Eastatlantaniqqa:
you spoke my mind.
I don't believe in karma.
Life is just random and unpredictable
You must be an atheist and also a psychologist (unproffesional)t am i right ?

bukatyne:


I don't get this post....

A man not progressing for a woman insecurity?

The man sha messed up; you don't develop someone else at the expense of yourself.

IFNOTGOD:


if u know wat it means n d deception she may have used to collect d cash den u wudnt say so, in as much as i support u in saying d man shud move on but d word pay him back is fees is a no no for me, i did same for a girl, she wud say she wud marry me, from delta i came to lag on transfer n still helped her true sch, finally she graduated last yr n i sent her to learn a trade i borrowed d cash to do dat n on feb 2017 she ran away wit a guy she felt he had more cash n had to lie to friends about me so dey wudnt blame her n by March 2017 dey broke up, her friend called to say she was suffering n i sent her some money n she said she has repented n ready to go learn d work which she stopped half way, she begged to come visit n i allowed her n den i realised she fooled me again i got angry n beat her cos for d two yrs n 6 months i dated her i have always been abused by her, checked her fone saw d oda guy n oda guys pics n cudnt find mine n d pain was just too much i beat her n in july on my birthday seh refused to post my pics wit d excuse dat we are many she cant post only my own on her dp, n den revelations started coming out how she slept wit a guy she told me was just a friend, i forgave her n a week later she started again with d insult but den wat pained me most was dat she goes about telling d new toasters how am older dan her, where as i told her my age n asked her if she was ok
she said yes, now tell me fortune how much can she pay me back, d only thing u can tell me is work away.but its not easy cos two yrs n 6 months is not a joke not to talk of 12yrs

WhiteLavender:
Please, I want to understand what kind of promise a 14year old could have made to a man, of which he want to actually wants to hold her to it.
As for as I am concerned, this may not even be a case of wickedness or anything like that.
She was a minor, she is an orphan and she was scared, please tell me how anyone could put 100% blame on her? As far as I know, that guy took advantage of her and as a child, she didn't know better and I honestly do not blame her.
And to everyone out there, do not go out of your way to help anyone expecting to collect in the future(payback).

GoingPlaces247:
Please People sweden or Canada, which is the best to work and immigrate to? I need answers from all nairalanders. Please show some love and care.

bukatyne:


The Karma that will punish her is doing press up.

So she can't turn around and train him to 'her level'?

FortuneTeller:
Is marriage slavery? He was not forced to help her. She is not obligated to marry him. However the woman should pay him for all her school fees, to have a clear conscience.

MissRaine69:
This where things go wrong for us. I have read and know of many a story of how a man has hustled a lot to help his woman/wife through school when things are said and done the couple have settled and have not looked back. Matters can't be forced of course but what off loyalty?

I recall a link that was sent to me about a 11 year old who was a very promising student but was married off due to poverty. Her mother in law & husband who were both illiterate trades and hustled to send her to school , she completed her medical training and once working she helped & supported her husband to go to school. He works in a bank she is a doctor.

Where would she be without him? You can't be ashamed of where you came from but we are notorious for doing this . If it's such a big thing for her its simple she shows her gratitude by returning all he spent on her. She was an investment it paid off so she can repay the loan. He moves on and so does she.

IFNOTGOD:


if u know wat it means n d deception she may have used to collect d cash den u wudnt say so, in as much as i support u in saying d man shud move on but d word pay him back is fees is a no no for me, i did same for a girl, she wud say she wud marry me, from delta i came to lag on transfer n still helped her true sch, finally she graduated last yr n i sent her to learn a trade i borrowed d cash to do dat n on feb 2017 she ran away wit a guy she felt he had more cash n had to lie to friends about me so dey wudnt blame her n by March 2017 dey broke up, her friend called to say she was suffering n i sent her some money n she said she has repented n ready to go learn d work which she stopped half way, she begged to come visit n i allowed her n den i realised she fooled me again i got angry n beat her cos for d two yrs n 6 months i dated her i have always been abused by her, checked her fone saw d oda guy n oda guys pics n cudnt find mine n d pain was just too much i beat her n in july on my birthday seh refused to post my pics wit d excuse dat we are many she cant post only my own on her dp, n den revelations started coming out how she slept wit a guy she told me was just a friend, i forgave her n a week later she started again with d insult but den wat pained me most was dat she goes about telling d new toasters how am older dan her, where as i told her my age n asked her if she was ok
she said yes, now tell me fortune how much can she pay me back, d only thing u can tell me is work away.but its not easy cos two yrs n 6 months is not a joke not to talk of 12yrs

