There are these two guys that I both like very much, but I can't decide who to be with.

Here are the characteristics of both.

Guy A:

He is christian and I'm muslim, but his father was a muslim. He's about to graduate from college this year. However, he is more into athletics than his academics. He's two years older. He is very good looking and very sweet. However, he messes around with a lot of girls, mainly white girls. He claims he is looking to get serious now. I am afraid he might me a cheater.

Guy B:

We are both muslim and he is quite religious. He is five years older. He was in college, but dropped out due to many reasons. Unlike the first guy, he doesn't have papers so he has to pay out of his own pocket. He says he plans on going back to get his degree. He is much brighter academically than the other guy. He is okay looking (not ugly but not handsome either). He is in-between, but I could trade good looks for a better personality. He is also athletic as well.

So there it is. I don't know what to do. I'm leaning towards the first guy more, because is more educated and with him i can be sure he might not be after papers, because he is an american citizen as well. Both guys are african and so am I. I never talekd about papers with the first guy though so he doesn't know whether I have papers or not. I just always preferred an african guy who was raised abroad like myself. Guy B has been here for six years. Guy A has been here since he was about 4 years old. Guy B's main flaw is the fact that he only completed high school and Guy A's main flaw is he is of another religion. I feel like I should be with Guy B b/c of the same religion, but I like Guy A more. I've also known Guy A longer, but I broke things off with him, b/c I was worried about the religion aspect. He wants me back, but I'm now with Guy B, but I still miss Guy A. The funny thing is when I'm talking to my new guy, I keep thinking about the first guy, because they sound so much alike in their voices and way they talk.

I would like to know other people's input.

u know urself,what u want for ur future nd d things that matter most 2 u in ur ideal man.i think u shuld weigh d two of them nd choose who's got d most nd make sure what u feel is not infatuation.

use your skull

U're confusing me here gal. Well, for all i understand from your post,and from the little i know bout luv,i know you can't love 2pple the same way at the same time,its just not possible. I want u to know that no one has it all ,even though u have guy A-Z,all will still have some things you don't like bout them. Choose wisely. Be happy!

Look at you. . . Upon all the plenty plenty men for Yankee
na Potential Taliban and Player Meji you see fall for.

Abegi. . . . go look for better person leave this two jo.

^^^ hahaha.

@ nene1: Follow your head, not your heart. Are you dating them cos you think it'd be fun or will you seriously consider marrying either of these men?

Assuming you're looking at things in the long run here, do you think you can handle being married to a Christian? It could get complicated. I had a friend who's dad was a Muslim and it sometimes got nasty.

Can you deal with a semi-illiterate? Would you find this embarassing?

You know you best, you know what you can handle. Maybe none of them is right afterall and maybe God has better things in store for you. Don't forget to pray and listen to what God is leading you to do. Good luck with that!!!

sorry baby,

these replies above are just what u need to hear. I will not belabour u by repeating them.

I only have one statement for you.
An african proverb says " you will only end up choking if u decide to plunge your two fists into ur mouth at once" meaning; you can only choose one person and make the other person an opportunity cost, a foregone alternative.


you can only try, but we only have one world; so u cant have the best of two worlds!

shilling:

^^^ hahaha.

@ nene1: Follow your head, not your heart. Are you dating them cos you think it'd be fun or will you seriously consider marrying either of these men?

Assuming you're looking at things in the long run here, do you think you can handle being married to a Christian? It could get complicated. I had a friend who's dad was a Muslim and it sometimes got nasty.

Can you deal with a semi-illiterate? Would you find this embarassing?

You know you best, you know what you can handle. Maybe none of them is right afterall and maybe God has better things in store for you. Don't forget to pray and listen to what God is leading you to do. Good luck with that!!!

Yes, actually I would. That's why I was asking this question. For me it is important that my guy is a muslim and has a college education as well. I think I will just have to break things off with this new dude as well and wait for someone better. I know I am not gonna find someone who is perfect but if he at least meets my basic criteria, then I am happy. But these guys are each lacking one of those. The first is not muslim. The second one didn't go to college. The thing is now, how do I break up with this guy. I need a way to tell him.

