of the idea.

I will not be sad about him building a house for his siblings but the idea of keeping it from me will make me angry!!!

To be sincere with you; I will disapprove the idea if he told me.  Why on earth will he build a house for his siblings when we are living in a rented apartment?   

I m not happy with him for not telling me; If i was the one who did that; I'm sure hell would have been let loose already! I guess i just act like i never knew for peace to reign!
Thanks for all your inputs     

my father also built a house for his good uncle who has been like his father figure to him since he lost his dad. we didn't get to know till the house was nearly done. we never really felt betrayed cos he never deprived us of anything (at least most of the time ) and my great uncle really deserves the house.
the most thing is that he's performing his husbandly and fatherly duties. if he is, then give him time to open to you. he prolly doesn't want to be discoureged from helping his sibblings.

~Preggy~:

How will you react when you discover your hubby is secretly building a house for his siblings?

I think you are much more infuriated with the fact that he is doing sumthing for his siblings rather than building a secret house.

is in a habbit of making grandious surprises to you/family in the past?  if not simply ask him about it

The fact that we live in a rented apartment makes it bad. I'll let him realise that there'll always be consequences when you neglect your immediate family for extended ones 'cos the immediate ones will always be there whereas the extended ones might desert you, siblings or not. But I'll forgive him after all he's still my husband.

@ Poster i think you approach him without letting loose all 'hell', ask him why he has hidden it from you and has decided to build house for his siblings first, before building his own since you guys are still living in a rented apartment. Ask him on the bed!!! before or after many, many things, , he will divulge everything you need to know.

Can only speak for myself. ALL HELL WILL BREAK LOOSE

If we can afford it then it means i am stingy,

I have learnt as hard as it may be to let my hubby do as he pleases he knows best

but

[s]I know i will secretly start building for my self too[/s], better 2 than 1 secret.

I will secretly build a house for mysel and upon completion secretly file for divorce.
I don't joke around with trust and integrity let him secretly marry his siblings since he is now secretly half partner/half husband.
Do me I do you God no go vex

I will act like i never heard, wont asked but will sit back and think if it's another pointer that i shld sit right.

Considering, they are still living in a rented apartment, the babe shld chill and save for the rainy day,

No let all hell loose, waste of energy. conserve it and just wait and see

Iranoladun:

I will secretly build a house for mysel and upon completion secretly file for divorce.
I don't joke around with trust and integrity let him secretly marry his siblings since he is now secretly half partner/half husband.
Do me I do you God no go vex

See your mouth like divorce. I agree that it is totally a trust issue. Sweeping it under the rug is the worst thing you can do. He better have a damn good reason and should be ready to not be trusted again. That is a big no-no. Especially in a marriage where everything is supposed to be transparent and money is comingled

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Outstrip:

Can only speak for myself. ALL HELL WILL BREAK LOOSE

A woman after my own heart.

@Outstrip
Why are you saying "see my mouth like divorce"
I have invested money, time energy emotion 100% of the whole of my being in my marriage with no holds bar so if my husband now decided to secretly build a house for his sibling while we are still living in a rented apartment it means he has lost respect for me and the union. I don't like being treated like trash so I will quietly devise my escape route from the fake marriage & start rebuilding my life all over again

I would ask him y he is secretly building a house, to my surprise it might just be that he is not building for his sisters but for us. Just ask. FULLSTOP

^^^^^ I tought so too, that he might be trying to surprise his wife.

Iranoladun: I will secretly build a house for mysel and upon completion secretly file for divorce.
I don't joke around with trust and integrity let him secretly marry his siblings since he is now secretly half partner/half husband.
Do me I do you God no go vex

U go tey 4 ur papa house be dat nw,so o fe ya le mo su,abi,wetin d divorce wan fetch u

Oya, let's put the cold hearted truth out there that the wife may not want to hear. The fact is that, they're his siblings and will always be his siblings. You on the other hand may not always be his wife.

These are his brothers and sisters he grew up with through thick and thin since birth, he has a moral duty assuming he is the eldest to take care of them.. Yes, he's supposed to take care of you as well but ask yourself, is your marriage rock solid? As bad as it may seem you cant blame a man for handling his responsibilities. If i was in his shoes, I might do the same thing as well even if I catch wahala from my wife.

I'll secretly monitor the house too and have an estate agent ready. Immediately he finishes gbam,I'll rent it out.

A husband building a house and not telling his wife

By the way @OP how did u get to know self