for a guy to b abused by a lady for 2yrs not dat am crippled or she feeds me o,infact money n fud stuff she will use it to feed guys n my shirt she wud borrow to male friends though i have let go cos she wanted to leave but d hurt is there, relationship is not same as injury not all heal, in my own case i had to move on for two weeks now i have been recovering daily n praying for help, now i have girls coming but i cant really do anything cos i like to b alone. DEC her pay was higher to wat i sent to is more dan wat i gave to my mum*3 n to my younger ones hmmm i no know d percentage but i knew i did eveil to my mum to give an ungrateful girl more cash dan my own mum.

djon78:



you know the reality is that life as we see it has ordained and brought you as a good gift to that your ex in form of true love but she by her actions rejected this wonderful offer that life brought her. Years to come she will look back with regret for all her misdeeds if she doesn't change.

And you will definitely get a woman 100times better than her, for sure and with all sincerity mark it somewhere.

FortuneTeller:
Is marriage slavery? He was not forced to help her. She is not obligated to marry him. However the woman should pay him for all her school fees, to have a clear conscience.

djon78:


My dear we humans are the reason why our world is so messed up. Selfishness, selfish interest every where. I will keep on saying this, Love is the greatest thing on this earth. As far as I am concerned, 1 Corinthians 13 starting from verse 4 is one of the greatest truth out there. Love is patient, kind, not boastful, proud, not rude nor selfish........etc. Honestly if we humans begin to judge and way our actions with the qualities shown in this chapter w will have good relationships, good marriages, good homes, good children and good humans. But look around and see the reverse is the case, and that is why the world and humanity is so messed up.








Don't take this as a slight. But please clarify Are you disagreeing or agreeing I got a bit confused.

mysteryman2014:


True marriage shouldn't be a bondage, however it appears from the narrative that marriage was part of the deal as the lawyer says with marriage on the horizon.

It is actually a tough one though, but the lawyer should see it as her cross to bear, for without the proceed from the truck sacrifices there is no way she could 've achieved that. Moreover how do u monetise the sacrifices of the man.

bukatyne:


I am not blaming the man for the help; I am 'blaming' him for neglecting himself.

WhiteLavender:
Please, I want to understand what kind of promise a 14year old could have made to a man, of which he want to actually wants to hold her to it.
As for as I am concerned, this may not even be a case of wickedness or anything like that.
She was a minor, she is an orphan and she was scared, please tell me how anyone could put 100% blame on her? As far as I know, that guy took advantage of her and as a child, she didn't know better and I honestly do not blame her.
And to everyone out there, do not go out of your way to help anyone expecting to collect in the future(payback).

FortuneTeller:


I even missed the part that she was 14 years old when this began. The man is a pedophile. He should release her.

FortuneTeller:


I even missed the part that she was 14 years old when this began. The man is a pedophile. He should release her.

pcguru1:


Am not really an atheist , but I haven't been to church in years I'm not sure what I am sef, as for the psychologist part, I studied business admin, and BF Skinner caught my attention so I read a summary of this Human behaviour and some psychology to some point. Plus I tend to observe people a lot.

pcguru1:


Am not really an atheist , but I haven't been to church in years I'm not sure what I am sef, as for the psychologist part, I studied business admin, and BF Skinner caught my attention so I read a summary of this Human behaviour and some psychology to some point. Plus I tend to observe people a lot.

daarworld:
her head is inching her. Abi she wan die ni. All dis lady of now are days sha.

nerodenero:
The man didn't mess up. I believe the mman would have made his intentions known before now. If that was the case, the lady in question should have stopped any assistance from the Fruit-seller-turned-truck-driver since she knew shed definitely turn down the man's offer.

Verdict- Why smell what you don't want to eat? If she could smell it, then she should be ready to eat it. If she could receive help for 12years from a man, then she can do the marriage. Watch as karma fall on her soon.