Love is a beautiful feeling that comes along with care, attention, sacrifice and lots more. Love feeling should be placed on check to avoid it from becoming an obsession.

A love obsession is a state of total dependence on someone. The obsessive lover holds firmly to their partner and is unable to accept rejection. He loves, cares, calls, protects, buys gifts, spends time with his partner but he does all these excessively. Obsession is actually a mental disorder that is caused by either low self-esteem, low confidence, fear, loneliness and bad past experiences.
         
Sometimes a relationships kicks off with love then suddenly a partner might start showing symptoms of obsession. How do you know when the love has graduated to obsession?

When a partner starts making comments like “I love you more than my own life” “If you ever leave me, I would die” “Without you I am nothing”. There is need to monitor such person. I know a guy who stabs himself each time the girlfriend threatens to leave him. That’s a case of neurosis.


Addiction to love is doubly harmful because it affects not only the couple but it hits even harder the one who must live with it. Before you probably started dating, you were free. No one snooped around your phone to check who you are chatting with. No one monitored how many of your friends you visited nor how long you spent there.

But since you met this guy, each time you  are away from the house he calls you in minutes interval to know your whereabouts like you were some baby. I am not saying that is wrong to check up on a person but when it is done out of fear, mistrust and jealousy then it becomes a problem.

Characteristics of an obsessive lover
1) They are usually over possessive. A partner is seen as a personal belonging that shouldn’t be tampered by an outsider. They can prevent their partner from associating with people.

2) They are jealous of everything and constantly face crises due to jealousy.

3) They fear that their partner might cheat so they constantly monitor their partner. 

4) They are overprotective even over unnecessary things. 

5) They can sacrifice everything just to make their partner happy.

6) They cry, worry and nag over insignificant things. This is due to insecurity feeling.          

7) They are very weak and could be suicidal.

Do you have an obsessive partner? If yes, this is what you should do.

1) Constantly reassure him that you love him as much as he loves you.

2) You can calmly discuss how you would like him to give you some space so you can live you own life.

3) Tell him that life shouldn’t be just about the both of you and there is need that you people interact with others.

4) In cases of his overprotective attitude you can explain that you can take care of yourself so he should minimize his protecting attitude.

Are you an obsessive partner? If yes, you need to work on yourself by taking the following steps.

1) First, you are an adult so you should be independent and able to control your emotions and behaviors. When you notice that you have started depending your happiness and sanity on your partner’s conduct or misconduct, you should immediately take a break.

2) Do not harass your partner all the time by sending him emails or text messages. If he is not near you, avoid asking him at all times what he is doing, where he is or with whom he is. This shows a lack of confidence in the person and a sign of uncontrolled jealousy.

3) Instead of restricting your partner from associating with other people, you should work on your insecurity feeling. Also, keep in mind that no matter what you do, some partners will not give you the attention you are looking for. 

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