@poster
If u are torn btw 2 guyz,try stitch among dem. Na so u girls jst dey creat problms 4 una selves,leta una go begin dey luk 4 advice. Guy A guy B,guy B guy A. Wat of guy C and guy D? Wetin bi d time sef?abeg i wan slip

you stated that you are Muslim but I dint know how serious and knowledgeable are you about Islam?
For your info the co ran prohibited a Muslim woman to marry someone who is not Muslim regardless of their religion .
so now it is up to you to fellow you heart and marry a non Muslim and by doing so you will break a basic tenant of your faith or marry someone who belong to same faith and with who you will grow up practicing same religion and by doing so you will avoid your kids a lot hassles and confusion .

If that is the case, 4get the two of them and come for me

check properly you will still feel comfortable with one than the other,

THE AMAKA:

nene1 sexy babe!!! I've missed your hot arse.
well all i can say is, guy A seems better for you, i just hope the religion thing won't cause too many problems along the road.
like how to raise the kids in what type of backround? christian or muslim?
but you should follow your heart and Guy A seems to be the one youre feeling more.
but are you ready to be seriously committed and/or marriage?

Thanks girl. I think I will stick with guy b. The religion thing is important for me, b/c I plan on having children. And it would be hard to raise kids with the parents being of different religions. I will see how things go with guy b. Guy a is out of the pic I guess.

d.diamond:


check properly you will still feel comfortable with one than the other,

You're right. I feel a bit more comfortable with guy b cuz not only are we both muslims, we r from the sam country. Guy a is from another west african country, but i can relate to him well also.

Choose the one that cherishes you most and go.

[size=13pt]do the two of dem so you ll get plenty valentine ise [/size]

@ nene1, dont be confusion like one guy said ooo.
But seriously looks like u r in the state too _{i guess}
Can I forward u my resume maybe u can consider me? _{hope u r not too old}

sulad82i:

@ nene1, dont be confusion like one guy said ooo.
But seriously looks like u r in the state too _{i guess}
Can I forward u my resume maybe u can consider me? _{hope u r not too old}

[size=13pt]like play like play o Salud82i go turn GUY C
_{i only hope you are an educated nigerian muslim who has complete papers} [/size]

I think you've got to relax ur nerves a lil bit and take time to review what u want and what u have at hand, u know urself.
tc and i pray u get the best. insha allah (amen)

googles:

[size=13pt]like play like play o Salud82i go turn GUY C
_{i only hope you are an educated nigerian muslim who has complete papers} [/size]

I can say Alhamdulilai to that.

@nene1
no stress, i see your mind is already made up. lol

googles:

[size=13pt]like play like play o Salud82i go turn GUY C
_{i only hope you are an educated nigerian muslim who has complete papers} [/size]

lol,

sulad82i:

@ nene1, dont be confusion like one guy said ooo.
But seriously looks like u r in the state too _{i guess}
Can I forward u my resume maybe u can consider me? _{hope u r not too old}

lol, im still in college actually. anyway, thanks but ill pass.

THE AMAKA:

@nene1
no stress, i see your mind is already made up. lol

yea. ill c how things so with guy b. i thought its fair to give him a chance. and besides he has a pretty decent job. i just hope he keeps his promise about going back to school.

@ Poster

Seriously you should not choose either of them cus it appears you are yet to figure out what you really need.
What you are doing is nothing but mini mini mani mo!

Maybe this is a general problem with all women to keep countable numbers of men and do mini mani-mo on them.
I guess u wouldn't be jealous or feel otherwise if you are just one of the many options in some guys lists.

Anyway it is ma opinion sha!

@OP
Dump both Guy A and B, Go with Guy C Guy C will be myself

stalliontp:

@OP
Dump both Guy A and B, Go with Guy C Guy C will be myself

LMFAO, yeah right. *giggles*

Nene Gambia. . .read your books, concentrate on your studies and stop worrying about guys.

nene1:

Thanks girl. I think I will stick with guy b. The religion thing is important for me, b/c I plan on having children. And it would be hard to raise kids with the parents being of different religions. I will see how things go with guy b. Guy a is out of the pic I guess.

that's not exactly true, i'm a child of parents with different religions, and while it once caused a little problem AFTER we had all grown up, it was never a problem. I know of so many people that have the same situation and it never amounts to anything remotely 'hard' either on the part of the children or the parents.

Marry whichever one's c.o.c.k tastes better?